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#1 FEdeRAL

Posted 03 December 2012 - 12:28 PM

In the process of making my christmas cake this morning. A little late this year but with two little ones under two I am proud I managed it. Anyway, the recipe I use is from Nigella Lawson's Feast. She mentioned in a little paragraph prefacing the recipe about it being passed down to her from MIL of her assistant's sister. I thought it is wonderful for a heirloom recipe to be published and shared with so many people.

Then I am reminded of an ex-colleague who refused to give out recipes. She made the loveliest vanilla butter cupcakes for the office and when a few of us asked if she could share the recipe she said sorry can't cos it was her special recipe. I have asked quite a few people to share their recipes over the years. Most did and some promised but eventually forgot (either accidentally or deliberately, not sure).

So do you share your recipes? I do (although I must confessed I still "owed" SIL a Christmas recipe I promised her last year!!) Is it common to not share?

#2 cstar

Posted 03 December 2012 - 12:31 PM

I share my recipes all the time and if I find a great website, I always email my friends who I think might be interested.

#3 boatiebabe

Posted 03 December 2012 - 12:33 PM

I love sharing but most of the time I don't have time to write down recipes!

Most of what I cook is some of this and a bit of that - added to the fact that I use a thermomix a fair bit so most things I make are not written down.

So if you want to get out a pen I will give you a pretty good approximation of what goes in to a recipe, but mostly I can't be a*sed to write it out.  biggrin.gif

#4 her mum

Posted 03 December 2012 - 12:35 PM

I share my recipes all the time as I don't see the point in not lol!

However on two occasions previously at work I have taken a particular item in a few times, then been asked for the recipe, only to have the person I gave it to start bringing it in on pot luck days etc.

I don't really care, I don't own the right to make brownies or whatever but it just seems odd to me to ask for the recipe of something I regularly bring in, and then start bringing it in yourself?

#5 jessie123

Posted 03 December 2012 - 12:36 PM

Doesn't bother me to share but then none of my recipes are some secret family recipe handed down.

#6 PrincessPeach

Posted 03 December 2012 - 12:38 PM

Maybe she used a packet mix & didn't want to tell anyone?

I used a white wings packet mix the other week & the cake turned out better than the ones I make from scratch! However I'm more than happy to admit that it came from a packet.

Besides that I share any receipie with anyone who wants it.

#7 FeralProudSwahili

Posted 03 December 2012 - 12:39 PM

I can't imagine being so mean spirited as to refuse to share a recipe with someone. It's sad and pathetic.

#8 jai*

Posted 03 December 2012 - 12:40 PM

I never make up my own recipes so I have no problem sharing them! They're not mine!

#9 TheGreenSheep

Posted 03 December 2012 - 12:44 PM

Im happy to share. I find a lot on the net or tv.

Reminds me a friend asked me for a cake recipe she wants to serve for Xmas day. I served her the cake. She asked for the recipe. I kept thinking it was 'missing something' but wasn't till the next day I realized I forgot the flour! Whoops. So I better give her the recipe with both options.

Only time I don't share recipes is when a friend C has given me a few, they're 'hers'. Also I have a recipe I've given her and she won't share it with anyone she doesn't like. It makes me laugh. It's just her thing I guess.

#10 solongsuckers

Posted 03 December 2012 - 12:45 PM

I would never even consider refusing to share. If I have a great recipe I often will go out of my way to share with friends because I want them to enjoy it as much as I do

#11 ACO

Posted 03 December 2012 - 12:45 PM

Maybe she used a packet mix & didn't want to tell anyone?

THIS 100%.

Of course I'll share my recipes. Why not? The whole point of cooking is to share the love with the people that you love.

#12 cardamom

Posted 03 December 2012 - 12:50 PM

I'm always happy to share a recipe. I'm chuffed whenever someone asks!

I think it's a bit weird and mean to refuse to share a recipe. An old flatmate's mother (who lived interstate, and who I'd never met) made a tasty curry sauce. I asked her daughter if she could get me the recipe, and she forewarned me that her mother didn't share. Even though I lived at the other end of the county and wasn't likely to be 'competing' with her.

I also worked in a cafe some time ago that made a really delicious relish. When I asked if I was able to get the recipe, there was much umm and ahhing over whether to give it to me. I was warned that I must never tell anyone the 'secret' recipe; I agreed. The waitress then pulled out a copy of a VERY iconic Australian cookbook  rolleyes.gif

#13 vanessa71

Posted 03 December 2012 - 12:54 PM

I don't own my recipes, they always come from a book or the net, so I think it would be ridiculous not to share.

