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How did you feel in the weeks after your second labour


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#1 MissM86

Posted 09 December 2012 - 06:29 PM

After my first birth, I felt shocking. I had a straight forward 8 hour labour and unassisted delivery but I literally felt like I had been run over by a truck. This feeling lasted for weeks (was compounded by mastitis and a reflux baby who never slept). I shudder to recall that time.

I am wondering if you feel like that the second time around or is your body sort of used to the whole labour/birth shebang and you recover quicker? The thought of trying to recover from labour whilst wrangling a newborn and two year old sends me into a cold panic just because I could only do the bare minimum for weeks after my first was born.

#2 Mille-Mille

Posted 09 December 2012 - 06:34 PM

Interested to hear replies, i'm having number two in January and i'm hoping it's easier than the first!!

#3 R2B2

Posted 09 December 2012 - 06:36 PM

I felt a lot better with number 2 and feel completely normal after number 3.

#4 Expelliarmus

Posted 09 December 2012 - 06:39 PM

After #1 I felt like I had been hit by a truck for about a week. After #2 I was raring to go within 4 hours.


#5 Pompol

Posted 09 December 2012 - 06:46 PM

Another here who found labour #2 a walk in the park compared to the first!!! I was barely sore, had only light bleeding and generally a lot less traumatised all round (with my first I literally felt like I was in shock for weeks, with my second I felt quite a high!). The after pains were nasty when I was breast feeding but other than that I felt terrific.

#6 Agnodice the Feral

Posted 09 December 2012 - 06:46 PM

Number 2 was HEAPS easier! I was easily up and around after a couple hours, and was going to the shops and the park by day 4.

#7 AryaStar

Posted 09 December 2012 - 06:49 PM

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Edited by AryaStar, 04 February 2013 - 06:00 PM.


#8 Ice Queen

Posted 09 December 2012 - 06:54 PM

OMG such a huge difference.

After 1st labour I had a full 6 week recovery and just could not believe the world of pain and hurt I was in.  I remember going around the supermarket and feeling like my insides were gonna fall on the floor.

2nd labour.....pffftt walk in the park.  i was up and about the next day no problems, home doing housework the next day, Christmas shopping at 2weeks, walking with pram quite briskly within 3.  I didnt have any painkillers beyond day 2.  

Cant get over the difference.  BTW the intervention at my births was the same.  Induction, drip, epidural.

#9 LifesGood

Posted 09 December 2012 - 07:13 PM

As per the other PPs I found the second labour/birth/recovery a non-issue. My body didn't seem to suffer the same shock it did with the first and I managed just fine. I felt like a train wreck after my first and I had a reasonably straightforward delivery.

#10 Tiredmum4

Posted 09 December 2012 - 07:17 PM

Same. Hideous, long, painful first labour - second was a breeze. Could have headed home straight after. After pains with the second we're crazy bad though - and apparently worse again with the third so something to look forward too given my third is due in 8 weeks!

#11 BearBait

Posted 09 December 2012 - 07:20 PM

2nd was a breeze. Born in under 1 hour (including 20 minute car journey to hospital), latched on within 30 minutes & feeding like a pro. Way easier baby.
With DD1 I felt shocking for weeks.

#12 SeaPrincess

Posted 09 December 2012 - 07:30 PM

I felt broken after my first labour - I didn't think I'd ever do a sit-up again, let alone have another baby!

After the 2nd, I could understand feeling like you might leave the day after giving birth, or even the same day although for medical reasons they would never have let me.

My third delivery was more similar to the first, but afterwards I felt the same as after the 2nd.

#13 TotesFeral

Posted 09 December 2012 - 07:41 PM

QUOTE (Pompol @ 09/12/2012, 07:46 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Another here who found labour #2 a walk in the park compared to the first!!! I was barely sore, had only light bleeding and generally a lot less traumatised all round (with my first I literally felt like I was in shock for weeks, with my second I felt quite a high!). The after pains were nasty when I was breast feeding but other than that I felt terrific.


