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#1 BexiG

Posted 16 December 2012 - 07:53 AM

My DH and I are in a stalemate on this: my absolute favourite girl's name (and the name that for years I've been saying that I would give any future daughter) is ESME.

My husband (and my parents, his parents and pretty much anybody over the age of 30) is horrified and say that the only thing they can think of is 'Esme Waston' from 'A Country Practice'.

Of course, anybody younger than 30 thinks that I got the name from those damned 'Twilight' books, so no matter which way I turned, I'm cursed by popular culture as far as the adults are concerned.

My logic is that a) once Potential Baby Girl is named, hopefully nobody will be heartless enough to keep complaining about her name and b) her peers will * definitely* be far too young to ever have heard of ACP or Twilight, so she won't get teased for that reason.

So I need a neutral opinion. What does everyone think about 'Esme' as a girl's name? Am I dooming Potential Baby Girl to a lifetime of mockery, or will the adults get over it by the time they meet her? Should I take my husband's adamant hatred of the name into consideration? Compromise? Or just name my next cat Esme? Enquiring minds want to know!!

#2 Super Cat

Posted 16 December 2012 - 08:05 AM

I really like Esme. I grew up in the 'A Country Practice' era and it doesn't make me think of Esme Watson at all. Tell everyone you really like Twilight so now you want to call her 'Renesme,' the'll beg you to call her Esme Tounge1.gif

#3 mrsmuffintop

Posted 16 December 2012 - 08:06 AM

A friend named her baby daughter Esme a year ago. I must say that my first thought was not ACP or Twilight but Esme Squalor from Lemony Snicket.

However that has passed and I now think of it just as a pretty name for a beautiful girl.

I say if you love the name just go for it. People will get used to it. I'm guessing that Twilight will not be an enduring cultural phenomenon, and anyone born after 1985 will have never heard of Esme from A Country Practice.

#4 B.ChickenBoss

Posted 16 December 2012 - 08:09 AM

I don't mind it. I don't think of Twilight because I've never seen it.

For something similar but a little different how about Elke?

#5 Cranky Old Woman

Posted 16 December 2012 - 08:11 AM

I'm with your husband.  Just no. xmas_blink.gif

#6 Ingrid the Swan

Posted 16 December 2012 - 08:15 AM

Also Esme Hoggett from Babe...

I don't like it but even if I did my answer would be the same - better to find a name you and your DH both agree on, even if it wouldn't be your first choice, than to waste a lot of energy trying to convince him to give in and use a name he hates.

#7 Neeily

Posted 16 December 2012 - 08:15 AM

I really love that name too OP. If you like it go for it original.gif

#8 Nasty nut

Posted 16 December 2012 - 08:18 AM

I'm not against the name, but I am against one half of a couple pushing a name the other half hates. I think you have to find something you both like.

I was the same about Elsie for a girl. I was even happy to go with Elizabeth after DP's mother, so she could be Elsie for short, but DP gets an equal say, and it's not to be.

#9 prettypenny

Posted 16 December 2012 - 08:19 AM

I like it but I love old fashioned names. biggrin.gif

#10 FiveAus

Posted 16 December 2012 - 08:23 AM

I'm sorry, but I think it's awful. Old fashioned and ugly.

#11 Ice Queen

Posted 16 December 2012 - 08:26 AM

I know the old fashioned name thing is very popular....Grace, Ava......but there are some that IMO became unpopular for a reason and Esme is one of them.  Definitely NMS.

#12 Imaginary friend

Posted 16 December 2012 - 08:29 AM

Cant say I like it much - but Im not into what  I call hard core vintage names - Its not Twilight to me as I never watched/read them,  I do remember Esme Watson - but its more just the stodgy old fashionedness of it that doesnt appeal to me.


But then many people do like vintage names so cant see why child would be mocked or teased more than any other name - and those that dont like it will get used to it once child arrives.

If I did like the name, those things wouldnt stop me using it - but if my husband was so against it, that would - both parents need to compromise and the name be one they at least like and not hate. If you have to give up your very favourite naem to acheive this compromise, then so be it - as you say, name your cat Esme instead biggrin.gif

Edited by 4kidlets, 16 December 2012 - 08:32 AM.


#13 Iris37

Posted 16 December 2012 - 08:33 AM

Esme is a pretty sounding name, I like it  biggrin.gif

#14 luluandjake

Posted 16 December 2012 - 08:33 AM

My name is Erin and I was known as Esme growing up, some people joking that it was Esme Watson but it never bothered me and still doesn't (and I still get called it by my family)...

Go for it! original.gif

#15 baddmammajamma

Posted 16 December 2012 - 08:38 AM

I'm of the strong belief that parents should find a name that both of them love.

As lovely as you think Esme is, it is just one of MANY gorgeous names in the universe. Find one that excites both you and your husband.

Have fun with the search!

#16 Bam1

Posted 16 December 2012 - 08:40 AM

I have given my DD a similar name, ticks all the EB boxes except it is not an old fashioned name that is liked (and it is not a princess name), it routinely, like Esme, comes up in the threads 'which old fashioned names should never come back' biggrin.gif . I loved the name it reflected some of my heritage and although it was the only name I really had to think 'can I do this', I haven't regretted it, my DD couldn't have a more perfect name.

Esme came up for me but I couldn't get past the Country Practice connection. If you love the name and can talk your DD around, use it. It is more important what the name says to you and your DH then others.

Edited by Bam1, 16 December 2012 - 08:40 AM.


#17 Missy Shelby

Posted 16 December 2012 - 08:42 AM

IMO no one should be forced to name their child something that they really don't like.

For the record Esme, I dislike alot.  Sorry OP.

#18 jazzann

Posted 16 December 2012 - 10:25 AM

i had a name i loved and my dh hated and it caused so much angst and in the end he hated it even more as i couldnt let it go. in the end we used it as a middle name and i still love it but i love her first name more
dont waste your energy arguing. leave it, it may grow on him and spend your time finding a name you both like . im nit a fan of esme but i do really like edith or edie. goodluck


#19 la di dah

Posted 16 December 2012 - 10:28 AM

Are we talking ez-may (which I love) or ez-mee? (not so much)

Anyway I personally love Esmé a lot. Much more than some other, more popular E's.

But if your husband hates it, I would probably go running with the may syllable to see if he found May or Maeve etc. more digestible?

#20 Tinned asparagus

Posted 16 December 2012 - 10:50 AM

I don't mind it.

I always think of it as a short name for Esmerelda, which is a bit much for most people too.

How about Emerald?

#21 No girls here

Posted 16 December 2012 - 10:56 AM

I thought of A Country Practice too, and I never even watched the show.  I like plenty of old lady names but I'm not really a fan of that one.

#22 BeachedAsBro

Posted 16 December 2012 - 10:56 AM

Yep, nix it & find a name you both love.

#23 José

Posted 16 December 2012 - 10:56 AM

I think Esmeralda is a wonderful name for a cat!
I really think you can't choose a name ur partner hates.

#24 MikRo

Posted 16 December 2012 - 11:12 AM

I have a cousin spelt Esmée which I like. Pronounced Es-may

#25 Gudrun

Posted 16 December 2012 - 11:35 AM

The thing about the character in ACP is that the whole idea was that her name should be ugly/old.

However, that was then and this is now.  Dicko/Ian Dickson has an Esme so I guess there must be some people that see it as retro cool.

While, I too, would be horrified at the prospect of a grandchild getting this name I would still keep my mouth shut and would be totally confident that the child would not be doomed to anything.

Your only problem is that your DH has a hatred for it.  You might have to deal with that.






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