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#1 mpoppins92

Posted 10 December 2012 - 05:20 PM

So something in that I wrote in another thread got me thinking which gets me to asking (and a bit of a whine) - are there names that you automatically shorten? For example if someone introduces themselves as Benjamin do you automatically go ok he's Ben?


People do this to me all the time with my name. I like my full name but its long, the short version is a boys name, and I don't like it, haven't for some years now (apparently when I was 3 I liked it and it stuck from there)

When I say everyone shortens it I mean everyone, recently I introduced myself to a person at a new job "Hi I'm Alexandra" about 3 mins later, she introduced me to someone else, "This is Alex".. I said "Oh I prefer Alexandra..." but nope, I'm already Alex. I have told everyone to please call me Alexandra but I think it's so ingrained that they can't change the habit, even my mum calls me Alex (she doesn't even use my full name when I'm in trouble which to me, means she has failed as a parent tongue.gif )

Do you think this is something I can ever change? And do you agree that there are some names that you just automatically shorten because the long version is too damn long?

Edited by mpoppins92, 10 December 2012 - 05:21 PM.


#2 ~Supernova~

Posted 10 December 2012 - 05:23 PM

I'm really funny about this topic. I will only ever refer to somebody by the name that they introduced themselves with. I find it difficult to do otherwise, even if lots of other people speak to them using a shortened version.

#3 Feral_Pooks

Posted 10 December 2012 - 05:23 PM

Yep. It's inevitable. Unless you use another NN instead.

#4 knottygirl

Posted 10 December 2012 - 05:23 PM

i knew a christopher whose mother was adamnet it wouldnt be shortened to chris.  

i also know a kimberly that likes to be called kimberly but she still gets kim alot.

#5 Ireckon

Posted 10 December 2012 - 05:25 PM

I don't know the answer.....but I see it happen all the time with DH. He has a very standard traditional name ( like Peter, or David) and because he is a tradie, it ALWAYS gets shortened by those he works with. I love his full name, and mostly use that, at times will shorten it with the long vowel sound, but withuot fail, for work mates, it is always "Mick", IYKWIM?

Myself, I grew up with my name being shortend and hyphened to my middle name by rellies, or shortened to a dolls variation. It never phased me, but as an adult, in a professional capacity, its easier to be taken seriously by using my full name. The added bonus is it makes me feel like I get away with pretending I a a grown up!!

#6 mpoppins92

Posted 10 December 2012 - 05:27 PM

QUOTE (Pooks_ @ 10/12/2012, 03:23 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Yep. It's inevitable. Unless you use another NN instead.



Siiiigh. If only there was one I liked.. maybe I'm too picky.

#7 la di dah

Posted 10 December 2012 - 05:33 PM

Nobody does that to my full first name because it has no official short form. They might mispronounce it but they don't chop it. 3 syllable name.

If I do use my nickname half the time someone will back up and call me Josephine. It's just Josie, it's short for another Jo-name... I didn't tell you to call me Josephine... agh.

I don't think its just the length. If you had a very uncommon name that was 4 syllables they'd either take a running attempt or avoid your name or ask if they can call you something else. But they "know" the short form of Alexandra. A Katherine (only 2, 2.5 syllables) is often Kate whether she likes it or not but an Immanuela or a Zakiyya or whatever is what she tells people to call her.

#8 mini mac

Posted 10 December 2012 - 05:40 PM

QUOTE (Mareek @ 10/12/2012, 03:23 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I'm really funny about this topic. I will only ever refer to somebody by the name that they introduced themselves with. I find it difficult to do otherwise, even if lots of other people speak to them using a shortened version.


Me too. Also in the way its pronounced. Eg grant being 'a' or 'ah' sound. I have friends who have been introduced one way then say the name the other way I think this is totally rude and not that persons name. Only exception is if you are another nationality and its a language barrier thing.

#9 Jekaho

Posted 10 December 2012 - 05:41 PM

I think it just happens, and there's not really much you can do about it.

My full name is shortened (which is what I use everyday) but then others insist on shortening it further eg. Debra -> Deby -> Deb. I don't like the shortest version. If I introduce myself as "Deby" then I like to be called that. Don't decide that you can call me "Deb"!

I try very hard to call people by the name they are introduced to me by. Because I don't like it when people don't do me the same courtesy.

#10 Beanbag Warrior

Posted 10 December 2012 - 05:46 PM

I've given up.

I'm a Jennifer.  Older people call me Jenny without fail.  Friends call me Jenn.  

I haven't heard my full name in aaaaaaaaaaages.

#11 ~buzz~

Posted 10 December 2012 - 05:46 PM

I'm a Jessica and even if I say Jessica it always gets shortened to Jess I don't mind either way though. Don't think there is much you can do about it

#12 kiam

Posted 10 December 2012 - 05:52 PM

Fortunately I have a name that doesn't really have a shortened form.

My Mum is Susan, she HATES being called anything else, other than when my Nanna calls her "shushu" but that is a childhood nickname. She tolerates Susie, but if anyone dares call her "Sue" I swear, you can almost see the death rays beaming out of her eyes.

