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#1 steffijade81

Posted 08 December 2012 - 12:53 PM

Hi everyone,

Im very anxious at the moment and need some advice from any ladies that have suffered with severe all day morning sickness and had a toddler. My pregnancy this time has not been without its dramas... I have had bleeding on and off and have a scan next Thursday to see if everything is ok. In the past 2 weeks I have been very ill... the past week being the worst. With my DD I also had severe morning sickness but was able to get by on Zofran and sleeping through most of the day. I'm taking Zofran again... around 12mg a day at the moment. If I go without the zofran I vomit to the point of hospitalisation every couple of days to be rehyrdrated. It is my life saver. Even with it though I have severe nausea and can only stomach icy lemon cordial and salt and vinegar pringles. My poor little girl is spending her days watching dvds and playing on the loungeroom floor while I lay on the couch. I feel like a terrible mum. I still manage to play puzzles and colouring in when Im having a good moment and obviously pick my time so she gets a bath and somehow manage to feed and change her and attend to the basics. Im not worried about her general care but I am worried about her sleep routine and her getting bored. I have no family support and only 1 close friend who is also pregnant and suffering morning sickness herself. I could handle a bit of nausea or even if I got a break at some point from it but apart from an hour when I first wake up it is just plain awful. If I dont lay down and take the zofran regularly I am just a vomiting dehydrated mess. Does anyone who's been in the same situation have any words of wisdom for me???

#2 pem

Posted 09 December 2012 - 04:49 PM

No words of wisdom but just want to let you know you are not alone. I'm in my 14th week of all day sickness and wouldn't survive at all without my meds. My DS is 2 and at the moment watches far more tv than I would like and also games on the iPad. It's not ideal but its all we can do to get thru the day. I definitely have days where I feel like the worst mum ever (especially  when I combine all this with take way for dinner) but I just have to hope like hell it eases soon and I can once again concentrate on him. Best of luck to you xx


Edited by pem, 09 December 2012 - 04:51 PM.


#3 Starrydawn

Posted 09 December 2012 - 04:56 PM

You poor thing. Check out the Hyperemesis  support group on this site and the helpher.org site and you wont feel so alone.

There is no way I could do it again with a toddler. I hope you feel better soon.



#4 SpunkyMonkey88

Posted 09 December 2012 - 04:57 PM

No words of wisdom here, only that it will pass, My DS was 2 when I was pregnant with DD. he did a lot of things with me laid on a pillow next to him.

As long as you are getting to her basic needs don't stress about the time or attention, she will get it soon again when you are feeling better or when Bub 2 is born.

#5 tick

Posted 09 December 2012 - 04:59 PM

When I was pregnant with my second I reckon my first watched about 6 hours of TV a day.  God it was bad, but that's just how it had to be, I could hardly get off the couch either.  She ate a lot of two-minute noodles (with frozen veg and tuna) for dinner during this time also!  I can't even look at a packet of noodles or the miffy DVD now without feeling nauseous!


I also invited as many friends/relatives as I could over (ones who knew I was pregnant at least) so that there was often some other entertainment for her..... and some emotional support for me too.  There were some really dark days for a few weeks there and I really needed it.

Good luck OP, it's hard.

#6 kidwrangler

Posted 09 December 2012 - 05:02 PM

I think you just need to accept what is and do what you can to get through it. Your child is not neglected and needs you there even if you are laying down. Better than missing you when you are hospitalised from over-doing it. I had hyperemesis with my first pregnancy, and more moderate but still constant morning sickness with my second.

You could start the day with dragging out a few games or puzzles to put on the floor in front of the couch for your DD to do if she bores of the TV.

When exhasuted during my second pregnancy, I would lay a blanket out in the backyard and just let my DD explore around me. She loved bringing me back leaves or flowers, telling me about bugs and looking at the clouds. That was over 4 years ago and she still loves doing the same thing.

You aren't the only Mum with a child planted in front of the TV, and while it's not what you hoped for, it is what needs to be for this point in time. I think dropping the guilt and stress is the first step towards looking after yourself. You are allowed to look after yourself.

There is a Hyperemesis buddy group in the specialised group section. They might have some more words of wisdom. Hope I helped.

#7 steffijade81

Posted 09 December 2012 - 05:36 PM

Thank you to all who replied. I am having a very dark day today. PP I appriciate your advice and I have accepted it for what it is but still it is hard and depressing and right now I feel like Im in a hole. Im very depressed and do feel guilty for not being able to spend more quality time with my DD. I do understand that you just have to do what you have to do to get through each day but Im sure Im not the only one that feels like this.

Chedasha thanks for the website I will check it out. Just somewhere to chat to other people going through the same. I am taking zofran 3 times a day and while it does stop most of the vomiting it doesnt do much for the extreme nausea and occasional power chucks. I think Ive tried everything else. Just have to wait it out I guess.


Pem, Im glad Im not alone in feeling like a bad mum. I will not be having anymore children, this is just too much to cope with. Id rather do birth 5 times over than have this. It's so debilitating. I really hope it ends for you soon hun. 14 weeks you must be so over it. I cant remember if I found it easier to cope with as the weeks went by, have you found that? Has it eased for you at all?

