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#1 hoohoobump

Posted 03 December 2012 - 08:18 PM

Today DS (almost 3) decided that he has a friend at home. In the space of half an hour he had a name, an age, a personality, things he liked to eat, what he likes to wear etc etc. We read this new friend a bedtime story, sang him a song and put him to sleep in his imaginary cot. DS even 'introduced' him to Nanna on the phone. I wonder if he will remember his friend 'Tom' in the morning?

Anyone else's toddler had an imaginary friend?

#2 adl

Posted 03 December 2012 - 08:25 PM

No but I recently saw a doco on it and it bodes well...

All about a great imagination, perception , and the ability of thinking outside the square I think from memory....may have been on AB C????

#3 luke's mummu

Posted 03 December 2012 - 08:35 PM

Yes my 7 year old has "underground friends" which come up to the above ground occasionally. Mainly when he is feeling stressed. there are about 30 of them, and some of them even have wives!

#4 Flutter Bug

Posted 03 December 2012 - 08:37 PM

My nearly 3 year old DD does.

He (the imagined friend) was a pretty constant fixture in her play at home when he first 'arrived' 6 months ago. DD talks to him, asks him questions, tells him what she is doing/what he is going to do etc.. She plays with him the same as she would a real, live child. But she doesn't talk about him to us, although we do know his name.

He hasn't been mentioned as often recently but I have noticed that DD plays with her imaginary friend more during times of stress/change/anxiety. DD has a fabulous imagination, I see it as no harm. Her imaginary friend seems to offer her comfort and a 'constant' and now that I think about it he appeared not long after her baby sister was born!

It's interesting to hear about other parents experiences with this as I have only ever met one other child who had an imaginary friend (a five year old Kindergarten student that I taught).

#5 TheGreenSheep

Posted 03 December 2012 - 08:44 PM

Oh yeah, loved that phase!

When DS1 was 3yo he had groups of friends, boys and girls. We took them everywhere. Loved it. He just grew out of it. Puts a smile on my fave thinking about it now original.gif .

#6 Ehubrydd

Posted 03 December 2012 - 08:47 PM

My almost 3yo shares an imaginary friend with my 4yo. My 4yo first introduced him to us, but my nearly 3yo started playing with our friend straight away. Our friend joins in with many of our games and comes to the park with us. Sometimes my children disagree about what he is doing or wants to do though wink.gif

My boys' imaginary friend has an imaginary friend of his own so no one gets left out when my children just want to play together without their friend.



#7 eachschoolholidays

Posted 03 December 2012 - 08:48 PM

No but my brother did.  Apparently Michael, the friend, hung around for years.

#8 Chelara

Posted 03 December 2012 - 08:54 PM

Yep my 3.5 year old does too. It started with a dog and now it's a fire engine. She tells me they're pretend but she really loves it when I play along.

#9 mallowpuff

Posted 04 December 2012 - 01:21 PM

My two and a bit year old has an imaginary friend called Bernard, who fits in the palm of his hand and comes on outings with us sometimes. I think it's cute, and no different from all the other make believe stuff he does.

#10 quangle~wangle~quee

Posted 04 December 2012 - 01:28 PM

My DD has one. She is 5 1/2 now, but her friend Brian has been around since she was about 3.  He has a huge extended family, and she apparently spends a lot of time at his house, doing endless exciting things (Brian has his own aeroplane which he flies himself!).  

He is not an imaginary friend of the type that actually comes to our house, but she often mentions how she 'did such and such' at Brian's, or for eg. this morning she told me she doesn't like egglplant and I said how did she know when she has never eaten it and of course she replied, "I have had it at Brian's".
There is absolutely nothing you can ask her about Brian that she can't come out with a detailed and immediate reply to.  
It is very amusing.  Sometimes I just engage her in conversation about him for fun and to see what she will come up with.  


#11 katrina24

Posted 04 December 2012 - 01:30 PM

Yep, my eldest daughter had one for a while.  She used to push her in the swing.  Hilarious watching her wait for her imaginary friend to push her back  biggrin.gif

#12 adl

Posted 04 December 2012 - 01:32 PM

I found it!!

http://www.abc.net.au/catalyst/stories/2689032.htm

It was on Catalyst,  you can watch it on their web page.  I found it very interesting as to why,  adn I love the movie Drop Dead Fred  biggrin.gif

#13 niggles

Posted 04 December 2012 - 01:56 PM

'My unicorn friend' has been going strong for some years now and shows no signs of moving out.

