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#1 José

Posted 05 December 2012 - 07:57 PM

My baby is fed breast milk only. I feed him on demand and have no problem with doing so- although I want to do whatever is best for bub.  the child health nurse SaId I should feed every 3 hours and not more often. I'm probably feeding more often than that  DS is at the 90th percentile for weight and length so I wonder if maybe he needs more feeds than the average baby? Surely I'm not the only person breastfeeding their two month old on demand??

#2 Clever Clogs

Posted 05 December 2012 - 07:59 PM

What you are doing is fine original.gif

#3 B.feral3

Posted 05 December 2012 - 08:02 PM

The child health nurse is a moron. My goodness, every 3 hours in the summer. I can't go that long without a drink!!

#4 tick

Posted 05 December 2012 - 08:06 PM

Health nurses really do say the darnedest things sometimes.  

At 2 months my baby fed every 1-2 hours.  My health nurse said something similar and I ignored it.  Keep up the good work!

#5 1&Twins

Posted 05 December 2012 - 08:08 PM

At that age I was breastfeeding my DD whenever she wanted!  She was in the 97th percentile.. still is I reckon original.gif

Do what is right for you and your baby and you can't go wrong.

Edited by ~ Lucy's Mum ~, 05 December 2012 - 08:09 PM.


#6 Goggie

Posted 05 December 2012 - 08:09 PM

Agree that what you're doing is perfectly fine. I try and stretch out feeds for my 3.5 month old to 2.5-3 hours but not always successful, I mean if he's screaming I'm not going to make him wait! And in the evening before bed he might feed two or three times in an hour or two. On demand is on demand.
Take what the MCHN says with a grain of salt.

Edited by bluewondersuit, 05 December 2012 - 08:16 PM.


#7 WinterIsComing

Posted 05 December 2012 - 08:11 PM

Your nurse is an idiot. Give the child the drink and food when his instincts tell him he needs them.
ETA - my son is also a big boy and he fed every 1-2 hours sometimes, too, when he was so little!

Edited by WinterIsComing, 05 December 2012 - 08:13 PM.


#8 MintyBiscuit

Posted 05 December 2012 - 08:12 PM

From 3 weeks until about five months DS fed pretty much every two hours. Go with whatever works for you guys.

#9 Waiting4No.2

Posted 05 December 2012 - 08:13 PM

Go with what you feel is right for your baby. I remember I must have fed my son every 30mins in the evening before bed when he was that age.

I read an article about a midwife pushing her opinion on a new mum.

Good luck. Its a lovely age original.gif

Edited by Waiting4No.2, 05 December 2012 - 08:16 PM.


#10 FeralProudSwahili

Posted 05 December 2012 - 08:15 PM

You're being led by your baby and feeding as frequently as they need and want- perfect! Well done on doing a great job and ignore the nurse- she's wrong.

#11 follies

Posted 05 December 2012 - 08:17 PM

Remember that in Summer you need to drink more water just as your baby needs more milk.

For a while you are going to feel like your baby is permanently attached to your chest however it is not forever. I tried to stretch out feeds and it just didn't work, it can also affect supply.

Your doing fine and just keep on going.

#12 FeralProudSwahili

Posted 05 December 2012 - 08:19 PM

QUOTE (Waiting4No.2 @ 05/12/2012, 09:13 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Go with what you feel is right for your baby. I remember I must have fed my son every 30mins in the evening before bed when he was that age.

I read an article about a midwife pushing her opinion on a new mum.

Good luck. Its a lovely age original.gif


No offence, but that 'article' is poor.

#13 follies

Posted 05 December 2012 - 08:37 PM

QUOTE (Swahili @ 05/12/2012, 08:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
No offence, but that 'article' is poor.


Agreed, and the points in the "pros" for formula feeding were all misconceptions.

#14 Ice Queen

Posted 05 December 2012 - 08:42 PM

OP, you sound like you are doing a great job.
My DD fed every 3 hours to the minute.  My DS would have parked himself there all day if he could have.  I fed him at least every 2 hours during the day.

All babies are different.  At this young age just go with keeps them happy. And you happy of course. biggrin.gif

I just read that article.....ummmm....why are you posting a link to this for a new mum?  What a shocking article with minimal relevence to the OP.

Edited by Ehill, 05 December 2012 - 08:46 PM.


#15 Spring Chickadee

Posted 05 December 2012 - 08:54 PM

The advice from our hospital class, the midwife,the lactation consultant, the ABA counsellor is all yo demand feed. Sometimes my one month old needs to be cluster feed, that could mean 4 feeds only 30mins apart. Sometimes he'll sleep for 5 hours and Go that stretch without it. I rarely go long without at least a drink. If he is hungry I'm not going to make him suffer.

#16 StopTheGoats

Posted 05 December 2012 - 09:00 PM

At some point your baby will find their natural pattern and go longer between feeds. They'll probably even start to develop a daily pattern. Don't ignore these cues. Listen to your baby.

