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Why You're Never Failing as a Mother
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#1 Praetor VitaeChel

Posted 14 December 2012 - 06:38 AM

I needed to read this today. I slept about 4 hours last night (2nd night in a row). DS had a tantrum during his swim lessons (he loves swimming, but isn't so keen on following instructions  mad.gif ). I didn't have time to do my own workout again. Nearly had some idiot turn into me after leaving YMCA and they tooted me (I had right of way, but hey minor detail  rolleyes.gif ). Haven't managed to get any housework done and DS is running around without pants AGAIN (it's winter here and cold). He is also eating the gluten free lemon cake I baked yesterday and spreading crumbs from one room to another - I needed a snack for him and I am out of corn or rice cakes (Luckily dog is "cleaning up most of the crumbs)! Due to my head feeling like someone ran into my face with a bulldozer I have let him watch waaaay too much TV. I am feeling homesick and missing my family. I decided I just needed to sit and was feeling like crying - this article came up on Facebook. It is a great reminder that we can only do our best as parents.
Why you're never failing as a mother

I thought I should share - just in case anyone else is having a "I am a Crappy Parent" day. wink.gif

#2 axiomae

Posted 14 December 2012 - 06:43 AM

Love it original.gif

#3 BearBait

Posted 14 December 2012 - 06:50 AM

Hey OP. it's -20dC where I am. Why does it always feel harder in the winter?

#4 Praetor VitaeChel

Posted 14 December 2012 - 06:58 AM

Ooo Bearbait  hhugs.gif - it's only about 7c here, so relatively warm. Plus at least today it's sunny (yesterday was cold and rainy). Winter blues suck.. but knowing family is far away is so much harder

#5 CherrySunday

Posted 14 December 2012 - 07:11 AM

Thanks OP, today was a good day to read this!

#6 WizzFizz

Posted 14 December 2012 - 07:18 AM

I REALLY needed to read that too.
Thanks original.gif

#7 Jenflea

Posted 14 December 2012 - 07:19 AM

Yet another great sig Browncoat.  Evie looks SUPER happy and excited about Christmas!

Back on topic, the link won't load for me sad.gif

#8 Jenflea

Posted 14 December 2012 - 07:23 AM

Took ages, but was worth it in the end.

#9 ShamelesslyPooks

Posted 14 December 2012 - 07:29 AM

Oh my god. I think I'm going to print and frame this one.

I often feel bad because I just CBF with so much stuff... I will try not to, now.

#10 BearBait

Posted 14 December 2012 - 07:44 AM

OP your sig says USA since Oct 2012? Is this your first time away? After all my excitement to get somewhere new I found first 3 months really tough (homesick) & it took me a good year to settle into the new way of life.
Have flown my mum & DHs mum over for visits - that has been excellent.

#11 71Cath

Posted 14 December 2012 - 07:57 AM

Thanks OP, I have bookmarked it so I can read it again

#12 CherrySunday

Posted 14 December 2012 - 08:03 AM

QUOTE (Jenflea @ 14/12/2012, 08:19 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Yet another great sig Browncoat.  Evie looks SUPER happy and excited about Christmas!

Back on topic, the link won't load for me sad.gif

haha, it's the same reaction as when we went to see Santa, both times - at her request!

#13 Ebomb

Posted 14 December 2012 - 08:05 AM

Loved this

#14 FeralAlpacaWarrior

Posted 14 December 2012 - 08:06 AM

Thanks OP, needed that today (DD2 had a reflux vomit all over me in bed at 5:30am) and like others, I have bookmarked it.

#15 Praetor VitaeChel

Posted 14 December 2012 - 08:46 AM

QUOTE (BearBait @ 14/12/2012, 07:44 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
OP your sig says USA since Oct 2012? Is this your first time away? After all my excitement to get somewhere new I found first 3 months really tough (homesick) & it took me a good year to settle into the new way of life.
Have flown my mum & DHs mum over for visits - that has been excellent.

Bearbait - No, not my first time. But first time with children.  sad.gif

So glad this is helping other people today too  biggrin.gif

#16 FeralSis

Posted 14 December 2012 - 03:53 PM

Great article.

Thanks for sharing!

#17 Illiterati

Posted 14 December 2012 - 04:19 PM

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Edited by winterlong, 14 December 2012 - 04:34 PM.


#18 Lyra

Posted 14 December 2012 - 04:26 PM

QUOTE (winterlong @ 14/12/2012, 05:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
This is a bullsh*t article as are the reactions it evokes.  I am failing as a parent. And if I told you how I fell short today (which in no way compromised my children's safety, security or happiness) and so feel like sh*t, I would not have anyone here pointing to that article and tell me to be kinder to myself and that I am not failing as a parent.



I am sorry to hear that you had a really tough day sad.gif  I don't know what to say because I don't have the full circumstances but you are probably not failing as bad as you think especially as safety, security and happiness were not compromised

#19 babychacha

Posted 14 December 2012 - 04:27 PM

Sorry you having a bad time Winterlong.





I loved the article and felt it rang true for me.

#20 Illiterati

Posted 14 December 2012 - 04:41 PM

Thanks. I am just having a boo hoo to me moment and that article didnt help. I'll get over myself after a vino or two tonight.



#21 Illiterati

Posted 14 December 2012 - 04:42 PM

Thanks. I am just having a boo hoo to me moment and that article didnt help. I'll get over myself after a vino or two tonight.



#22 FeralLIfeHacker

Posted 14 December 2012 - 04:46 PM

Just on the pinterest mention.  Pinterest makes me feel like sh*t.  It's just another bunch of stuff I'll never get done. It's online clutter, I've decluttered it, gone minimal. Goodbye Pinterest.

#23 Canberra Chick

Posted 14 December 2012 - 06:34 PM

Thanks for posting this, I needed a wee boost.

#24 Escapin

Posted 14 December 2012 - 06:53 PM

Yep, just what I needed to read too. Now is there one on why I'm not a crap wife? Need to read that too...

#25 Praetor VitaeChel

Posted 15 December 2012 - 01:19 AM

Escapin - I might need the one about being a crap wife today too. I was a def Beotch to DH this morning. (After him getting grouchy at 7am and going back to bed I decided to teach him a lesson and let him sleep in - now no lunch, forgot his water bottle and I was rather frosty to him  dev (6).gif I need to clean house and get something nice for dinner as he has also invited some people over from his church. Much as I am feeling evil and grouchy, I will actually do this).

Winterlong - Sorry you are having a bad day and article made you feel worse. I hope the wine helped.

I don't use Pin interest. I don't need reminders of things I am not achieving atm.

Glad it made other people feel bit better  hhugs.gif




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