I hadn't heard from her this month and then out of the blue this morning we were driving and DD comes out with this pearler:

DD: Mum, it's hard to do things with a baby in your tummy isn't it? It's much easier when there is no baby in your tummy isn't it mum?
Me: Yes love. Were you remembering when it was hard for mummy to do things when Toby was still in her tummy?
DD: No mum, my unicorn friend told me all about it.

Personally I think she doesn't like to be told anything so when she learns of something new from me, or I suggest a reason for something she always comes back at me with her unicorn friend.

#14 EsmeLennox

Posted 04 December 2012 - 01:58 PM

Imaginary friends rock!

#15 Old Grey Mare

Posted 04 December 2012 - 02:08 PM

Not my children but my sister had a "tending friend" from age three until about 6 years old. "Tending friend" used to ask my sister to ask Mum & Dad for things she wanted. She eventually disappearedf from the scene after my sister had been at school for about six months - I guess she was no longer needed. I don't know what happens to imaginary friends after they are outgrown. do they just move on to another child?

#16 niggles

Posted 04 December 2012 - 02:09 PM

QUOTE (adl @ 04/12/2012, 11:32 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I found it!!

http://www.abc.net.au/catalyst/stories/2689032.htm

It was on Catalyst,  you can watch it on their web page.  I found it very interesting as to why,  adn I love the movie Drop Dead Fred  biggrin.gif


That's so interesting!

#17 Natttmumm

Posted 04 December 2012 - 02:13 PM

DD1 at that age had a few imaginary friends. I posted about it at the time and got flamed for asking if it was what others were doing!! ohmy.gif

Any way she really talked a lot to the friends and played with them, there were three clear friends. we couldnt sit next to her etc as we were sitting on them. anyway after about 6 months she didnt mention them anymore. Now DD2 who is 3 has started to talk to a few imaginary friends but there isnt a consistent one like DD2

#18 sne

Posted 04 December 2012 - 02:22 PM

My eldest had a imaginary friend called Billy who she used to talk about doing heaps of fun things with.  She didn't seem to have him at our house but had lots of stories of 'when I was at Billy's house...'  He just kinda faded away a while after she started school.

A friend of mine had two daughters who were about 10 years apart.  They both had a imaginary friend called Lily when they were about 3.

#19 Ehill

Posted 04 December 2012 - 02:25 PM

My DD 3.5yo has 2.  The first one, Darcy (female) appeared just after she started 1 morning of nursery school at about 2.5.  The second one, Dakota, appeared when we moved interstate so looking back, they both started at times of stress and change.  

Both have hung around and are a constant in her playing most days.  She clicks them into the car seatbelts, helps them put shoes on, talks about their mums and dads, their toy babies, we have picnics with them.  It is very bizarre to begin with but Darcy and Dakota are just part of the family now  laugh.gif .

#20 Fanny McPhail

Posted 04 December 2012 - 02:27 PM

My DS used to have an imaginary dog called "scratchy dog" who would sleep on his bed at night. I think he made him feel safe.
DS mentioned scratchy dog the other day and said he was sad that he hadn't seen him in ages sad.gif


#21 hoohoobump

Posted 04 December 2012 - 09:07 PM

Thanks everyone. I've loved hearing about everyone's imaginary friends. 'Tom' had a great day today. He accompanied DS to daycare, complete with his own drink and lunch. Tom has also had a birthday - he's now 2! I've learned all about his family today as well.

DS has been quite anxious lately. I'll keep an eye on him.

Thanks for the link. I'll watch it now.

#22 hoohoobump

Posted 04 December 2012 - 09:20 PM

That was interesting. Thanks for the link.

I look forward to seeing how DS's relationship with Tom develops.

#23 adl

Posted 05 December 2012 - 07:47 PM

According to Drop Dead Fred they move onto other children that need them.... biggrin.gif

I must watch that again, love that movie!!!!

#24 Juju38

Posted 05 December 2012 - 07:56 PM

I had one as a small child, her name was Rachel.  She was with me from 3 until 5.  For me, I believe she helped soothe my anxiety as my parents separated when I was 3.  I was an only child and I remember feeling very lonely.  Rachel helped with that.

My Mum always respected Rachel's place with me and set a place for her at dinner, didn't sit in the chair I told her Rachel was sitting in etc.

I distinctly remember the day she went in my wardrobe and never came out.  I obviously didn't need her any more.

Although I am sure not every kid with an imaginary friend has one to deal with trauma/anxiety, I think they serve a really important purpose for some children.



#25 wish*upon*a*star

Posted 05 December 2012 - 07:59 PM

I had one- BoBo.
He lived in the neighbour's sprinkler blink.gif
I was about 3 and he stayed about 6 months before moving to Timbuktoo




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