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#1 More than a Mother

Posted 03 December 2012 - 03:40 PM

I'm 40 with a 4 year old. I exercise 3-4 times per week (mostly during my lunch, or running in the morning on a weekend), eat well and weigh at the top end of 'normal'.

Yet I feel constantly exhausted and I'm not sure if this is normal.

The last two weeks in particular have been horrible. I'm usually in bed by 9.30 to get up for 6am for work, or now even earlier (Son has decided 4.50-5.30 is a good time to rise), so in general, I get enough sleep. But now I need to go to bed even earlier, and just don't have the energy to do anything in the evening. I wake in the morning and dream of going back to bed.

Weekends I spend actively doing as little as possible, because I just feel worn out, and it's impacting on my family. I used to be itching to get things done, but now I just feel sick at the thought of my to-do list.

I don't have any other symptoms that I could associate with any condition, so feel a bit silly going to the GP with tiredness.

Does every mum feel like this? It's not like I have a house full of children to tire me out.  

I don't mean for this to sound like a wussy post, but I did wonder if it sounds normal.

#2 JKTMum

Posted 05 December 2012 - 03:44 PM

Get your thyroid levels checked as well as your iron levels (and anything else your GP thinks needs checking). It might be nothing, but it's better to have anything medically looked at first.

#3 Libster

Posted 05 December 2012 - 03:49 PM

It doesn't sound normal to me, it wouldn't hurt to get it checked out. I had a mild form of glandular fever in my twenties and it really knocked me about, perhaps you could get checked for that too.

#4 Relish*

Posted 05 December 2012 - 03:56 PM

Look into it. I always feel this way when my iron levels are low. Although no matter how healthy I am at the time I'm always useless if my day starts before 6am... my body just rejects being up at sunrise!

#5 Ruby Gloom

Posted 09 December 2012 - 06:43 AM

Definitely look into it.

Are you napping during the day?

I was in a similar position to you and ended up asking for a sleep study. At the time I had sleep apnoea with pointers to Narcolepsy. I went away and lost a bucket load of weight to deal with the apnoea but was then diagnosed with Narcolepsy which described the excessive daytime sleepiness. The quality of my night time sleep needed addressing as well since people with N can sleep for a LONG time at night but because the quality of their sleep is so poor they don't feel refreshed.

Good luck with getting to the bottom of it. Don't feel silly going to the GP.

#6 HerringToMarmalade

Posted 09 December 2012 - 06:49 AM

I'd go to a doctor. Fatigue is an important symptom but most people don't think its enough to go to a doctor - thats how I ended up not getting to a doctor until my thyroid condition had become severe.

#7 His Boy Elroy

Posted 09 December 2012 - 06:49 AM

Thyroid issues, low iron, sleep apnea etc are all things that have little or no other side effects, just tiredness.  Go to your GP and have some bloods done.

Hope you feel bright eyed and bushy tailed as soon as possible.

#8 wca

Posted 18 December 2012 - 09:39 PM

Definatley get your Iron and Thyroid checked. For both problems, extreme fatigue are the red flags. They both have other symptoms though, but they tend to be 'vague'. I have been feeling like you for the last 2years. One GP told me "Your a busy mum with 3 kids who get's up at 5:30am, of course you feel tired" but I think thats bulldust. I know plenty of other mums out there with busier lives who have far more energy than I do! Sometimes I feel like I physically can't go on with the day, like I can't even string a sentence together. I have had blood tests and I do have an Iron Deficiency.  I also have a request for a recheck blood test to see how my levels are going as I am feeling rather crappy at the moment. Good luck! In a really weird way, I'm kinda glad I'm not the only only one who feels this tired.

Anni xx

#9 jayskette

Posted 18 December 2012 - 09:51 PM

are you mentally exhausted?

#10 Silver Girl

Posted 18 December 2012 - 10:02 PM

I'm the same, OP. I think I'll get my iron and thyroid checked.

