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Things to do before you give birth for the first time.
Self Indulgent inspiration needed.

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#1 rabbit hyde

Posted 14 December 2012 - 02:26 PM

We're down to the three week mark (if you go by the due date) for the impending arrival of our first.

I've decided that I will spend the last three weeks being incredibly self indulgent and enjoying the time I have to be frivolous and spontaneous and not having to share.

So far all I can come up with is taking myself out to lunch, and rolling around the couch watching movie marathons whilst eating chips and dip.

What things did you do for yourself or wish you had done before the arrival of your first child?

#2 Guest_divineM_*

Posted 14 December 2012 - 02:27 PM

slept in every chance I had...

#3 solongsuckers

Posted 14 December 2012 - 02:49 PM


#4 jobo77

Posted 14 December 2012 - 02:54 PM

Go to the movies... over 3 years later and it is still something I rarely get a chance to do! Maybe a pedicure or manicure as they will be the last things on your mind for a few months once bub arrives probably. Sleep will definitely be prioritised!  original.gif

#5 Born Slippy

Posted 14 December 2012 - 02:55 PM

Sleep. Go out for dinner. Go to the movies. Enjoy long showers. Read a book. Go shopping.

#6 harryhoo

Posted 14 December 2012 - 02:56 PM

Get your hair cut, nails done and a massage.... if your funds extend that far. Read a book or even a magazine and enjoy doing stuff by yourself... for the last time... ever.

#7 maybeonemore

Posted 14 December 2012 - 02:58 PM

Get your hair done, massage, all the pamper things that you wont get time for in the first few months of the birth original.gif

Also cook yourself up some meals for the freezer.

#8 mivimummy

Posted 14 December 2012 - 03:01 PM

Yes, yes, yes to the sleep!

Also - enjoy eating meals in a leisurely manner, uninterrupted and still hot.

Solo shopping without feeding times, pooey nappies or whiny toddlers to think about.

Have conversations with people - on the phone, face to face, whatever... enjoy being able to talk without crying (early stages) or someone calling "Mummy Mummy MUMMMMMMY" the second you pick pick up the phone.

Shower or bathe whenever you like and for however long you want.  The put on clean clothes knowing they will probably stay clean and not be puked or pooed on original.gif

Enjoy the serenity  wink.gif

#9 Guest_- Poppy -_*

Posted 14 December 2012 - 03:03 PM

Id get my hair done.

A pedicure

Have a long lunch in a nice cafe.

Have long baths.

Read a book.

Cook food and put it in the freezer.

Go to the movies

Catch up with my girlfriends for dinner and go out with my hubby for dinner.

Go for a swim at the pool or the beach.

Sleep in/ lie in.

#10 lovedupmumma

Posted 14 December 2012 - 03:03 PM

Congratulations! We must be due around the same time, I've got around 3 weeks to go with number 3.

I'd get a haircut and any waxing etc you want to get done now - seriously hard to do with a newborn!
I second the suggestion for sleep, and lots of it. Cannot overstate this one.
Basically anyting practical that you're thinking "I'll do that when after the baby comes", DO IT NOW, or better still ask DH or others to do it!
Then put your feet up, let others do anything they offer to do. That goes for after bub arrives too.
Congratulations, and all the best for a smooth and uncomplicated birth.

#11 SylviaPlath

Posted 14 December 2012 - 03:04 PM

I can tell you what we don't do now that DS is here
-go out for dinner wih partner/friends
-go to the movies
-have adult conversations
-have a long hot shower
-finish a meal uninteruppted
-did I say sleep?

Obviously, some things we do, on the very odd rare occassion.

#12 lovedupmumma

Posted 14 December 2012 - 03:05 PM

Oh good one, this too! You'll thank yourself.

Cook food and put it in the freezer.

I must do that too, thanks Poppy.

#13 nik_klinger

Posted 14 December 2012 - 03:11 PM

QUOTE (- Poppy - @ 14/12/2012, 04:03 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Id get my hair done.

A pedicure

Have a long lunch in a nice cafe.

Have long baths.

Read a book.

Cook food and put it in the freezer.

Go to the movies

Catch up with my girlfriends for dinner and go out with my hubby for dinner.

Go for a swim at the pool or the beach.

Sleep in/ lie in.

This and then go to the movies again.

#14 Goggie

Posted 14 December 2012 - 03:18 PM

QUOTE (clm1982 @ 14/12/2012, 03:58 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Get your hair done, massage, all the pamper things that you wont get time for in the first few months of the birth original.gif

Also cook yourself up some meals for the freezer.

All of the above:) plus have a long long hot shower (I've forgotten what a shower longer than 3 mins actually feels like). Shop up on staples like toilet paper, nappies etc as its had trying to grocery shop for larger items with a pram. And sleep. A lot!

