Essentially whats happening is there are things she knows she is not allowed to do (eg climb on the coffee table, stand on chairs, put things in her mouth) that she continuously tries to do.
So far our strategy has been:
First we tell her "Name, we dont do x. Y could happen" and then tell her what we want her to do eg "sit on your bottom". She will sit down, then smile and stand up again while looking us straight in the eye. We say it to her again this time more firmly with a "no". Again she will sit back down for a moment but then laugh and stand up again. Its all a game to her to see what we do.
That's when we remove her from the situation and try to distract her with something else. Sometimes she throws a tantrum which we ignore, sometimes the distraction works. But within half an hour she is doing that thing again and it all starts again!
I thought it was a just phase, but we have been consistent and its still going after 2 months - I'm wondering if we need something more, I don't know a time out maybe?
What will a 20m old respond to? How do other people deal with this? Please tell me I'm not the only one with such a stubborn defiant toddler!
Edited by JBaby, 17 December 2012 - 12:35 AM.