#17 José

Posted 06 December 2012 - 10:53 AM

Thanks everyone. It certainly seems cruel to me to make a crying hungry baby wait for a feed. I don't know why I question myself so much when it comes to parenting. I'll continue to listen to the health nurse but won't follow everything she says to the letter.

#18 Lorem ipsum

Posted 06 December 2012 - 12:06 PM

So glad to read this topic

My ds is 9 weeks and feeding 1.5 - 2  hourly. My MCHN said similar to yours,  but if he is hungry he is hungry.

I'm also going to ignore what she said about his sleep pattern.

You sound like you are doing a great job OP

#19 lucky 2

Posted 06 December 2012 - 05:18 PM

If baby is feeding frequently enough for a health professional to comment I think it could be worth checking a few things.
Bfing can be assessed as going well when baby is thriving and mum has healthy nipples and breasts.
The definition of bfing going well/successful does not include a specific number of feeds per 24 hours (not that I know of anyway).
If you are feeding frequently and all is well with baby and breasts then this is fine and if not broke it doesn't have to be fixed.
But if you are feeding frequently and your breasts are uncomfortable with blocked ducts and/or mastitis or you have nipple damage then something is NQR with bfing.
The management of the problem though wouldn't be to tell the mother to feed less, it would be find out why bfing is causing these breast problems and to work out how to improve feeding so the breasts can remain healthy and comfortable.
If it aint broke it doesn't need fixing.
That doesn't mean you can't tweak the frequency of feeds but there is no guarantee that your baby will be agreeable or that it is a wise thing to do.

#20 Loz07

Posted 06 December 2012 - 06:42 PM

hi, OP I have also seen your post about DS not sleeping very well, so my only comment would be to make sure he is getting a full feed, not just snacking. This may mean re-offering the boob a couple of times. It may be that if he has a bigger fed, he may naturally go a bit longer.
Otherwise I agree, do what feels right for you - if your baby is hungry/screaming, feed them (the nurse isn't there at 3 am!!!)
FWIW, my 16 wo feeds 2.5 - 4 hourly during the day, plus a cluster feed in the evening

#21 Feral-as-Meggs

Posted 06 December 2012 - 06:50 PM

The nurse is not necessarily an idiot.  Maybe she picked up on something with the OP that suggested she was feeling overwhelmed with being constantly attached.  

Maybe not.  But that's how I felt before the nurse told me it was ok to start stretching out feeds with a bit of gentle distraction and get into a loose routine, so that other people were able to give me an hour or so off without the fear that he would be screaming for a feed within 20 minutes.  

It was a little later (4 months) and I think 2 months might be a little early but it's a reasonable option down the track as long as the baby is well and gaining weight OK.

#22 Romybaby

Posted 08 December 2012 - 07:21 AM

The worst advice I received was from midwives, parenting hotlines, paediatricians and my early childhood learning centre. It is hard to do this when you are a new parent and you lack confidence but GO WITH YOUR INSTINCTS! I was lucky to have a sister who kept repeating this to me when I felt vulnerable and anxious that my baby was different from the others.
My son fed hourly at that age day and night. Somewhere around 4months he became less interested during the day, maybe every 2 hours. He kept up his hourly night feeds. Everyone told me to stretch him out but he would become so distressed. He was a big roly poly baby then started to lose it around 6 months. At 22 months he still feeds constantly, many times during the night, and is trim, happy and full of beans.
It is important that you demand feed in the first few months as it regulars your milk supply. There will be days when your child is going through milestones where they may resort back to hourly feeding again. Don't worry. I was a baby that was fed like clockwork and suited a routine. My son isn't and found no hint of a sleep routine until 9 months. He has always been demand fed and still is. When I come home from work he runs towards me yelling 'beeeee' and dives on for a drink and cuddle. I suspect a big part of me being able to breast feed without pumping whilst working 3 days is because I feed on demand. On a day off after working 3 days straight, my son will be on me constantly wanting a drink and cuddles, he encourages the supply which drops from mon -wed, by Friday we are back on track. Now it doesn't matter if I work or not, I still have milk when he wants it.
Your baby is the only one who can say if he is hungry. Who is anyone else to decide? Just listen to your child.
Hope that helps! Have faith in yourself as you know what's best.

#23 sophiasmum

Posted 08 December 2012 - 03:52 PM

Sorry but I was one who did feed to a schedule, although cluster fed in the evening if unsettled. I found any more frequently than 3 hrly played havoc with their reflux.

#24 Leafprincess

Posted 08 December 2012 - 04:05 PM

huh.gif Strange advice, i was told to feed on demand by all the nurses and the pead when i was in hospital.

I'm new to this as I have a 4week old who I feed on demand.

Like clockwork it's every two hours.
I'm lucky to get a three hour block between 4-7am for my "sleep in"

I can't imagine not feeding him when he wants to be fed.

Did she give you any clues as to How would you make a baby wait?




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