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#1 E1ise

Posted 16 December 2012 - 11:46 AM

Hi all,

We’re  a lesbian couple in our early thirties who are hoping to start a  family  in the very near future. We’ve been together for nine years, one  of us a  scientist, the other a classical musician retraining as a  librarian.  We’ve been thinking seriously about making babies for about  two years  now. We did have a donor lined up, we'd been in discussion  for over a  year and were going to start trying in January, but his  situation has  suddenly changed. The result is, we're all ready to go,  have put in lots  of thought and preparation, it's the right time in our  lives ... and we  really need some kind person to help us!

We’re now looking for  someone who is willing to make an altruistic  donation and not get too  complicated about it, although occasional  contact would be fine. As we  are likely to have to move around a bit  for work, co-parenting would be  difficult, but we don’t want a totally  anonymous donor as we want to be  able to answer any questions our  children may have about their  biological father. There would be no  legal or financial obligation on  your part, however we would ask as a  minimum that you stay in touch with  us.

We’d prefer a private arrangement at this stage rather than  going  through a clinic, as there’s no reason on our part to believe  there are  fertility issues! We’d ask you to agree to some health checks  first,  for which we would cover the costs.  

We like doing lots of things together and with our friends, like   gardening, cooking, bicycle commuting, growing our own veggies, playing   chamber music, singing silly songs, knitting, reading, having breakfast   on the veranda, watching the baby currawongs… We’re a bit nerdy-geeky,   but very health conscious, and we like lifting weights and have  recently  learnt how to jog.

If anyone thinks they might be able to help us, or could put us in touch with someone, please send us a message.

Elise and Nadia.

#2 shelly1170

Posted 18 December 2012 - 05:27 PM

Just wanted to pop in and with you all the very best!  The journey to parenthood takes many forms.

Can I ask if you will be self inseminating or going through IUI or similar?  I am currently undergoing IVF in Bangkok and couldn't be happier with the treatment.  They do IUI at the clinic and can also source donor sperm.  PM me if you would like some info.  

I'm sure you would have already considered this but I would suggest that you have a legal contract drawn up by an experienced lawyer.  This will protect your future child from any potential custody disputes from the donor and/or their family, regulate contact and also give the donor peace of mind.  There was a case in recent years where an a man donated to friends who then separated and the custodial parent sued, successfully, for child support from him.


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