This for me.
I left hospital within 48 hours and was doing my normal routine straight away. Taking DD to swimming, doing groceries etc etc


#14 jobo77

Posted 09 December 2012 - 08:00 PM

With my 1st full term birth I had a 2nd degree tear but felt pretty good until about 10 days post when something happened with 1 of my stitches and I could barely sit down or walk as it hurt so much. Still not sure what my ob did to fix it but I wanted to kiss him afterwards!
DS birth was super quick and I had no tears that time so I felt fantastic in comparison but I ended up with mastitis before my milk was even in properly and unfortunately that put a dampener on things...ended my stay in hospital on a drip which wasn't fun. Once that was over though, I felt great  original.gif

#15 ubermum

Posted 09 December 2012 - 08:02 PM

I have had 3 straight forward deliveries. I had a lot of grazing after no.1 and felt like crap for weeks. No.2 and 3 were a walk in the park. I felt fine the same day, and with no.3, I left hospital in the hours after the birth and went home. We were all back in our normal routine the following day with a baby in tow.

#16 liveworkplay

Posted 09 December 2012 - 08:21 PM

I didn't notice a difference. DD2 was 28 hour labour and, although a bit tender from the episiotomy, felt great from get go. DD3 drug free unassisted 5 hour labour and again  bit tender from a slight tear, but went home early discharge as I was bored and raring to go.

#17 Myamum

Posted 09 December 2012 - 08:23 PM

I felt shocking after the first birth. I remember thinking to myself when bubs was a few weeks old why on earth do people go through this again. But the second time around, the birth was easier and quicker and the recovery was also quicker and I felt so much better. I think the second time around the body just knows what to do.

#18 lozoodle

Posted 10 December 2012 - 09:07 AM

I felt fine though it stung when I weed as I must have had a little graze.

My back also got quite sore from overdoing it when I had muscle separation, so I had to ease up on the heavy lifting.

Aside from that I felt pretty normal.

#19 elle-M

Posted 10 December 2012 - 03:47 PM

Both my labours were short and unmedicated and I felt truly elated and on top of cloud nine after both, but physically I felt A MILLION BUCKS after labour #2. I recovered a lot faster than the first time and was up and down, moving around straight away. The only thing that was worse the second time was the cramps (uterus contracting back) during breastfeeding - OUCH.

I can't wait for my third labour!!

#20 hollysmama

Posted 10 December 2012 - 03:53 PM

I felt worse after the second - but that may be due to having an episiotomy after my second delivery. It was really painful.  But in all honesty, once that healed up I actually feel like I recovered quicker.  Maybe because you have a toddler to look after you just get up and get on with it maybe, I"m not sure.  I also lost the weight faster this time as well.

#21 LifesGood

Posted 10 December 2012 - 03:58 PM

QUOTE (elle-M @ 10/12/2012, 04:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
The only thing that was worse the second time was the cramps (uterus contracting back) during breastfeeding - OUCH.

Oh yeah, forgot about those. Apparently they get worse with each subsequent pg?

#22 hollysmama

Posted 10 December 2012 - 04:12 PM

yes! cramps were worse the second time. forgot about that also.

#23 littleboysmum

Posted 10 December 2012 - 05:11 PM

Number 1 I felt exactly like you. I was in shock at how awful I felt for 5 weeks, even after a straightforward and fairly fast natural birth. With number 2 I felt fantastic almost straight away. I couldn't get over how different it was. The next morning I felt completely back to normal.

#24 erindiv

Posted 11 December 2012 - 11:33 AM

I feel mean but...

I felt fantastic. Like I hadn't given birth at all.

#25 elle-M

Posted 14 December 2012 - 08:12 PM

QUOTE (LifesGood @ 10/12/2012, 01:58 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Oh yeah, forgot about those. Apparently they get worse with each subsequent pg?


My Mum said her third baby the cramps got even worse than the second, and that it's common. She's a midwife too.

Not looking forward to that....  unsure.gif

Funny that I didn't need any drugs during labour but I did during breastfeeding because of those cramps - ha!! I find that a bit hilarious actually.



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