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#1 MissManda86

Posted 04 December 2012 - 09:56 AM

Hi all,

So I am brand new to this whole baby, pregnancy thing so some of you might have to excuse my 'rose coloured glasses' moments biggrin.gif  And I apologise in advance for my novel like post!!

At this stage, my DP and I aren't trying to concieve and actually aren't planning to until around October/November next year... give or take our situation.  But I do have a few questions that I need some seasoned advice for.  So firstly, a little about me.

I am 26 years old, healthy and with no medical issues (except highly annoying hayfever!!)  I don't have any children of my own but my partner has a 7 year old son from a previous relationship (so his goods work!)

My diet and exercise regime isn't too bad but it could be better.  I have been on the BCP Brenda/Diane/Estelle for the last 12-13 years give or take having originally gone on it for hideous period pain and teenage acne.  I had a break when I was about 16 for a few months but can't remember any side effects etc.  Over the years doctors have put me on a few other pills to try, namely Microgynan 25ed (nauseous) and Yas/Yasmin (worst idea ever - nightmares, moody etc etc) but all in all I have always gone back to Brenda 35ED because it just works for me.  My skin is perfect minus a little break out every now and then thanks to stress or AF.

So my questions are mostly based around stopping the BCP.  I have heard that every case can be different. Some people get horrible side effects and others flourish being off it.  Some get pregnant straight away, others it takes years.

In a nutshell, when is the best time to stop BCP and start working on getting myself healthy and ready to TTC.

A few other factors to consider is that my partner and I are planning a 10 trip to Asia in May next year so obviously AF hanging around in hot, sticky weather could be a real downer..... but I can deal with it also!  My partner is also older than me.  He is 40 in October next year, so thats another thing to consider because ideally we would love to concieve around that time or the following year. And lastly, we have just found out that my mum has pancreatic cancer.  It all looks pretty serious and I don't know how she will be this time next year.  I am worried that the stress of dealing with her plus stopping the pill and TTC might cause anxiety and panic attacks.  I had really bad panic attacks a few years ago but managed to get them under control and now they have stopped completely (yay!).... but it's definitely something that worries me.

I know that sometimes things dont go to plan, but my idea is that if I can act of balancing out my body now and addressing any issues (if any at all) that may arise then I am effectively giving us a better chance of concieving when the time is right.

I have spoken to numerous doctors and some say to wait until after May when we come back from Asia and some say it's best to stop BCP now.....

Any advice or personal experiences that other ladies can share would be amazing.

Thanks for reading!!

Amanda rolleyes.gif

#2 291

Posted 04 December 2012 - 04:22 PM

When I'd come off BCP it took 10 months, almost 11 to fall pregnant.
I'd been on it for 8 or so years (combined then mini due to a mountain of issues). Cycles fell naturally to 26 days and then pregnancy went well, baby was almost 2 weeks over due, but I know my dates for sure.

Now though since baby was born almost 4 yrs back, no BCP since before he was born, I am struggling with my cycles and duration is anywhere from 29-49 days.

While you say his reproductive system works as it did 8 yrs prior, men do not continue to function the same until death. He too needs to look after his body, eat well, loose weight if on the larger side etc.

At the least it's fun to try original.gif
Best of luck.

Have a pap smear, take a decent vitamin, have any blood tests etc (pre-conception appointment) and see a dentist as poor oral health (even if your teeth do not hurt) can impact on pregnancy.

Also age is not a factor, young women can struggle just as much as older and naturally peak fertility is 17-25yrs of age, each year after this decreases.

#3 madammuck

Posted 05 December 2012 - 10:06 AM

It's different for everyone but my advice to you would be to take yourself off the pill a good six months prior to TTC and use condoms until you're ready to actively try.

You just don't know how BCP will affect your body and it could take a little while to get everything working organically again. Especially if you're already thinking about TTC, you don't want to look back and wish you'd have taken yourself off BCP earlier.

Agree with PP, get bloods done and check for Vit D levels, Thyroid, iron etc.  Accupuncture may help to unblock any chemical build ups that years on BCP has created (TBH I don't know how much this actually works, but some people swear by it).

