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#1 Guest_- Poppy -_*

Posted 06 December 2012 - 03:33 PM

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Edited by 3Bella3, 15 December 2012 - 09:17 AM.


#2 missjoads1234

Posted 06 December 2012 - 03:36 PM

I think most people in their right mind know its a very rude thing to say.

#3 Chaos in stereo

Posted 06 December 2012 - 03:37 PM

I think it's *supposed* to be complimentary to say it to a man about his (female) partner, but I think it's creepy.

#4 lamarque

Posted 06 December 2012 - 03:39 PM

I think between two men who are friends it's a joke between the two of them and a compliment to you.

No my DH wouldn't be offended, nor would I.

#5 steppy

Posted 06 December 2012 - 03:40 PM

I might say this about people, but I would never say it to either member of the couple unless I didn't mind making them feel sad and uncomfortable. It's funny - I kind of get it between men though I do still see it as a put down for the man, but there is no way in hell I'd expect a female friend to laugh if I told her she was punching above her weight.

Edited by steppy, 06 December 2012 - 03:41 PM.


#6 missjoads1234

Posted 06 December 2012 - 03:40 PM

How the hell is someone telling you that you're overweight ment to be a compliment? Please someone correct me if i have read the OP wrong??

#7 MummyIHK

Posted 06 December 2012 - 03:42 PM

If someone said it to DH about me he would probably say something like 'Hell yeah, I got a good one' (in a joking way).
If someone said it to me I would be a little offended.

#8 JaneLane

Posted 06 December 2012 - 03:43 PM

I have been around people saying that to DH when he first introduced them to me. It is meant as a compliment but I can see how it could be offensive to some. DH always thought it was funny and agreed with them as he thought the same way.  If he was insecure then I think it would have felt they were being mean to him and make him feel worse, luckily he isn't like that but people should probably keep opinions like that to themselves

#9 mpoppins92

Posted 06 December 2012 - 03:43 PM

Offensive

#10 MummyIHK

Posted 06 December 2012 - 03:43 PM

QUOTE (missjoads1234 @ 06/12/2012, 04:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
How the hell is someone telling you that you're overweight ment to be a compliment? Please someone correct me if i have read the OP wrong??


Not overweight punching above your weight as in your partner is better looking then you are handsome or vice versa wink.gif

Edited by MummyIHK, 06 December 2012 - 03:44 PM.


#11 JECJEC

Posted 06 December 2012 - 03:45 PM

QUOTE (missjoads1234 @ 06/12/2012, 04:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
How the hell is someone telling you that you're overweight ment to be a compliment? Please someone correct me if i have read the OP wrong??

It doesn't mean their overweight. It means that have hooked up with someone better looking then themselves.

#12 Liv_FERAL_sh

Posted 06 December 2012 - 03:45 PM

I tell my DH that all the time!!!

Seriously though, who says that to someone they just met... I'd find it rude and a bit weird and probably give them a bit of  huh.gif

#13 lynneyours

Posted 06 December 2012 - 03:46 PM

I think between two men who are friends it's supposed to be a joke between the two of them and a compliment to you.

I've never heard it said to someone's face and/or in front of their partner though. That would be rude, and I'd feel uncomfortable being the one above and upset if I was the one 'punching'.
Even DH who comes across as brash at best, to downright rude at worst a lot of the time wouldn't say such a thing.

However - to say to a stranger that they had hooked up with someone out of their league, is REALLY rude and I would avoid that person from then on, most likely.

Edited by lynnemine, 06 December 2012 - 03:48 PM.


#14 librablonde

Posted 06 December 2012 - 03:46 PM

OP, it's totally offensive and I'd be pretty unimpressed no matter whether it was me or my DP that was being commented upon. It reminds me of when I was a teenager and my mum wanted me to lose weight. She told me (as she referred to my boyfriend of the time) that "You'd catch a better class of man if you lost weight". FFS  rant.gif  FWIW, my boyfriend of the time was a lovely, lovely person and my mum just couldn't see past his dorky appearance.

#15 missjoads1234

Posted 06 December 2012 - 03:46 PM

Oh thank you now i get it!! Geez the blonde in me has been right on track today!  ddoh.gif

In light of that - i dont think it's a nice thing to say personally. Esp if they didnt know us too well?

