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#1 mumofsky

Posted 10 December 2012 - 09:06 PM

I need ideas ASAP! please!

I live in a house joined to another house by a wall. it seems our bedrooms are back to back.... anyway all went well for awhile after the new tenant moved innext door, he seems nice, no dramas besides the odd party. Until the last week - he seems to have acquired a new girlfriend and they are having sex every single night!

the problem is, I dont think theyre even that loud but its just that our walls are joined so i hear everything. i personally woukdnt care but DD is 11 and very impressionable, and will soon hear it also. i just heard them now so i turned up my music, which has annoyed DD but i dont want her hearing sex noises!!!!

how can i subtly let them know???? this is awful!

#2 JustBeige

Posted 10 December 2012 - 09:17 PM

Just drop a note in their letterbox.

Keep it light - ie: "hi Neighbour.  Hate to do this to you, but did you know our bedroom walls join and are really thin?   I'm as surprised as you as I didnt realise how thin they are. Congrats on the new girlfriend by the way...."


After that, I guess you need to decide how you want to proceed.  I would probably ask about sharing the cost of insulating your joining wall so you can both have some privacy.

The other option of asking him to play music / the tv is that you will possibly get blasted at 3am.  OR he will get louder because he thinks its funny.

Edited by JustBeige, 10 December 2012 - 09:18 PM.


#3 epl0822

Posted 10 December 2012 - 09:20 PM

If you don't want to do the polite note thing maybe you should have loud sex and make him realise for himself how thin the walls are. Or if you don't like being passive aggressive, tell him you think his girlfriend is faking and give him advice on how to do it better.

#4 mumofsky

Posted 10 December 2012 - 09:21 PM

haha i was thinking of the blaring music....

what do you think of a polite knock on the wall when theyre at it?

i cant insulate as we're both renters....
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QUOTE (epl0822 @ 10/12/2012, 09:20 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
If you don't want to do the polite note thing maybe you should have loud sex and make him realise for himself how thin the walls are. Or if you don't like being passive aggressive, tell him you think his girlfriend is faking and give him advice on how to do it better.



if only my life were exciting enough to facilitate such a thing!!! wink.gif

#5 raone

Posted 10 December 2012 - 09:26 PM

The worse thing would be not a new girlfriend but he is actually watching porn!

#6 laridae

Posted 10 December 2012 - 09:26 PM

DP

Edited by laridae, 10 December 2012 - 09:30 PM.


#7 laridae

Posted 10 December 2012 - 09:26 PM

If you can hear him, then surely he can hear you as well...

You could always fake it - but make some loud noises - he'll probably figure it out.

#8 raindotdot

Posted 10 December 2012 - 09:31 PM

ewww raone! lol

Would it be rude to tap on the wall??

#9 mumofsky

Posted 10 December 2012 - 09:34 PM

haha but DD is here! I cant go making dodgy noises! lol if it werent for that,i would original.gif

im thinking when they start up again i'll tap on the wall.

p.s its definitely a real girl - its heaps more boring than porn star noises, lol

thanks!

#10 skylark

Posted 10 December 2012 - 09:38 PM

Well, since your problem sounds JUST the same as this one from Slate's Ask Prudie column last week, you could try her advice.


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Q. Hearing Intimate Moments From Neighbors: I own and live in a semiattached house in a large city. The house adjacent to mine is owned by an landlord and rented out. The tenants and I share the wall between our master bedrooms. In a nutshell, I hear EVERY MINUTE of their intimate encounters. I'm in no way asking how to get them to stop. They are consenting adults and can be as intimate as they wish. My question is what to do about being woken up several times a week by their cries of ecstasy. I have so far been able to resist knocking my knuckles on the wall to alert them to their racket, but I'm an early riser and am really not interested in learning on a four-or-five-night-a-week basis how good the male partner is. Please advise.


#11 mumofsky

Posted 10 December 2012 - 09:43 PM

lol so its not just me this is happening to!

#12 R2B2

Posted 10 December 2012 - 09:53 PM

fairly common occurance wink.gif

just give him a wink next time you pass each other and tell him you enjoyed his performance!  grin.gif

#13 Kwyjibo

Posted 10 December 2012 - 09:53 PM

Change your WI-FI name to 'I can hear you having sex, you know'.

#14 Sancti-claws

Posted 10 December 2012 - 10:07 PM

I remember living in a house like that - my flatmate had the adjoining wall to the next door master bedroom.

One day, the neighbour complained to my flatmate about how loud her radio was the night before.  Her answer was "and what were you doing when I turned the music up?"

She got the hint (eventually)

#15 casime

Posted 10 December 2012 - 10:30 PM

I had this problem once.   I saw the neighbour and asked how the renovations were going.  He said "what renovations?'  I said 'oh, I heard lots of grunting and banging late and night and assumed you were renovating.' He got the hint.




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