#11 hoohoobump

Posted 03 February 2013 - 12:10 PM

Did anyone have any light shed on this? I'm knackered all the time. DH is bugging me to go to the GP because I keep falling asleep at about 8pm and Nanna napping in the day and still look/feel exhausted.

#12 MarsBarSlice

Posted 07 February 2013 - 11:23 PM

I have just been to my gp about this. I have an 18month old and 4 year old and get a proper nights sleep but am so tired and am in my very early 40's.  My blood tests showed that my thyroid medication was slightly high but my iron, full blood count and heamoglobin are all normal.  So they are not sure what it could be but have said that I shouldn't be this exhausted.  They are still looking into it, will update when I find anything out.

#13 rosiebird

Posted 07 February 2013 - 11:33 PM

On average, ~3% of people presenting to the GP with "tiredness" have an abnormality on their blood tests -anaemia, iron deficiency, hypothyroidism, coeliac disease etc. By far the most common cause is a low grade depression/anhedonia.
Lack of exercise orgood quality sleep, junk food and mental exhaustion are the main culprits.

#14 SylviaPlath

Posted 08 February 2013 - 12:02 AM

My first thought is iron. Then thyroid. Go to the GP and get a blood test for the usual suspects. You may think you eat well, but maybe you are not. Or maybe your body isn't absorbing what it's supposed to.

And no, does not sound right at all.

#15 Exhaustedbuthappy

Posted 08 February 2013 - 09:08 AM

I've needed ten hours sleep all my adult life.
My iron, thyroid, all the obvious tests have come back consistently as normal.

It could just be that you need more than the 'average' person.

Still get it checked, but you my not find anything.

#16 RCTP

Posted 08 February 2013 - 09:13 AM

Ask your GP for a Full Blood Count.

May be low thyroid (which I have and is sorted with medication very quickly) or low iron (also me at the moment as preggers and I am on iron tablets).

Don't waste any more time feeling tired or worrying about what it "may" be - get yourself to the GP

Hope it improves soon x

#17 PrincessPeach

Posted 08 February 2013 - 09:16 AM

Besides Iron & Thyroid, get checked out to see if you have glandular fever.

I had such a mild dose of it that I didn't get the sore throat, but I just could not shake the fatigued feeling. I was in my early 20's, eating right & exercising, but I still needed at least 10 hours sleep a night to function.

Also my iron levels are elevated & that too causes fatigue.

#18 *melrose*

Posted 13 February 2013 - 09:51 PM

Go to the doctor asap.

#19 howdoyoudoit

Posted 13 February 2013 - 10:36 PM

yes go to the doc. I had this and had my iron checked and my doctor wasnt happy with me at all when she saw how low it was..lol... now Im on iron tablets and my god you can tell the difference..I had the CBFs, tired,grumpy,yelling at the kids cause I was tired...when I forget my tablets and it goes low I feel crap..get some more into me and after 2 doses I can feel the difference..go get a blood test done!

#20 flyfree

Posted 14 February 2013 - 11:11 AM

Like a few others have said, go to the Docs, I've been having the same symptoms, my iron count was low. He thinks that in the past, whilst my levels have been normal, I needed to have a higher level, if you know what I mean. Although everyone is different.

Good luck!

#21 BetteBoop

Posted 14 February 2013 - 11:16 AM

QUOTE (rosiebird @ 07/02/2013, 11:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
On average, ~3% of people presenting to the GP with "tiredness" have an abnormality on their blood tests -anaemia, iron deficiency, hypothyroidism, coeliac disease etc. By far the most common cause is a low grade depression/anhedonia.
Lack of exercise orgood quality sleep, junk food and mental exhaustion are the main culprits.


Thanks for this information rosiebird. I've started to feel really tired lately. I realised I've stopped regular exercise which means I'm not sleeping as well as I used to.



#22 LittleMissPink

Posted 26 February 2013 - 06:00 PM

I thought it was normal to feel as tired as you describe, turned out I had aneamia, and an iron supplement has helped heaps. Not completely, as I have other issues, but enough that I dont just feel like laying on te lounge all day




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