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#1 RealityBites

Posted 10 December 2012 - 05:07 PM

Not looking forward to Xmas Day this year. Our usual lovely family Xmas (hosted by MIL) has been postponed to 6 January so my interstate BIL can make it.
My parents and brother usually pop in in the morning before heading to my estranged brother's for Xmas, and we are not invited there. I should say that celebrating Xmas is fairly new for my parents, we don't have a family tradition there.
I am feeling so depressed about this, and my family situation, and why should Xmas be postponed just for my BIL?

Please help me to regain my sanity. Suggestions of things my little family can do in the afternoon if it is not beach weather?

Edited by RealityBites, 10 December 2012 - 06:17 PM.


#2 RealityBites

Posted 10 December 2012 - 06:13 PM

Anyone?  unsure.gif

#3 Mille-Mille

Posted 10 December 2012 - 06:18 PM

If the weather is bad, then what about playing some board games with the family? Make some yummy snacks and have a laugh.

#4 Mumma_G

Posted 10 December 2012 - 06:19 PM

Personally i dont see an issue with the family Christmas being postponed so BIL can be there. Isnt Christmas about family? That does not mean that you cant celebrate Christmas though. I hate being on the road at Christmas (so I dont!). We sit around, eat food, enjoy our gifts, watch a movie together, swim in the pool, kick the ball with DS etc.

#5 Julie3Girls

Posted 10 December 2012 - 06:19 PM

Maybe host your own Christmas day - invite your MIL and FIL, they could come even if the family wants to wait to do the big extended christmas day thing.

Or just have your own lovely little Christmas.
Include some new board games in the gifts. Do up a basket of goodies and sit and play games and eat yummy stuff in the afternoon.
Get a couple of new movies - a new movie to watch as a family, with some popcorn and a slushy (buy slushies cups or a slushy machine)
Beach with new beach toys if it's nice, or something fun in the backyard.

#6 BadCat

Posted 10 December 2012 - 06:23 PM

We like to play with our new toys or read our new books.  And we always have christmas lunch rather than dinner to break up the day.

Something else I have done is hold back a present to open after lunch just for a bit of fun.  I made it a family game so that we could all play it right away.

If you are more sporty types maybe you could set up a game of badminton or go for a walk.

Pack up a picnic from your lunch leftovers and have dinner out in the open somewhere.

Go for a christmas lights drive on christmas night.

#7 mitty82

Posted 10 December 2012 - 06:24 PM

this year my hubby will be sleeping off a nightshift and getting ready for a night shift on christmas  night. my xmas day will consist of waking up to hubby getting home, us opening pressies, then brekky and saying good night to hubby while the kids play and enjoy whatever santa has brought them. then i think i might just go and buy myself some new cds to listen too or a music dvd to watch and some drinks and nibblies for myself. a quick phone call to my lovely sister and an afternoon siesta before getting hubby up to have our christmas dinner with us.

#8 Funwith3

Posted 10 December 2012 - 06:28 PM

What's to stop you doing two Christmases? One on the day and then another celebration when BIL arrives.

#9 Fright bat

Posted 10 December 2012 - 06:34 PM

Our Christmas has been postponed to Boxing Day for SIL and family. My family are all currently living OS, and only the ILs do Christmas anyway.

We're planning to chill out at home, play with the new toys, maybe pop out to the local park, and have some friends over for dinner Christmas night.

Maybe plan a nice light brunch to have with your parents and brother, and then go have fun with your kids.

#10 RealityBites

Posted 10 December 2012 - 06:36 PM

You all make it sound so reasonable  biggrin.gif

#11 VintageEyes

Posted 10 December 2012 - 06:45 PM

We quite often have the extended family"bash"on a day other than christmas day. Personally I would love to spend christmas day just relaxing at home with immediate family without the pressure of rushing stood everywhere and having to make polite conversation with people I don't really like and only see once a year!

#12 Therese

Posted 10 December 2012 - 07:44 PM

Enjoy not having to be anywhere original.gif  Board games on Christmas Day are lots of fun (especially after a few drinks original.gif)

#13 babybeli

Posted 10 December 2012 - 07:54 PM

Good excuse for the little family Christmas.  We plan to load the car with all the food and beach gear and drive out on a local beach and set up in our own little spot for a picnic and swim I am looking forward to it as we have never done Christmas onthe beach before.

