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#1 ~Mo+Moosh~

Posted 07 December 2012 - 10:03 AM

DS1 has a mid January birthday. This is his first year at school. In the past we have always had his birthday party at the time of his birthday as it didn't really matter.

This year it will be school holidays and I'm not sure whether to still have his party at the time of his birthday and invite his school friends before school breaks up and just accept that some (maybe quite a few) won't be able to make it due to being away.

Or wait until school goes back in February and invite his friends then and have the party a week or two after school goes back.

What do you do?

#2 Morts!

Posted 07 December 2012 - 10:09 AM

My DD's birthday is 22nd January and we always have her party during the holidays. We just post the invitations to her friends. It's a great excuse for a catch up with all her friends before school goes back a couple of weeks later.

My other DD's birthday is 3rd February (will be the day before school goes back) so we're probably going to hand out invitations on the first day of school and have her party the next weekend.

#3 Sandra

Posted 07 December 2012 - 10:10 AM

Have his birthday on  his birthday at that age I would say.  Hand out invites before school finishes and maybe see if you can get contact numbers to re prompt  closer to the time?

My son's birthday is always on a holiday, ANZAC day.. and often it occurs mid school holidays as well.

As he got older I gave him  the  choice of when he would prefer to have his party.

#4 peking homunculus

Posted 07 December 2012 - 10:42 AM

DS is Dec 29 and DD is Jan 13. We hold their parties one month early. Otherwise it is too much hassle for everyone. Works fine, they like the extended b'day and no one has ever questioned this approach.

#5 **Xena**

Posted 07 December 2012 - 10:55 AM

My son has a birthday on the 30th of Dec- this is one of the crappiest days you can be born I have discovered as people are either still away for Christmas or going away for New Years!

We now hold a party for him at the end of Nov/start of Dec. If he had a late jan birthday I'd hold it  in Feb

#6 sparassidae

Posted 07 December 2012 - 10:58 AM

2 December birthdays here (21 and 23) and we have always done parties in early December or late November. This year we did one a couple of weeks ago and having one next Monday night (already on school holidays here so a midweek night party is fine).

For January I would wait until the new school year and have a party a couple of weeks into term.

#7 No girls here

Posted 07 December 2012 - 10:58 AM

DS2 has a mid January birthday and we have always done parties during the holidays.  There are always some kids that can't make it though.

This year is not a party year so he is allowed to do something with one friend, and his chosen friend is in Korea until the week school goes back, so we will be waiting until after the holidays.

#8 Maple Leaf

Posted 07 December 2012 - 11:00 AM

DD is dec 19th. This year she was adamant about having her party as close to her actual birthday as possible. I warned her this may be a disaster and unfortunately it hasn't turned out well with so many of her friends being away and it just simply may not happen now at all. *I haven't filled her in on that yet, as I'm still trying to pull something magical out of my hat!*

Lesson learned though and I think she will listen to me about having it before the school year finishes next time! Poor thing.

#9 belindarama

Posted 07 December 2012 - 11:29 AM

I am December 19 as well. It is a tricky time of year. DS1 is jan 4 and we are having his party tomorrow. I sent invites super early to give people time to plan, even so we have only a little over half coming.

This is his first year with lots of friends his own age and I wanted to make the most of it. I didn't want to do it when school goes back as classes will be a different makeup and I thought it might be hard for him to work out who to invite and coordinate it as soon as school goes back.

#10 2bundles

Posted 07 December 2012 - 11:36 AM

DD is 16 Dec and we always celebrate on the day.  It actually works out well because noone knows who got invited etc because they are not at school.  Last year we had the whole class.  They finish school end Nov, and yet about 20/25 still came to the party in mid Dec.

This year she is having a smaller event, but still only friend can't make it.

#11 kittennic

Posted 07 December 2012 - 11:39 AM

Both my boys have birthdays in the Christmas holidays. DS1 is in year 2 this year and his birthday is Dec 18th. For the last couple of years we've brought his party forward to the first weekend after school breaks up. We lose one or two kids who have already gone on holidays, but most can make it at that time. If we leave it later then most of Christmas-related events booked.

DS2 is an early Jan (8th) baby, and we are still having his party near his birthday and not worrying so much whether his friends can come, as it's likely that most of them can anyway (we've chatted about various holiday plans). When it becomes more important to him and/or lots of his close friends will be away, then we'll bring his party probably to just before school starts the following year (so a few weeks after his birthday).

#12 3hearts

Posted 07 December 2012 - 11:39 AM

My son's birthday is 28th December.  Nobody is ever around.  We managed to have his first decent party this year (turning 6).  We invited his whole class (18) and 11 kids came. The party was held on 2 December.  It was also first weekend of school holidays so we knew there still be a chance not many turning up but it ended up a great number.

#13 BadCat

Posted 07 December 2012 - 11:45 AM

DS has a Jan 12 birthday.  If we were having a party with lots of school friends we alwyas waited until school went back.  It's just easier.

#14 Walkers

Posted 07 December 2012 - 11:50 AM

I've got 2 girls on the same day, 3rd of Jan. So many people take holidays around this time so there is no point in planning a party around the birth date. We just wait until school goes back.

Edited to make sense

Edited by FoxyRetro*Gal, 07 December 2012 - 11:52 AM.

#15 lamarque

Posted 07 December 2012 - 11:53 AM

DD is 23 Dec. We always hold it three/four weeks early and we still get a few who can't attend (dance concerts etc).

#16 Coffeegirl

Posted 07 December 2012 - 12:04 PM

DS is the 30th Jan so always seems to be the first day of the school year.  The last two years he didn't have his new class settled until the 3rd day of the term.  

I send in cupcakes to cover the class on his birthday, then once the classes are settled DS has a party mid-late Feb.  It's a good way for him to include new classmates and old .

#17 Feral Grey Mare

Posted 07 December 2012 - 12:10 PM

DD is January 10th. We always had her parties on the actual birthday when she was in primary school. Invitations were handed out before the holidays and we always invited more than we really wanted to as many were away at that time of year. Only got caught out once when 15 RSVPd so made late change to ten pin bowling party to accomodate so many.

#18 Phascogale

Posted 07 December 2012 - 12:36 PM

As it's his first year of school I would hold his birthday as close to the actual day as possible and only invite the friends he has now ie child care/kinder.  Organise it with the parents now or alternatively get addresses and phone numbers and post the invites out in the new year.  (sometimes too much notice and it doesn't work well as people forget so short notice works well).

Unless he's going to school with most of his kinder friends - then you you can either have it on his birthday as you'll have all the contact details or a couple of weeks into school.  Depending on the area, some kids go to their FYOS knowing only a couple of kids (that they may not be friends with) if any at all.  Then it's really difficult to organise a party unless you plan in inviting the whole class.  If you do this then I'd probably have it in the 2nd or 3rd week of school.

Your child can also have a much smaller party with his closest 2 or 3 friends on his birthday and not a big extravaganza.

This year I did a slumber party (2-3 invitees) for one of my kids a couple of days before school went back (gave out invites on 2nd last day of term).  If I'm organized I either send out invites in the last week of school for a party a day or two before school goes back or if I'm not organised then a party on the first or second weekend back.

As the kids get older it's easier because they only want their closest friends at their party and you generally have those contact details and you can speak to the parents before organising something anyway (to work out what will work best that particular year).

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