#14 FEdeRAL

Posted 03 December 2012 - 01:01 PM

QUOTE (PrincessPeach @ 03/12/2012, 01:38 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Maybe she used a packet mix & didn't want to tell anyone?

Ooooh, I've never thought of that.

#15 Ally'smum

Posted 03 December 2012 - 01:06 PM

I know someone who 'forgets' to give you the recipe if you ask but I also have a very elderly relative who outright says no because you might make it better than her and she doesn't want the competition.

The second response is far more preferable, at least she is honest!

#16 JJ

Posted 03 December 2012 - 01:37 PM

QUOTE (Swahili @ 03/12/2012, 12:39 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I can't imagine being so mean spirited as to refuse to share a recipe with someone. It's sad and pathetic.

I agree with this.

I always share my recipes when asked - even the few I made up myself. wink.gif It just makes no sense not to unless it's for something you sell commercially.

#17 HRH Countrymel

Posted 03 December 2012 - 01:48 PM

In the OP's case I would bet the farm on the fact she is using a packet mix or is even buying them!

I happily share recipes - however I constantly annoy a particular friend of mine who asks for recipes all the time as I am a 'by feel' cook...

The recipe as such is always guided by what I have on hand at the time so doesn't really exist.

She finds recipes I write out for her with instructions like:
'Beans or bok choi or broccoli or whatever..' and 'about a half a handful' or 'till it isn't sticky anymore'  

She finds them very annoying!

#18 noi'mnot

Posted 03 December 2012 - 01:49 PM

I always share recipes. I share the food, why not the recipe?

Anyway, this thread reminds me of my grandmother who passed away several years ago. She was a brilliant cook, and an excellent baker in particular. She was a member of her local CWA, and would tell me stories of a particular woman in her group who used to give out her recipes but alter them a bit - like omit or dramatically reduce the sugar, or not include eggs, or add another random weird ingredient. Apparently this woman was very competitive and didn't want her friends stealing her recipes, some of which had won awards in the local competitions. I remember my grandmother once used this woman's recipe for profiteroles, and they came out green (she didn't add food colouring or anything, it must have been a weird and random ingredient combination thing)! It was hilarious, and she never used this woman's recipes again!

#19 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 03 December 2012 - 02:30 PM

I share recipes, happy to.   When I remember to write them down.  Or type out an email from the cookbooks/recipe book. I'm pretty slack sometimes with that, but it's not because I don't want to share the recipe. I do, it's just finding the time to get the recipe together and pass it along.

And I am happy to admit when I've used a packet mix.  Some of them are great!

#20 Feral Grey Mare

Posted 03 December 2012 - 02:36 PM

QUOTE (Swahili @ 03/12/2012, 01:39 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I can't imagine being so mean spirited as to refuse to share a recipe with someone. It's sad and pathetic.

Exactly this. Many of my recipes have been passed on to me from friends or family so I can't imagine why anyone would choose to be a recipe grinch.

#21 DS1979

Posted 03 December 2012 - 02:43 PM

Ha ha, i agree that she definitely used a packet mix! With EVERY cake i bake i get comments on how delicious they are and every time I have to give 100% credit to Greens cake mixes as they are the only thing i ever use!   tongue.gif

#22 ThatsNotMyName

Posted 03 December 2012 - 02:54 PM

QUOTE (Swahili @ 03/12/2012, 01:39 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I can't imagine being so mean spirited as to refuse to share a recipe with someone. It's sad and pathetic.

This is the way I feel too. The whole point of sharing food is undermined if you refuse to share the recipe. If you're so posessive & competetive limit your cooking to show competitions.

#23 Feral timtam

Posted 03 December 2012 - 02:56 PM

Normally I am happy to share my recipes, but I do have one I don't like sharing. Sadly that's the one people are always asking for. It's a personal creation and rather tricky to get right, I used to freely share the recipe but got sick of being accused of having left ingredients or important steps out. I'd rather put up with being nagged to bring it in again than be accused of leaving things out of a recipe.

#24 lexington

Posted 03 December 2012 - 03:00 PM

OP maybe the butter cake was Betty Crocker and she didn't want anyone to find out!

I always share but mine are mostly not original.

#25 SeaPrincess

Posted 03 December 2012 - 03:03 PM

I share my recipes, but only the things I actually cook from a recipe, not the things I make slightly differently every time.

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