#14 1975ladybug

Posted 10 December 2012 - 08:03 PM

Head to the zoo!

Check with the one in your state, but they are open on Christmas day!

#15 wildflowers

Posted 10 December 2012 - 09:42 PM

Start your own tradition and go to the beach for brekky or just have fun at home.  It is hard when people have to go to families for Christmas Day but I think a lot of  couples just plan in advance and enjoy the day.  I wish my in laws and BIL did live close by so we could have fun with Christmas Day.

#16 Charlies Angel

Posted 10 December 2012 - 09:49 PM

Ummm... have you thought of inviting your MIL to your place for Christmas lunch? She could be waiting for an invitation.

#17 Buggylicious

Posted 10 December 2012 - 09:57 PM

We had Christmas alone last year, it was awesome. We took our time opening presents, ate all our favourite foods at each meal, played with the hose and watched a movie with DS while DD had a nap on the couch. So relaxing.

#18 SeaPrincess

Posted 10 December 2012 - 11:11 PM

QUOTE (Charlies Angel @ 10/12/2012, 07:49 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Ummm... have you thought of inviting your MIL to your place for Christmas lunch? She could be waiting for an invitation.

I agree.  I would see this as an opportunity to have 2 Christmases and invite her for Christmas lunch..  Although we're not opposed to spending Christmas on our own either.

#19 Holidayromp

Posted 11 December 2012 - 06:42 AM

What is wrong with having christmas with your own little family?  That way you can do what you want, plan what you want, and eat and drink what you want and do things in the order you want without worrying about treading on someone elses toes.
I do enjoy Christmas with my family and miss the noise and hustle and bustle of being with other people but due to what MIL did to this family we have been 'cast out on our own' but anything is better than spending Christmas at MIL and her meagre offerings and being generally uncomfortable.  But when we move we will have heaps of Christmasses with my family so that doesn't make things so bad.

#20 Holidayromp

Posted 11 December 2012 - 06:42 AM

DP

Edited by Holidayromp, 11 December 2012 - 06:43 AM.


#21 caitiri

Posted 11 December 2012 - 06:52 AM

DH is working so the kids aren't even getting their presents till boxing day (they're only young so they don't realise).  Sometimes its really nice to just have a quiet uneventful christmas .



#22 FeralRebelWClaws

Posted 11 December 2012 - 06:59 AM

We don't have DSDs until January and DF's mother and brother and his family are OS until the end of January so this year we aren't having a big family Christmas.

We (DF, Mum and I) are just having a quiet day... Having croissants or pancakes for brekkie, then prawns, ham and salad for lunch and maybe ham with mashed potato and peas for dinner. We are just going to relax and watch Xmas movies. DF might disappear and play on his computer for a while. We are just having a nice relaxing day. Though we don't have kids with us on the day, so we *can* ignore it, but we are still having a mini celebration, but no presents.

When we pick up DSDs we are having a mini family Christmas the next day. We will open our presents then and have a roast and stay home and play with presents and have another nice relaxing day.

We will then do our bigger family Christmas with DF's side of the family when they get back from OS at the end of Jan before we put DSDs back on a plane the next day! Though MIL has given me the girls presents and they have the option of opening them when we do our Christmas so they can play with them.

#23 casime

Posted 11 December 2012 - 07:51 AM

I'm jealous.   I'd love to be having a quiet day at home on my own, but I've got to get up at 5am, drive an hour and a half to the airport, catch a two hour flight with a about to turn one year old, go to the extended family christmas day lunch, then go to another house for dinner, then back on a plane on Boxing morning, drive an hour and a half home, then I finally get to open presents with my DS.  

I've put my foot down and said no more after this year.  I'm staying home with DS and will make a trip some other time during the year to visit.  I don't want his memories of christmas to be on planes.  From next year it will be just us at home for the day opening presents, eating too much food and playing with new toys.

#24 leisamd

Posted 11 December 2012 - 08:21 AM

Our big family christmas is early this year, and then everyone is scattering with the wind ov)er christmas day! We'll be by ourselves, first time in a decade, I can't wait! ph34r.gif

#25 funandlaughter

Posted 11 December 2012 - 08:52 AM

Just pack the kids up and take off to have christmas at the beach!!! invite the rest of the family that aren't having christmas lunch due to waiting till january... technically its not the usual xmas lunch so he wont be missing out on anything lol




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