#13 Ireckon

Posted 10 December 2012 - 05:53 PM

QUOTE (NapCat @ 10/12/2012, 06:46 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I've given up.

I'm a Jennifer.  Older people call me Jenny without fail.  Friends call me Jenn.  

I haven't heard my full name in aaaaaaaaaaages.



Not even when you are in trouble????


#14 Cranky Old Woman

Posted 10 December 2012 - 06:01 PM

QUOTE (Mareek @ 10/12/2012, 06:23 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I'm really funny about this topic. I will only ever refer to somebody by the name that they introduced themselves with. I find it difficult to do otherwise, even if lots of other people speak to them using a shortened version.



This is me too.  I don't like the shortened version of my name, always introduce myself by my full name, all my family and friends call me by my full name (parents never, ever shortened it) yet there are some people who will insist on shortening it.  I find it rude and discourteous.  I think of myself by my full name so if someone uses the shortened version to get my attention I simply don't answer as I don't think they are talking to me - does that make sense??

As you can see one of my many pet peeves.

#15 somila

Posted 10 December 2012 - 06:05 PM

My full name is a shortened version of a name, so I sometimes get automatic name lengthening, LOL.  It can also be shortened further, so I get that too.  I prefer my real name, the shortened one I am comfortable with as long as it's not on an official document.  The longer one is not me and I will not have it.  So there.

#16 Funwith3

Posted 10 December 2012 - 06:08 PM

A friend named Katrina was always referred to as kat. Now that we're all grown up she has started calling herself Katrina. I guess she never liked her shortened name. My DH is David. I always call him Dave... his parents hate me doing this wink.gif

#17 FiveAus

Posted 10 December 2012 - 06:11 PM

My name is generally not shortened, although it can be but it turns into a completely different name.
A few times in my life, some brave soul has called me the "shortened" version. But they only did it once.

#18 mybeautifulgirl

Posted 10 December 2012 - 06:12 PM

My dd is Elizabeth.  Call her Lizzie or Beth and I will do mass body harm ... even when it's my mother.. she calls her Lizzie  mad.gif ....I call her Lou Lou.. her father calls her Nuggy and her brother call her squishy or squish.

#19 Hands Up

Posted 10 December 2012 - 06:16 PM

QUOTE (Mareek @ 10/12/2012, 06:23 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I'm really funny about this topic. I will only ever refer to somebody by the name that they introduced themselves with. I find it difficult to do otherwise, even if lots of other people speak to them using a shortened version.


Agreed. I will call someone by their shortened name only when they introduce themselves that way or ask me to call them that. My name is shortened a lot to a name I really, really dislike. Yes, it is a common shortened name but that doesn't make it ok. I correct people as I have another nickname I much prefer.

#20 Julie3Girls

Posted 10 December 2012 - 06:23 PM

I've got an Elizabeth too. She was usually Beth, sometimes Elizabeth until she hit school. At which point she decided she wanted to be Elizabeth. Everyone calls her Elizabeth. Actually, there is one child who persists with Liz. Elizabeth has corrected her a million times, sunk in with everyone else except this one child.

#21 Brrrroooce!

Posted 10 December 2012 - 06:32 PM

QUOTE (somila @ 10/12/2012, 06:05 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My full name is a shortened version of a name, so I sometimes get automatic name lengthening, LOL......  The longer one is not me and I will not have it.  So there.


Same here.

A couple of times, people have "fixed" my "mistake" for me after I've "incorrectly" written my own name.  

#22 Beanbag Warrior

Posted 10 December 2012 - 06:33 PM

QUOTE (Ireckon @ 10/12/2012, 05:53 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Not even when you are in trouble????



I moved out at 19, successfully avoiding trouble for almost a decade Tounge1.gif



#23 JazzyWeasel

Posted 10 December 2012 - 06:35 PM

I go by a shorten version of my name but if I say my full first name I still get asked if that's short for another name.
I never call anyone but a shorten name unless they introduce themselves as that.
Some of our friend are easy to tell apart because one is Dave and the other David. We have a Kieron and a Kieran in our group and just say RON or RAN lol.
We have a Katrina who goes by Kat.

I call all 3 of my sisters by a shorter version but DH calls them by the full name and it sounds weird to me. And my brothers name can't be shortened so he gets  a longer version  rolleyes.gif .

#24 Cranky Kitten

Posted 10 December 2012 - 06:36 PM

I went as far as changing my name by deed poll to go by my middle name to avoid this. Everyone shortened my original first name and it's short form is a type of cheese. Tasty cheese I'll admit, but still....cheese.

Now my first name is Claire, which can't be shortened easily. So instead, I get Claire-bear (ho-hum) or Claire-a-belle.

Sometimes you just can't win.

#25 50ftqueenie

Posted 10 December 2012 - 06:41 PM

I never shorten a name unless requested.

My name can be shortened and anyone close to me uses the short version. What I have found unsettling is that my some of my colleagues at work will refer to me as "Em" in a meeting and other people, who I've just met go ahead and start calling me "Em".  I let it slide, because it would be awkward to say to them, "actually, you can call me Emma" but it feels odd that someone I've just met is calling me a name that only people I've known for a long time call me.




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