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#1 EsmeLennox

Posted 12 December 2012 - 01:27 AM

So, you're going to lunch at someone's house. They ask you to bring a salad. No problem there. They request a particular type of salad, again, no real problem there. They then proceed to email you a recipe that you 'must' use. Would you tell them to eff off and find that to be incredibly rude, or is it just me?

So tempted to take an old-fashioned coleslaw with sultanas instead. dev (6).gif

#2 wallofdodo

Posted 12 December 2012 - 01:30 AM

have they got dietary requirements? It does seem a bit over the top.

What type of salad is it?

#3 marnie27

Posted 12 December 2012 - 01:31 AM

Rude. If they feel that strongly about which coleslaw recipe is used, they should make it themselves.

#4 EsmeLennox

Posted 12 December 2012 - 01:32 AM

No, this is not a dietary issue at all. If it were, I would request the recipe to make sure I got it right. No this is just 'I'm a control freak and want everything to be exactly as I want it' behaviour. It is a type of risoni salad.

ETA - the salad in question is not a coleslaw, I just thought maybe I'd make that instead as I know it wouldn't go down well with my very 'foodie' rellies.

Edited by Jemstar, 12 December 2012 - 01:33 AM.


#5 wallofdodo

Posted 12 December 2012 - 01:44 AM

Coleslaw it is then! Rude.



#6 monkeys mum

Posted 12 December 2012 - 01:45 AM

Lol at the end of the day do you want to impress your foodie rellies or make something you will eat and enjoy?

Who knowsthise foodie rellies might really like it.

#7 bakesgirls

Posted 12 December 2012 - 02:02 AM

Rude. Unless there are dietary requirements, which in your scenario, there are not.

They are getting food provided for free. They either should be grateful for what is provided at someone elses expense and time, or shut up and make it themselves.

#8 Rubyduck

Posted 12 December 2012 - 03:36 AM

Absolutely rude!! Even with dietary requirements its a bit odd, I have a few food allergies and wouldn't send someone a must use recipe, possibly ask they not use cream or something I'm highly intolerant to but if it was that big a deal I would just do it myself rather than hand out direct orders!!
I would make whatever and tell them your shop sold out of every single ingredient from the must use recipe, must be the Christmas rush on certain items in your area, nothing you could have done other than substitute their recipe for one of your own rolleyes.gif

#9 Happy Feet

Posted 12 December 2012 - 04:51 AM

Very rude!

#10 B.feral3

Posted 12 December 2012 - 05:13 AM

Make the coleslaw OP.  dev (6).gif

#11 BadCat

Posted 12 December 2012 - 05:17 AM

Rude.

Or in my case, since my skills in the kitchen are non-existant, probably a bonus.  It would save me Googling a recipe.  laughing2.gif

#12 casime

Posted 12 December 2012 - 05:59 AM

Show up with one in a bag from Woolies.   wink.gif

#13 Sancti-mummy

Posted 12 December 2012 - 06:20 AM

Taking a step back here, I have been to two functions where a dish was requested - with specific instructions.

In both instances, they were themed parties and it allowed everyone to put a little bit of an individual stamp on the food table without there being 9 coleslaws and nothing else.

It also meant that the hostess got a beautiful spread with just a bit more organisation and a lot less sweat in the kitchen for herself.

If I were that "put out" but being given a specific task, I wouldn't go - but I probably would tell the hostess so that she could assign the risoni to someone else.

#14 TillyTake2

Posted 12 December 2012 - 06:26 AM

I'd be fine about a specific type of salad (eg can you bring a green salad or a pasta salad or whatever) so that you don't end up with 4 of the same thing but when you start specifying recipes it becomes rude!

#15 ~buzz~

Posted 12 December 2012 - 06:27 AM

Rude!!! if they want a particular salad then they should make it themselves and let you make your own type

#16 elmo_mum

Posted 12 December 2012 - 06:37 AM

i understand - can u bring a "specific" salad - so theres not 4 coleslaws...

but to give a recipe?? rude rude rude

i would find one totally different to hers!!!!

#17 miinii

Posted 12 December 2012 - 06:38 AM

I dont know if i would call it Rude. This year i asked my mum to make potato salad for one of my daughters birthdays and i gave her my recipe to use including all the ingredients. It was a last minute thing as i had run out of time.
If she were to use her own "Recipe" which consists of boiled potatoes and coleslaw dressing....nothing else, there is no way i would have asked her lol.
But in saying that this was my mum, i dont think i would have asked a friend

#18 michelle120773

Posted 12 December 2012 - 06:40 AM

QUOTE
Show up with one in a bag from Woolies.


Or a couple of tubs of KFC coleslaw!!  dev (6).gif

#19 ~Jodama_Forever~

Posted 12 December 2012 - 06:42 AM

QUOTE (miinii @ 12/12/2012, 07:38 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I dont know if i would call it Rude. This year i asked my mum to make potato salad for one of my daughters birthdays and i gave her my recipe to use including all the ingredients. It was a last minute thing as i had run out of time.
If she were to use her own "Recipe" which consists of boiled potatoes and coleslaw dressing....nothing else, there is no way i would have asked her lol.
But in saying that this was my mum, i dont think i would have asked a friend



Thats still rude and its pretty much saying your salad sucks, so make sure you use mine, which it may do but still its rude.

I would be ok with the specific salad but not being told what recipe and I would use the one I preferred or usually make.

#20 Persnickety_

Posted 12 December 2012 - 06:45 AM

I need to know the recipe to this salad now!  It must be pretty spesh lol

#21 Feral Grey Mare

Posted 12 December 2012 - 06:56 AM

Make the 1970s pineapple and marshmallow salad if you really want to p her off.

#22 WithSprinkles

Posted 12 December 2012 - 07:06 AM

QUOTE (TillyTake2 @ 12/12/2012, 07:26 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I'd be fine about a specific type of salad (eg can you bring a green salad or a pasta salad or whatever) so that you don't end up with 4 of the same thing but when you start specifying recipes it becomes rude!


Agreed

#23 casime

Posted 12 December 2012 - 07:18 AM

QUOTE
If you can get your hands on a 70s 'Golden Circle Tropical recipe book, you could make this little delight:


I think I actually have that recipe book.   blush.gif

#24 Squeekums Da Feral

Posted 12 December 2012 - 07:19 AM

Rude.
Im lucky my friends believe it safer for all involved if I just buy the salad or they make it. I agree with them lol
Me + kitchens + knives/cooking = DANGER!!

#25 Cranky Old Woman

Posted 12 December 2012 - 07:33 AM

I don't think she's being that rude unless this is the latest in a long list of control freaky type things.  She may have thought she was doing you a favour by emailing the recipe to save you time.  Put it down to pre-Christmas tension.

Oh, and do people really put sultanas in coleslaw?  sick.gif




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