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#1 lovepink

Posted 06 December 2012 - 10:03 AM

My fiance and I are getting married within the week. Once the Wedding is done, we would pretty much like to start trying for a baby ASAP. We definitely want to be pregnant by February.

So, my silly question is - should we just start having unprotected sex? Or is it better to chart/do all that technical stuff in order to conceive? blush.gif

ETA - I stopped taking the pill last week. In previous times of stopping the pill my period came roughly 25-28 days afterwards.

Edited by lovepink, 06 December 2012 - 10:04 AM.


#2 PrincessPeach

Posted 06 December 2012 - 10:18 AM

To start with, i'd say just go for it.

Even when you are charting there is no guarantee you will be pregnant within a certain timeframe - however it will help to pinpoint the optimal time to try.

#3 Hands Up

Posted 06 December 2012 - 02:31 PM

I would say just go for it without protection. The last thing you want to be doing on your honeymoon is charting! Plenty of time for that later......

#4 Poseidon768

Posted 06 December 2012 - 04:10 PM

Just go for the unprotected sex (feels better too wink.gif ).
Aim to get a lot of action within the week after your period finished wink.gif biggrin.gif

Good luck!

#5 jules095

Posted 06 December 2012 - 04:17 PM

QUOTE (lovepink @ 06/12/2012, 11:03 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
We definitely want to be pregnant by February.
I wish you luck, but you should really not put a timeline on falling pregnant, just in case you are not.


#6 zingy

Posted 06 December 2012 - 04:24 PM

Just go for the unprotected sex and try not to think about it too much.

Don't chart and all that unless you have to down the track.

The more relaxed the better!

Good luck!

P.S. My tip for success is: You need to let him go first IYKWIM - sorry for TMI.

Edited by zingy, 06 December 2012 - 04:26 PM.


#7 Spring Chickadee

Posted 06 December 2012 - 04:25 PM

charting took all the fun and romance out of it which is the last thing you want as a newlywed. Just stop using protection and have lots of fun sex!

I found the worst thing I could do is put timelines on TTC, it doesn’t happen because you want it to more and missing that deadline can upset you unnecessarily. I was married, healthy and at the young age of 21 when we started trying, it took me well over a year.


#8 Moffetta

Posted 06 December 2012 - 04:26 PM

I'd say just go for it, but be aware it can take time for your body to get back to normal after being on the pill. It took me 6 months to fall pregnant after stopping the pill. Don't put time expectations on these things or it could lead to disappointment.  Good luck.

#9 godonlyknows

Posted 06 December 2012 - 04:34 PM

biggrin.gif  i wouldn't chart but i do advise that if you really want to fall quickly then try not to get up straight  after you've had sex as this can make it harder for the sperm to reach the egg, some reckomend laying on your back for at least 10 minutes, and i have also read to put a pillow under your bum this will help the little fellas get to where they need to go biggrin.gif Hope this helps xx

#10 Froyo

Posted 06 December 2012 - 04:43 PM

QUOTE (jules095 @ 06/12/2012, 05:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I wish you luck, but you should really not put a timeline on falling pregnant, just in case you are not.

Definitely this. Just DTD every couple of days to begin with.

Actually getting up after DTD is proven to make no difference. What comes out is semen and by then it has served it's purpose.

#11 Dylan's Mummy

Posted 06 December 2012 - 04:46 PM

I don't agree that your body needs time to get back to normal after being on the pill. Plenty of people get pregnant straight away, most people don't.  Plenty of people get pregnant by accident because they take antibiotics and don't listen to their doctor when they are to,d to use alernative protection. The pill can mask problems that were already there.  People who usually use condoms take the same amount of time.

I wouldn't do any charting. Most people ovulate about 2 weeks after the first day of their last period, be sure to have sex in the time frame of 2 days either side of that 2 week mark.

Just be prepared that it may not happen straight away. It is perfectly normal to take 6 months or more. If you are still not pregnant in 12 months, that is when you should consider seeing someone about it.

#12 Mootmoot

Posted 06 December 2012 - 04:57 PM

Start taking folate and just go for it!

There's plenty of online tools that work out for you when you ovulate and so tell you when the best window for conception is (usually a 4 day period, with a couple of peak and shoulder days).

Yes it can take a while but also it can happen straight away so be prepared (i.e. stop drinking alcohol unless you know for sure you're not pregnant - so you don't mistake early pregnancy symptoms for period symptoms and hit the town like I did!).  I know that sounds silly but I always thought it would take me a while to get pregnant but then it happened straight away and really took me by surprise.

#13 Lottie*

Posted 06 December 2012 - 05:13 PM

i am with Joey11,  start chomping of a prenatal vitamin and enjoy your honeymoon.  

The only other thing i would recommend is using the ovulation predictor sticks that let you know the window of when you are likely to ovulate - if you want to try and time things a little better.

Congrats on the wedding and enjoy.

#14 lovepink

Posted 06 December 2012 - 06:20 PM

QUOTE (Spring Chickadee @ 06/12/2012, 02:25 PM)
I was married, healthy and at the young age of 21 when we started trying, it took me well over a year.


We are both young (25) and we want this more than anything. I hope it happens quickly for us coz a year would be heartbreaking.

Thank you everyone for your replies x


#15 Escapin

Posted 06 December 2012 - 06:29 PM

And make sure your vaccinations are up to date. Especially rubella. Your GP can do a quick blood test to check. And congrats on your impending nuptuals original.gif

#16 HappyLife

Posted 06 December 2012 - 08:46 PM

We started trying last month & just enjoying it without taking temps & charting original.gif

I'm taking folate, and I have a couple of free period tracking apps on my phone that predicts my fertile period & when I'm most likely to be ovulating. I've got more than one app, as they differ by a few days, so we just start in the fertile period of the earliest one, & dtd every second day biggrin.gif


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