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#1 Wacky Wobbler

Posted 10 December 2012 - 02:52 AM

Hi,

I have a 5 wk old and am struggling to have my morning shower when DH is at work. I can't shower when DH gets up because he gets up at 4.30am and I can't shower when DS has a sleep because he doesn't sleep during the day (sleeps very well overnight). My Mum and Sister have been coming over to look after DS so I can shower but thy cannot do this forever.

What do you do with your newborn when you need to shower?

Thanks

#2 Elk

Posted 10 December 2012 - 02:59 AM

I used to put DD in a bouncer just outside the bathroom door, that way I could see if she needed me.

It made me more relaxed being able to see her while I showered.

Edited by EmmyLou86, 10 December 2012 - 03:04 AM.


#3 Lorem ipsum

Posted 10 December 2012 - 03:00 AM

I put him in a bouncer in the bathroom, just after a feed. He is usually pretty happy there

#4 Pop-to-the-shops

Posted 10 December 2012 - 03:03 AM

I pop mine in a little bouncer seat and take it into the bathroom.

Some day sleep needs to happen though at some point. I'm sure it will settle down in a few weeks. That age they an be quite restless.

Sometimes I have them in the evening after the kids have gone to bed.

#5 a letter to Elise.

Posted 10 December 2012 - 03:53 AM

What happens if you just put your baby down in a cot/bassinet for a few minutes?

If I put my babies down, and they were content or just grizzly, I would have a shower then. If they were crying and I really needed to get ready, I'd put them on the bassinet on the floor of the bathroom, and just have a really fast shower. I'd quickly get dressed and then put them in a sling while I did my hair etc.

I know it's really stressful when they cry or grizzle, but so long as they were not hysterically crying, I would just dive in for a quick rinse while they could see me from the bassinet.

I have a 3 year old and and a 6 month old, and it just hasn't been possible to never leave the baby for a minute or two while I dress the older one or something.

Generally though, I wait until DH is home in the evening. The children go in the bath together. I supervise while DH has a shower, and then we swap. If I am home alone, I put the baby in her cot, quickly strip everyone down, put DS in the shower playing on the floor, grab DD and jump in the shower with her. We all get out together, and I wrap a towel around DD and myself, DS does his own. We go out to the bedroom, I put her on her change table, and stand next to her as I dry myself, and dress - she is wrapped in a towel so she won't get cold. Then I dress DD. Then I convince DS to stop dancing around in the nude to put clothes on!

#6 Feral-as-Meggs

Posted 10 December 2012 - 04:36 AM

QUOTE (EmmyLou86 @ 10/12/2012, 03:59 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I used to put DD in a bouncer just outside the bathroom door, that way I could see if she needed me.

It made me more relaxed being able to see her while I showered.


I had a second hand bouncer that lived in the bathroom - handy for showers and going to the loo.

#7 mini mac

Posted 10 December 2012 - 05:19 AM

QUOTE (Matthias' mum @ 10/12/2012, 01:53 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
What happens if you just put your baby down in a cot/bassinet for a few minutes?

If I put my babies down, and they were content or just grizzly, I would have a shower then. If they were crying and I really needed to get ready, I'd put them on the bassinet on the floor of the bathroom, and just have a really fast shower. I'd quickly get dressed and then put them in a sling while I did my hair etc.

I know it's really stressful when they cry or grizzle, but so long as they were not hysterically crying, I would just dive in for a quick rinse while they could see me from the bassinet.


Yep. If you've attended babys general needs and its only grizzling and you need a shower, you have a shower. Especially if you're having a bit of a hard time with the baby, all the more reason to have a freshen up and have a breather, even if you can see/hear baby unsettled while showering, you still need to be able to function as a person, then you can look after baby with a clear mind. You'll feel better for it.

Oh, and if you're wanting a long relaxing shower where you can just switch off I suggest waiting til your partner gets home or baby is down for the night. You'll enjoy it so much more than fretting if baby will stir.

#8 Carmen02

Posted 10 December 2012 - 05:25 AM

QUOTE (EmmyLou86 @ 10/12/2012, 12:59 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I used to put DD in a bouncer just outside the bathroom door, that way I could see if she needed me.

It made me more relaxed being able to see her while I showered.



thats what i did..I felt so much better after a morning shower!

#9 Feral timtam

Posted 10 December 2012 - 05:36 AM

Newborns aren't likely to get into trouble if you leave them awake in the cot for a couple of minutes so you can grab a quick shower, not like a mischievous 3 year old unsupervised near a bookshelf will.

I'd give mine a feed, change their nappies, swaddle them and pop them back in the cot while I had a shower. If they were awake and fussy they went in the bouncer by the bathroom door.

#10 eachschoolholidays

Posted 10 December 2012 - 05:36 AM

I too put a bouncer in the bathroom

#11 Steggles

Posted 10 December 2012 - 05:40 AM

Take them in with you original.gif have some relaxing skin to skin time - might calm baby down and then you can get out, dress and feed to sleep original.gif

#12 jobo77

Posted 10 December 2012 - 05:43 AM

Another one for the bouncer in the bathroom! No way could I function without a morning shower  original.gif

#13 Sweet like a lemon

Posted 10 December 2012 - 06:03 AM

QUOTE (Steggles @ 10/12/2012, 06:40 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Take them in with you original.gif have some relaxing skin to skin time - might calm baby down and then you can get out, dress and feed to sleep original.gif


That's some trick being able to shower while holding a 5 week old. I'm not sure I would try this. I'm not coordinated and I need my hands to wash. I also like a steaming hot shower not the tepid temperature needed for babies.
Another vote for baby bouncer at the door.


