Using your maiden name
Would do / did you?
, Dec 08 2012 04:18 PM
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Posted 08 December 2012 - 04:18 PM
Baby #3 is due in June and we pretty much have names picked out, however if this baby is a boy, I am considering using my maiden name as a middle name (or second middle name). Luckily my maiden name is a simple four letter actual boys name (just spelled slightly differently, I'll use John below as an example) so I think it would work pretty well, although DH doesn't like it much.
Has anyone else used their maiden name for a child?
And, what are your thoughts on two middle names vs. one? Good idea or a pain?
The options would be:
Frederick William *John* M--------
Frederick *John* M--------
Is the double middle name too long? Our surname is an easy one but 3 syllables. Problem is William is a family name on both sides that we love too. Hmmmm........
Posted 08 December 2012 - 04:22 PM
I think that would be fine either way, especially since your maiden name only has one syllable.
This is a lovely idea, I intend to do something similar with my mother's maiden name when I have a child (and her's is an odd Dutch name!)
Posted 08 December 2012 - 04:27 PM
Good question because I have a maiden name that would be useable as a boy's middle name. I think I'd go for it, if it went with the other name/s I'd picked out. I'm an only child so it would be nice.
I prefer only one middle name but I don't think two would be too much of a problem. They rarely get used in real life
Posted 08 December 2012 - 04:27 PM
My kids all have two middle names.... One from each side of the family.
Day to day they are known as first last name.
I have a double barrel surname (kept maiden name and added married name) but also day to day go by first last.
Posted 08 December 2012 - 04:30 PM
A second name is generally not used. Just on official forms usually. Unless of course your son really likes it and uses it as his first name.
Posted 08 December 2012 - 04:31 PM
My husband is Portuguese and the first male always has his mothers maiden name as his middle name.
Posted 08 December 2012 - 04:32 PM
Both my sons have my maiden name as their middle names. There is no way I would not have given them my name is some way. My maiden name is used as a surname and also a first name for male or females so it fit in whatever gender anyway.
Posted 08 December 2012 - 04:42 PM
It is also a Scottish naming tradition for the first male to have his mothers maiden name as his middle name. Has certainly helped us in tracing our family tree!
Posted 08 December 2012 - 04:53 PM
My kids have two middle names with one being my maiden name - that was the compromise instead of a hyphenated surname.
Posted 08 December 2012 - 04:58 PM
my DD2 has my maiden name as her middle name - its a name that works well for a boy or a girl. No problems at all except from MIL but that was hardly unexpected considering she wanted her to be called Myfanwy
Posted 08 December 2012 - 04:59 PM
Absolutely! DS has two middle names, one being my maiden name. I didn't change my name when married so it made sense to us to have in there but neither of us loved the double barreled or hyphenated surname. Having said that, be prepared for everyone to assume that it's a double barreled surname
Posted 08 December 2012 - 05:19 PM
Thank you for your input everyone, seems pretty common. I think I'd regret it if I didn't use it. I just spoke to DH about it then and he's fine with it
Edited by elle-M, 08 December 2012 - 05:20 PM.
Posted 08 December 2012 - 05:25 PM
I think it's lovely!
DS' first name is almost the same as my maiden name - just 2 different letters at the end.
I think it's a nice nod to "your" side of the family names wise.
Posted 08 December 2012 - 05:29 PM
Use your name.
Posted 08 December 2012 - 06:01 PM
Yep, both of my kids have my surname as a second middle name. No issues whatsoever - it's there for family history's sake and is dropped in every day use. Sure, forms are pretty long to fill out, but that's it.
I'm so happy it's there in their names - I never took my husband's last name so it's very fitting they have each of our last names
I never wanted to hyphenate, and have had no problems with anyone assuming their names are hyphenated. Middle names are used so little in my experience, but it's meaningful to you so do it.
Edited by antigone_, 08 December 2012 - 06:02 PM.
Posted 09 December 2012 - 10:21 AM
I would do it. Really nice to have a link to mum.How perfect that it is a boy's name too!
Posted 09 December 2012 - 10:29 AM
My Mum had her Mother's maiden name as her middle name - it was a bit odd as she was the only one of the 8 siblings that did!
Combined with her unusual first name she had a VERY cool name indeed - and when she changed her surname when she married my Dad she even got some alliteration in there!
Posted 09 December 2012 - 11:44 AM
My middle name is my mom's maiden name. It's a "real name" though it's a boy's. I don't mind it, though on lots of forms and in my handwriting signature it's only the initial.
I would consider using my maiden name as a middle but personally I'd not use more than 1 middle name to a customer.
Posted 09 December 2012 - 11:46 AM
All three of my girls have my maiden name (old english male name) as their only middle name.
Posted 09 December 2012 - 06:53 PM
DH has MILs maiden name as his middle name, so I say go for it.
Posted 09 December 2012 - 07:16 PM
I'm angling for the inclusion of my maiden name for our little one. Although I kept my maiden name as a second middle name when we got married - just tacked hubby's name on the end.
In my family we also have a particular middle name that has been passed down through the generations.
So if I have my way
our baby will be FirstName FamilyName MaidenName Surname.
Posted 09 December 2012 - 07:20 PM
We used my mums maiden name as DS's middle name. It's a legit boys name too, and much nicer then my middle name, so I don't see why you shouldn't!
Posted 09 December 2012 - 07:23 PM
My kids also have two middle names, one being my surname. It's not a short one either. I think your idea is fine, either way.
Ditto. Like my children, I also have two middle names, the second being my mothers maiden name. My sister's kids are boys and have only one middle name, her (and my) maiden name.
Posted 09 December 2012 - 07:32 PM
My sister used our maiden name for my nephew. It's Ryan so worked well for a boy.
Posted 10 December 2012 - 08:27 AM
All my kids (b&g) have my maiden name as their second middle name, it is not a name that would ever be used as a first name but its fine
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