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#1 nangali

Posted 06 December 2012 - 02:03 PM

Hi,
I'm new to the forums but looking for other people in the same/similar boat. I'm a single woman starting IVF (down reg) this month. I'm going the solo route because after some tests I was told my chances of conceiving are too slim to wait for a partner - 4% I was told but who knows.... AMH less than 1 amongst other things. I'm 33. It was a huge shock to find all that out, out of the blue. But I was ready to have a child and I am happy to be on the journey - the hard bit now is knowing it might not happen. I'm feeling pretty isolated, despite a supportive family and friends network, because no-one I know has done IVF before, and definitely not as a single. I am finding I am wanting to withdraw entirely from everyone, be alone a lot and just micro-manage my environment (eating, meds, exercise) just so nothing can stuff up my chances. I think I'm getting pretty hard to be around. Just looking for people out there to connect with as I start this journey. I've been quite positive until this week and suddenly I feel it's all too much on my own.
Thanks

#2 Lottie*

Posted 06 December 2012 - 03:17 PM

Best of luck to you nangali.    I think you are incredibly brave to be doing this on your own.  My only advice is to make sure you do have a support group, one that can give you a cuddle on the hard days.  Just a handful of people that you can go around to and have a verbal spill or a cup of tea (herbal!) with or just have the company of.

I went through IVF in 2010 with my DH only.  It wasnt the needles or the procedures it was odd other reactions that were had that made some days pretty hard and i think having all those hormones makes it all seem that much more extreme.  

its huge, no denying.  For me it was the extreme sense of "what if" and "why cant it be easier" and all that. But you are giving it your all and just honour that. Do what you need to do, if you need to bow out of life for a bit - do it. I had a really similar reaction.  

There are some amazing and lovely people in the buddy groups that can help with the adventure that you are on and provide some virtual support - this helps me no end.  Soon you will be counting follicles and growth and waiting for fertilisation and all the other amazing milestones.

Will be looking out for your good news!

#3 nangali

Posted 06 December 2012 - 05:01 PM

Thanks Lottie. It's so nice to know other people know what it feels like. I appreciate your thoughts, and I'll be sure to keep updating my progress on here or in the buddy groups - it's great to have a lifeline!
Cheers

#4 Gordo's Girl

Posted 07 December 2012 - 01:48 PM

Hi nangali, and best of luck in your journey.  I think you're very brave going through this alone, and glad you can share your story, as I'm sure there's plenty of others that are in the same boat.

There is a Low Ovarian Reserve Buddy Group, and you are wlecome to join us in there.  You'll find a few of us that have very low AMH but have still had success.  

Feel free to pop in there any time you need to chat, and if you have any questions you need answered original.gif






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