#16 countrychic29

Posted 06 December 2012 - 03:47 PM

Im not offended...but nor do i feel particularly complimented either when people say it to our faces.
Behind our backs they boys can say whatever they like.
It is not a phrase im fond of, and not talking myself up at all but DH gets this a lot off friends of his when i first meet them. It bores him that, that is all they can come up with.
I think DH is hot! wink.gif so i dont see why we get this comment as im no supermodel.

#17 niggles

Posted 06 December 2012 - 03:47 PM

It's a cliched platitude usually said to one person but is intended to be a compliment to their partner. Punching above weight has nothing to do with weight - it's just a boxing term for when you are boxing a much heavier opponent, ie one that is a better boxer than you. Taken as it is intended it means 'your partner is great and you are very lucky to have her'. Taken more literally it means 'wow, she's too good for the likes of you.' Which is not offensive between people who are used to telling each other they suck - which seems to be the dynamic between my husband and pretty much all of his friends. wink.gif

#18 Guest_- Poppy -_*

Posted 06 December 2012 - 03:47 PM

QUOTE (missjoads1234 @ 06/12/2012, 03:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
How the hell is someone telling you that you're overweight ment to be a compliment? Please someone correct me if i have read the OP wrong??



http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?...20your%20weight

1) To be in a situation that requires powers or abilities that one does not possess.

2) To be (temporarily) successful in such a situation.

From boxing; a fighter who is punching above his weight is fighting an opponent who is heavier and more dominant.You're only a freshman, so take an intro class. Don't try to punch above your weight.

West Bromwich Albion are punching above their weight in the Premier League. They'll soon be back in the second division where they belong.

Jeff was punching above his weight when he was dating Liz. She's way too hot for him.

Edited by - Poppy -, 06 December 2012 - 03:49 PM.


#19 Mrs Bouquet

Posted 06 December 2012 - 03:50 PM

One of my DH's colleagues said this to him the first time I met the guy. DH and I both laughed. It was a light hearted comment and clearly not meant to be offensive.

#20 jaylo

Posted 06 December 2012 - 03:51 PM

How the hell is someone telling you that you're overweight ment to be a compliment? Please someone correct me if i have read the OP wrong??

Hi, punching above your weight means that the person referred to is 'out of their league' such as an 'average' looking man with an extremely beautiful woman. It has nothing to do with weight. :-)

Sorry, lots of other people answered while I was typing lol

Edited by jaylo, 06 December 2012 - 03:54 PM.


#21 boatiebabe

Posted 06 December 2012 - 03:52 PM

It's a pretty clumsy way of giving someone a compliment - to the man and woman. ie the woman is gorgeous and the man is 'lucky' to be in possession of such beauty.  rolleyes.gif I have heard this used by my DH and to my DH by friends etc.

I've never considered it anything to offended about.



#22 kpingitquiet

Posted 06 December 2012 - 03:55 PM

It's generally meant as a compliment if said to a man, an insult if said to a woman. The idea being that only a relationship where the woman is the "better catch" is successful and that a "lesser woman" can't be expected to keep her man loyal  rolleyes.gif

Either way, I think it's a pretty dumbass thing to say.

#23 heffalumpsnwoozles

Posted 06 December 2012 - 03:56 PM

I've had this from most of DH's workmates. They're all geeks, and I am a total hottie so I take it as a compliment. wink.gif  I usually respond in kind, something like "Yep, I'm with him for his money". It's just light hearted hassling among mates.

#24 PrincessPeach

Posted 06 December 2012 - 04:01 PM

Very much depends upon who said it & how it is said.

DH's very best mate has said that to him on occasions, however it is done in good humor. I've also had one of DH's clients say that to him with me there & from the guy I actually found it offensive, though it might have had something to do with him being a bit of a sleeze anyway.

#25 cinnabubble

Posted 06 December 2012 - 04:03 PM

It's meant to be a compliment and it's a pretty standard form of small talk. I'd roll my eyes because my partner is empirically better looking than I, not because there's anything more offensive than thoughtless chauvinism in the comment.




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