#14 Soontobegran

Posted 10 December 2012 - 07:23 AM

Another user of a bouncer or a bassinette. Sometimes in the bathroom and sometimes just outside.
If they were asleep even for a just a short while I would leave them in their rooms alone for the time I had a shower.
As they became toddlers I would bring them into the bathroom and sit them on the floor with toys if they weren't having a nap.
On a very unsettled day I would just wait until DH got home, I could not have gone without a shower  sad.gif

#15 leisamd

Posted 10 December 2012 - 07:30 AM

QUOTE (Steggles @ 10/12/2012, 06:40 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Take them in with you original.gif have some relaxing skin to skin time - might calm baby down and then you can get out, dress and feed to sleep original.gif


This is what I was going to say.  I absolutely love showering with my newborns. *sigh*

Failing that, like if I need my hands to wash my hair, the bouncer/pram in the bathroom was what I did too.

#16 I*Love*Christmas

Posted 10 December 2012 - 07:34 AM

My DS hated the bouncer so I would drag the swing to the door and he would go in there while I had a shower. He would usually fall asleep too!!

If only it were that easy now. If I have a shower while the kids are awake they either have to come in with me (showering with a 1 & 4 yr old is so much fun) or they do something naughty while I am in there.

#17 lozoodle

Posted 10 December 2012 - 07:36 AM

Put them in the cot and go shower.

It doesn't matter if they are asleep or not. And yes, sometimes they cry. But they are safe in the cot and you need your shower and it will make you feel better.

I've never understood the "can't manage to shower" thing that a lot of people on here say. I can't imagine NOT showering post birth with all the bleeding etc going on. And that is coming from someone who had a reflux baby who screamed all day long.

With DD2 I'd put her on the bathroom floor in the bouncer, just so I could keep watch on her and make sure DD1 didn't try to pick her up or anything.

Edited by lozoodle, 10 December 2012 - 07:36 AM.


#18 mumoffivepoppets

Posted 10 December 2012 - 07:36 AM

I used a bouncer for newborn, then they graduated to one of those seat things with all the toys, and some mornings when they are older and on solids they are strapped into their high chair with some toast and I wheel them into the bathroom. Kill two birds with one stone ....

I cannot possibly wake up or feel remotely refreshed for the day if I don't shower, it keeps me going and makes me feel nice.

You don't have to stay for hours in the shower, 3 minutes of spruce up time really makes the work of difference to your day.  If baby grizzels on the floor for a couple of minutes then so be it.

When DD was born, DS was 13 months old. One in bouncer, one in high chair, and the bigger kids would watch tv...... no problem.

#19 Fright bat

Posted 10 December 2012 - 09:42 AM

Five weeks is the easiest time to have a shower - most babies (even reflux ones) are pretty happy on their own in a bouncer if fed, clean etc. If you don't have a bouncer, a couple folded up towels on the bathroom floor are also fine, or just outside the door.

If you don't get your newborn used to spending a little bit of awake time on the floor by themselves, the constant parental attention will be much harder to deal with when they are much more determined and vocal 8 month olds!

#20 casime

Posted 10 December 2012 - 09:49 AM

QUOTE
Some day sleep needs to happen though at some point. I'm sure it will settle down in a few weeks. That age they an be quite restless.


Hate to break it to you, but it doesn't always change.  DS rarely slept at all during the day from the time he was born.  He's nearly a year now and might get twenty minutes a few times a week if that.

#21 rainycat

Posted 10 December 2012 - 10:02 AM

Bouncer, rocker or pram just outside the door.  When they were bigger i used their high chairs.

#22 au*lit

Posted 10 December 2012 - 10:10 AM

Our bouncer lived downstairs, so if DS was awake I would line a washing basket with towels and put him in it in a semi-reclined position where we could see each other.

#23 clm1982

Posted 10 December 2012 - 10:24 AM

Like the others i would make sure baby is settled, ie fed, changed etc then put her in the bouncer in the bathroom while i had a shower.

#24 Sentient Puddle

Posted 10 December 2012 - 10:26 AM

QUOTE
Put them in the cot and go shower.

It doesn't matter if they are asleep or not. And yes, sometimes they cry. But they are safe in the cot and you need your shower and it will make you feel better.

I've never understood the "can't manage to shower" thing that a lot of people on here say. I can't imagine NOT showering post birth with all the bleeding etc going on. And that is coming from someone who had a reflux baby who screamed all day long.
Yep this!

#25 Mum2TwoDSs

Posted 10 December 2012 - 11:18 AM

QUOTE (Steggles @ 10/12/2012, 06:40 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Take them in with you original.gif have some relaxing skin to skin time - might calm baby down and then you can get out, dress and feed to sleep original.gif


I would find that really hard. It's so slippery and I am no octopus.

I have never taken a shower without DH around unfortunately. I am just too scared. My DS can yelp and escalates into big crying in a minute if he wants me to carry him, even with me sitting next to him is no use.

If your baby is not like mine haha a bouncer in the bathroom sounds good.




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