So upset right now
, Dec 09 2012 05:42 AM
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Posted 09 December 2012 - 05:42 AM
Hi lovely ladies,
Looks like December isnt going to be my month after all, missed my period, got an BFP but started bleeding and cramping
this is my second chemical pregnancy and Im so upset right now and havent told hubby yet. I just feel so lost going from happy to sad in such a short period of time. When will I get a sticky one
. Im trying to stay positive and know that it was just not meant to be but it is hard.
Is there anything that can be done to prevent any future chemical pregnancies or do you just keeping trying until you get a sticky one? I had just got referral to have bloods, doesnt look like I will be needing those now.
Anyway thanks everyone who is reading this.Any advice would be lovely.
Good luck to everyone
Posted 09 December 2012 - 06:40 AM
So sorry to hear you've had to go through it a second time
I can't really give you any advice, as I don't know too much about cp's, but really hoping you get a sticky one next time
The only thing I would say is that maybe you should still go for blood test? They may be able to tell you more? Also, not sure if it applies to CP's as well, but I believe if you have 3 MC's, they will then fast track testing of your 'plumbing' to try & identify any issues to help give you the best chances next time round? Hoping you don't have a third of course, but just saying not to lose hope, as there are plenty of things that can be done.
First step though is to let hubby know so he can give you great big hugs & you can both grieve for your loss. I can't imagine how you would be feeling right now, but an early loss is still a loss & I wish all us ladies in these forums could give you a big group hug right now
Posted 09 December 2012 - 06:52 AM
i also have no wisdom but agree to tell your dh so you can support each other.
Posted 09 December 2012 - 08:42 AM
Babyangelfever, I'm so sorry about your loss. It must be extremely disappointing after the excitement of a bfp. I do hope everything turns out for you.
Posted 09 December 2012 - 09:54 AM
So sorry Hun
I also had a chemical pregnancy this week
I've been doing a bit of reading & it doesn't seem there is a lot you can do to prevent it but some things have suggested vitamin b6 can be helpful. I'm planning to take 25mg 3x a day this month. It's important that if you do take it that you don't top abruptly though.
Posted 09 December 2012 - 11:17 AM
I am so sorry for your loss and just wanted to pass on my thoughts to you and your hubby. Wishing you all the best for your journey xo
Posted 09 December 2012 - 04:10 PM
Sorry for your loss OP. I've had back to back chemicals in October and November so I definitely know how your feeling. Nothing to say that can make you feel better just wanted you to know your not alone.
Posted 09 December 2012 - 04:17 PM
I am sorry for your loss. I had a number of early MC this year. My doctor believes that Vit D deficiancy is a contributing factor as I am not deloping a think lining. I have been taking Vit D for 3 months now and hoping out latest BFP is going to stick. We are 5 weeks 2 days and so far no bleeding so things are looking good. Perhaps it is worth getting your levels checked.
Posted 09 December 2012 - 04:34 PM
Just would like to say thank you for all the support. The ladies that have had this happen to them what did you do that helped you? I don't even remember how I handled it the first time I had one of these in 2010. My hubby has been super fantastic about this and we are just going through the motions. I don't want this take over and just want to keep trying.
Thanx for reading this
Posted 09 December 2012 - 05:04 PM
For me I tried to see it as a positive. At least I know the sperm mets egg is working, just have to work at the implantation issues now.
Posted 10 December 2012 - 05:22 AM
I'm so sorry, it's so upsetting. I had back-to-back chemicals in September and October. The first was at 5 weeks, the second at 4 and a half. I went to the dr both times and she did a blood test to check that the pregnancy hormones were going down as they should. The second time she ordered a whole heap of other blood tests, but they all came back normal, as she suspected they would. She suggested I take a multivitamin, but I've already been taking a pregnancy multivitamin and fish oil since july. She also suggested I take November off to let my hormones get back to normal before trying again. So I sat November out and am waiting to try again in December... The dr says if I have another one she'll refer me to a gynaecologist who will do more testing, ultrasounds etc. I really hope I don't need it!
Both times I felt better after the bleeding stopped. Now I am just impatient to get pregnant again, but also trying not to think about it too much and concentrating on other things. DH is good at reminding me not to get fixated on dates. I really want it to work out this month but he says we can't expect that, and should work on a three month timeframe instead...
It did also help to go the dr and get it recorded, so that if it keeps happening i can get extra help...
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