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#1 slummymummy

Posted 13 December 2012 - 03:08 PM

Do you discuss your child's results with other parents? Do you ask them about their kid's results?

#2 strawberry blondes

Posted 13 December 2012 - 03:10 PM

No and no.

#3 slummymummy

Posted 13 December 2012 - 03:13 PM

The reason I ask is we had someone ask two of us. I thought it was poor manners.

#4 ellebelle

Posted 13 December 2012 - 03:14 PM

No. DS is in Yr 2 and I'm not putting much credence in them so far so am not really interested in others and it's none of my business anyway. I just need to understand how my child is going which is difficult with these politically correct docements.  This year he has gone from "Developing" to "Very High" in art. I get the feeling we got someone else's result this semester since even he says "I suck at art Mum".

#5 Grobanite

Posted 13 December 2012 - 03:15 PM

No never ask and never tell. However when My son gets a glowing report I want to tell everyone and gloat but alas I never do.

#6 i-candi

Posted 13 December 2012 - 03:24 PM

No and no.

I put on Facebook that DD got an amazing report with great grades.  She didn't get all A's but what she did get I think was amazing original.gif

#7 Poughkeepsie

Posted 13 December 2012 - 03:31 PM

No, not even if asked outright. It's not a competition, even though others try to make it one!

#8 Nora.

Posted 13 December 2012 - 03:55 PM

I'd ask a good friend. Not in order to compete, because I'm nosey & curious as to how others are doing.

I wouldn't care if a good friend asked me.

#9 ElevenYears

Posted 13 December 2012 - 03:57 PM

I don't mind asking/telling.  I care about my friends' kids too, and it's lovely to hear when they're going well, or to be a sounding board if it's not.

It's only a competition if you're playing a game, and generally when I talk with friends about our kids, we're not.

If I did ask, it would be along the lines of "was X happy with her report card?" rather than "How many As did X get?"

#10 BadCat

Posted 13 December 2012 - 04:00 PM

I wouldn't ask anyone other than a good friend but yes, I've discussed reports with other mums at pick up in the past if someone has brought it up.  Why not?  

Quite funny actually.  I caught one of them in a lie.  I never let on that I knew she was lying about her kid getting As though.  If she wants to lie about it that's her business.  laughing2.gif

#11 Velvetta

Posted 13 December 2012 - 04:07 PM

No way! But if a good friend mentions her son's I might mention mine. As it happens he got all As, but I wouldn't be concerned if they were all Cs.

#12 Ange

Posted 13 December 2012 - 04:08 PM

I wouldn't care if anyone asked. I don't see the big deal. I've asked close friends to see if they were happy..

#13 Julie3Girls

Posted 13 December 2012 - 04:14 PM

I don't mind being asked by friends, who are actually interested in the results because they are interested in my child.

Not particularly interested when someone is asking simply because they are trying to scope out if their child is "better" than mine.

In general chit chat, I see no problem with asking "Are you happy with X's report?"  It's not asking for details, it's not asking how they went. A parent can be perfectly happy with a academically not so great report if their child has improved.

With my close friends, yes we discuss it. In fact, my best friend and I usually read each other's kids reports.

#14 livvie7586

Posted 13 December 2012 - 04:19 PM

i asked if a couple of friends had got their kids (ours are sent out), which got answered with a yes, we're really happy with the results?  you?  yeah, they were good, about what i expected.

Asking exactly what the marks were is a different kettle of fish all together, unless it's between really close friends

#15 pencil

Posted 13 December 2012 - 04:20 PM

A simple, "How did she/he go?" is fine. Asking for specific details is a bit rude. But then I've had the teacher/principal discuss my kids grades in earshot of other parents. So it's not like it's top secret.

#16 No girls here

Posted 13 December 2012 - 04:31 PM

I don't ask, but would happily discuss it if another parent wanted to.  I probably have discussed with close friends, but none of these are at the same school

I would be interested to know the % of children with certain grades though as it would put their results into a bit of perspective.

#17 BadCat

Posted 13 December 2012 - 04:41 PM

QUOTE (No girls here @ 13/12/2012, 05:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I would be interested to know the % of children with certain grades though as it would put their results into a bit of perspective.

We have the number of kids getting each grade listed on the report.  That's how I caught out the lying mum.  She was claiming several As that were not possible given the reports I had been shown by others.  laughing2.gif

#18 mumto3princesses

Posted 13 December 2012 - 04:51 PM

Actually I was just talking about grades and reports with a mum I know the other day. LOL But we were at the primary school and talking about how while our DD's were about average or struggling a little bit in primary and now in High School they are both doing really well. And in fact there are a few kids who were doing very well in primary who have gone off the rails a bit and also not doing as well anymore.

I wouldn't talk about it with some random person though. We have discussed how our kids in primary are going but haven't said where they are at exactly. I have told a couple of friends that DD#2 has improved a lot but they are also friends I have told she has ADHD and she is on the meds. They honestly wanted to know how she was going and it wasn't a competition thing.

Some people are like that though and I know to steer clear of those sorts of discussions with them. LOL Same people that bragged to me at the start of the year that their children were in the composite class this year and how they will really be doing all the work from the year above so its like they have skipped a grade since they are so smart. Ummm, ok but its a 1/2 and they are the same stage so they will all be doing the same work anyway plus our schools composites don't work like that. Not that I said that though. It's a case of smile and nod and let them believe what they like.

#19 kittennic

Posted 13 December 2012 - 04:58 PM

Our kids are at an alternative school so we don't get grades as such, but lots of written comments about how they're doing in various areas. I've chatted to one or two parents on occasion about whether the reports were what they expected and whether they were happy with them, but I didn't ask specifics nor how their children "went" as such.

#20 Coffeegirl

Posted 13 December 2012 - 04:59 PM

QUOTE (BadCat @ 13/12/2012, 05:00 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I wouldn't ask anyone other than a good friend but yes, I've discussed reports with other mums at pick up in the past if someone has brought it up.  Why not?

QUOTE (Ange @ 13/12/2012, 05:08 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I wouldn't care if anyone asked. I don't see the big deal. I've asked close friends to see if they were happy..

I've discussed them once or twice with other mums that I am close to and aren't 'gossipy'. Once was because DD's grade had dropped from A's to C's and we were concerned.   Turned out  to be a combination  of the stage change (betweb year 3 & 4) and a harder marking teacher in year 4.  By the second report that year she was back to form.

#21 tres-chic

Posted 13 December 2012 - 05:05 PM

Only in a general sense.

#22 mombasa

Posted 13 December 2012 - 05:41 PM

I never ask and never tell. We got ours last night at the end of Year Celebration Concert, they were handed out at the end of the Ceremony and School is now over, I am pleased they did it this way, there was one mother who pestered pretty much every other parent at half year time, so I took DD's report and ran before she could stop me.

#23 liveworkplay

Posted 13 December 2012 - 05:48 PM

If I'm asked by a close friend, I'll respond, it it is just another school mum I'll be vague. However, I would love to brag, but just leave that to pestering my teacher friends  I work with (not my kids school) as they understand laughing2.gif

Edited by liveworkplay, 13 December 2012 - 05:49 PM.

#24 EsmeLennox

Posted 13 December 2012 - 06:10 PM

There's a few people I've gotten to know quite well over the years and we sometimes discuss it in a general way, but otherwise no.

#25 Lyn29

Posted 13 December 2012 - 08:09 PM

We regard reports as personal in our household, so if someone asked I'd give a general response but not specifics. And I'm not really interested in how other people's kids score (unless they're in my grade in which case I gave the scores anyway).

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