Tick, I think I may have to send my husband on his day off tomorrow to get 10 new videos from the video store for my princess. She's so bored of the ones she has. It's good to know others have been there. Ughhh how did you handle the smell of tuna?? I know what you mean, I won't be able to look at another Dora dvd after this.

Spunky Monkey, thanks, I will try not to stress and thanks Kidwrangler for the blanket idea... maybe thats something I can do with her on a good day although it would have to be at the park for us as we have no lawn.


Im struggling with smells. I had to throw out some hand wash and deodorant yesterday and very much struggle when changing DD's poo nappy. Thanks for all your replies. I appriciate the support x

#8 rosiebird

Posted 09 December 2012 - 08:27 PM

You poor thing, I feel for you! I had to work with severe MS but I think looking after a toddler would be harder. Just remember that 'this too will pass' and reduce your expectations about DVD- watching etc - it doesn't matter in the long run if your toddler watches too much TV for a few weeks! Also, there are other options as well as zofran so maybe a GP visit is in order. Good luck.

#9 kavya12

Posted 09 December 2012 - 08:33 PM

Can you send her to casual child care fr a couple of hours so that you can get a break?

#10 Unatheowl

Posted 09 December 2012 - 08:35 PM

Op, you sound just like i did when pregnant with dd.  I,used to open my eyes in the morning and burst into tears because I was just so tired and sick.  The day would go downhill from then. I got so depressed I ended up on medication and contemplated termination as I felt I could not go on.  I can understand that black place.

Luckily for me I managed to drag myself out of the house and get to my mum's - she would then take ds to the shops and I could sleep for a little while.  My ds would not watch videos He was pretty full on :(Do you have anyone you can rely in regularly to be with you?  Family, others with toddlers?  I couldn't have done it without that support.  I totally understand how awful it can be.  Hang in there.  I also sought counselling as I was having worrying thoughts.  This is also an avenue for support.

#11 winkywonkeydonkey

Posted 09 December 2012 - 09:01 PM

QUOTE (tick @ 09/12/2012, 04:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
When I was pregnant with my second I reckon my first watched about 6 hours of TV a day.  God it was bad, but that's just how it had to be, I could hardly get off the couch either.  She ate a lot of two-minute noodles (with frozen veg and tuna) for dinner during this time also!  I can't even look at a packet of noodles or the miffy DVD now without feeling nauseous!


This was me with my 2nd pregnancy. I had a 2 year old as well and it was so hard. Lots of me lying on the couch while he watched a movie and  noodles for his lunch. Also i would lie outside on a picnic blanket so he could run around the yard. It was hardwork getting outside though .

There are movies i cannot watch now as i get flashbacks to the nausea.

My Dh would do all housework and all care of ds when he got home from work. He would spend a few hours playing with him every afternoon. Make sure your Dh is doing as much as possible or if he can get home earlier everyday as that would help alot.

Dont worry about sleep routines, thats not important in the grande scheme of things. Take it one day at a time.
I too had very dark days. Once i got to about 20 weeks, i still had morning sickness but I felt more normal.

Eventually things get easier. Hopefully your Ms eases up soon. Keep up that icy lemonade!

Edited by winkywonkeydonkey, 09 December 2012 - 09:08 PM.


#12 monkeys mum

Posted 09 December 2012 - 11:41 PM

Do you have somewhere near you that does occasional care?

My youngest goes to childcare one day per week, i use that day to sleep.

For dinner, poached eggs on toast or baked beans on toast happens here, dd loves making the dinner when im so exhausted i cant stand so i sit at the table and supervise.

One tip is when you are feeling ok in the morning make the days snacks and lunch and pack a lunch box for your toddlet.

Wooden jigsaws are a hit here and so are some fave tv shows that we record on foxtel, so yes way too much tv happens but ds doesnt complain, also stories get read or made up through out the day, or we lie together singing silly songs. Ds will sometimes have a nap with me too

Goodluck

#13 steffijade81

Posted 10 December 2012 - 11:32 PM

Thanks girls for your replies. I have seen my gp today and got the zofran wafers to start on tomorrow so hoping they help more than the tablets. He also has put me on a higher dose. I asked about other medications but he said thats about it considering we have exhausted all the maxalon, stemitil kind. My DH was home today so I had a easier day which was nice. My husband works from 10am till midnight 6 days a week and I have no family support and just one friend that is pregnant and has a toddler as well. I was having a good hour in the morning but that seems to have changed now. 7pm seems to be the good hour now so I am using that time to have a shower, bath my DD and get her food sorted as much as possible for the next day. I don't know of any occasional care in my area and to be honest I dont think we could afford it with the $250 a fortnight with the zofran. This will be my last baby, I hate saying that but it is just so horrible. I got told today I have hyperemesis something or other. Apparently the same thing Kate Middleton has... Luckily my dd is happy to play with puzzles and colouring in/craft most of the day. DH took her out today so she's had a full on day. My house is fairly clean which feels nice. The poor thing works so many hours then helped me so much, Im lucky I have him.

It helps to chat to you guys on here, thankyou for your support. Its nice to know others have been there and made it out the other side. I really appriciate your responses.

Edited by steffijade81, 10 December 2012 - 11:33 PM.





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