Enjoy it as much as you can as I thought I had 2 weeks left and baby came 1.5 weeks early!

Best of luck for a smooth birth and recovery.

#15 axiomae

Posted 14 December 2012 - 03:21 PM

What everyone else has said! Do it all! 6 months after DD and we're going out together for dinner for the first time. Haven't been to a movie in all this time. Cook meals, enjoy them later.

And one other thing - catch up with all your childless girlfriends for coffee/cake/an indulgent evening of girl talk. I haven't seen childless girlfriends for more than an hour here or there since DD was born. We have different social lives now. They're night owls and Im at home with bub at night. All socialising I do now is with my parent girlfriends and mothers group, which is awesome, but I miss long yarns and cocktail nights with the girls.

#16 noi'mnot

Posted 14 December 2012 - 03:23 PM

In addition to everything that everybody else has said, try to get the chance to enjoy some evening-only type things, which you won't get for a little while.

I also enjoyed just going out to the shops on a whim and spending a few hours there. It'll be awhile before you get to just go out and not think about anything else.

And another extra vote for plenty of lovely sleep! original.gif

#17 noi'mnot

Posted 14 December 2012 - 03:25 PM

QUOTE (20%Cooler @ 14/12/2012, 04:23 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Lot's of people are saying sleep.

I can tell you now that if you do get used to getting loads of sleep now, you will be in for a BIG shock when your baby is born.

Instead I would gradually begin training yourself to wake early and get up at regular hrs through the night (which you may need to atm anyway bladderwise).

My bladder and SPD got me prepared for waking up at awkward times of the day and night. I think the thing about the sleep that you can have at the end of pregnancy, though, is that you're not listening out for anything/anyone, which to me sounds like a dream come true! original.gif

#18 Berndt Tőst

Posted 14 December 2012 - 03:27 PM

Day trips (if you're up to it). Something to look back on if you get cabin ever down the track. Good luck.

#19 SilverSky

Posted 14 December 2012 - 03:31 PM

Sleep. That is all.

#20 zingy

Posted 14 December 2012 - 03:39 PM

Sit quietly and enjoy the serenity of your own personal space...

Enjoy sleeping in your bed cuddling up to your partner without someone coming between you...

Appreciate that you can do your Christmas shopping slowly without rushing, rushing, rushing...

Actually sit down and read a magazine from cover to cover in peace (as compared to flicking through it at a million miles an hour, thinking I must come back and read that sometime)...do this in a coffee shop while enjoying a large hot chocolate with extra marshmallows...

All the best. You'll love every minute of it!

#21 FarmBaby

Posted 14 December 2012 - 03:49 PM

Revel in a clean house. I really miss being able to walk through the house in the middle of the night in the dark and not cripple myself on lego or Matchbox cars.

#22 NunSoFeral

Posted 14 December 2012 - 03:54 PM

Coat everything in teflon - even the dog.
Life is about to get gaggingly messy

Embrace your inner wanton-hussy and seduce your husband.  Our children are collectively known as coitus interruptus for a reason.

Revel in the peace as you visit the bathroom alone. Don't snigger.
I haven't had a peaceful movement in eight years

These last two items reference the notorious "bum switch" that triggers baby wailing, children fighting/vomiting/shoving things up their noses, the very moment your derriere hits a flat surface.

ETA - Enjoy the freedom of nicking off with just some $ shoved in your back pocket.  
When baby comes, a quick pop to the shops becomes a expedition of six-months-to nepal proportions. Actually a sherpa is a very good idea.

Edited by gettheetoanunnery, 14 December 2012 - 03:59 PM.

#23 feralisles

Posted 14 December 2012 - 03:56 PM

The self indulgent things like haircuts and manicures are nice and you might as well do them while you can.  I'd also be thinking about the practical things though OP - like getting your financial affairs up to date, servicing the car, going to the dentist etc.  Even getting a few meals in to the freezer would be a good idea.  It's amazing how much of your time is consumed by looking after a newborn!  Enjoy your last few weeks of freedom OP!

#24 Nerileeway

Posted 14 December 2012 - 04:10 PM

I went away for a romantic weekend with my partner.

#25 Feral-as-Meggs

Posted 14 December 2012 - 04:14 PM

On the practical side do a huge shop for heavy/bulky items like washing powder, toilet paper, pet food, garbage bags, etc - think 3 months at least.  

Set up a breast- feeding station for the couch (water jug,  snacks, terry squares, footstool, remotes, phone charger).

Do anything that's due in the next few months (car service, insurance etc)

Pop in and see your local daycares (if you plan on using ) and put your name down.  

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