More than anything, don't try to plan too much, this is one thing in life that we have very, very little control over original.gif

#4 ~polly~

Posted 05 December 2012 - 10:11 AM

QUOTE (madammuck @ 05/12/2012, 11:06 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
More than anything, don't try to plan too much, this is one thing in life that we have very, very little control over original.gif


This is what I was going to say.  Everyone's experience is different and you can't predict what TTC will be like for you.

#5 IsolaBella

Posted 05 December 2012 - 10:17 AM

I could get lap up to date and get bloods done, but NOT go off the BCP until you are ready to TTC.

I was on Dianne for 10yrs. I had long/irreg cycles pre pill. First cycle off the pill was 69d, next cycle 49d and the third cycle would have been 35d, but I used OPKs that cycle to pinpoint ovulation and fell PG.

2nd time TTC went off pill early thinking it would take time..... Used OPKs and fell PG first cycle of 49d ( actually it was a Cade of BD, next day get OPKS+ and don't BD anymore, but the pre BD was enough to fall PG).


3rd time was 6m TTC using OPKS and cycles 42-49d in length. Fell PG on 5th cycle.


My sister who was told she would need to see a FS to fall PG fell PG 5 days after her wedding. Being on honeymoon in Middle East at 7-11wks PG was not fun, especially as she had heavy bleeding and had been told she had miscarried..... Bubs held on and is now 1yr old. But that did stuff around her travel plans for that year.



#6 Tiger-lily

Posted 05 December 2012 - 03:22 PM

I would suggest getting off Diane asap. Apparently it is a stronger BCP so even if you aren't TTC just yet it would be best to get your body back into rhythm.


I was also on Diane 35 for 10 years. I went off it last year while we TTC for 3 months but my skin broke out so horribly even though my cycles went back to normal straight away. I went back on it again. I went off it again May this year and started TTC in June. Cycles are back to 28 days now and skin has cleared up mostly although no BFP in that time. It has taken this long (7 months) for my body to stop hating me from that BCP lol.

#7 Winning

Posted 06 December 2012 - 11:49 PM

There is really no way of telling what your body will do until you go off BCP. You may get regular cycles right away or only get one in twelve months. I've heard varying stories from different people.

This is my second stint off the pill. Both times I have been off the pill I have had issues with hormones - mood, acne and so forth. It can take a little while for your body to regulate it's hormones whether you go off now or in twelve months time. It is something you will have to put up with regardless.

Some people would suggest staying on the pill until you are ready to TTC. This is what I have done and I can tell you that the minute I (and it seems to be a few people on EB) started TTC, I/we turned into a crazy people that wanted things to happen right away. I have to wait and see what my body is going to do and hope that my cycles regulate.

So you should ask yourself the following questions:

* Is it worth going off the pill now to see what your cycles will do?
* Are you prepared to use alternative birth control and are you prepared to have unpredictable AF (particularly with regard to your trip).
* Are you in a good position (financially/emotionally etc) should you fall pregnant earlier than expected?
* If you go off the pill when you are ready to TTC, are you prepared to wait if your cycles take a while to regulate?**

I don't mean to scare you - I am not an expert on the matter by any means but people in general really do look through rose coloured goggles. I have only just started my journey but there are many who have been through a lot who would suggest that you not take anything for granted.

I would suggest reading through different threads on EB where you will find a range of perspectives. There are some people who are really frustrated with really long cycles and battle with their cycles for 12+ months before they even get to 'try'.

FWIW - after being off the pill for a few months, I resumed it and was able to 'skip' my period. Perhaps this is something you could consider for your trip.

I hope this makes sense or gives you another viewpoint. It is very late so I hope I haven't rambled too much!

**Please note that I am aware that you don't actually need regular cycles to fall pregnant, however it certainly makes it easier if your cycle is somewhat regular/frequent!

#8 erindiv

Posted 06 December 2012 - 11:54 PM

Best advice already said by a PP and I will agree with it: Don't 'plan' too much, it will drive you crazy.

My second bit of advice is don't assume ANYTHING about going off the BCP. It takes some women a long time to concieve after going off it. But both times I went off it, I was pregnant very soon after. With DD I had just two cycles before concieving, with DS I concieved on the first cycle off the BCP - two weeks after taking my last pill!




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