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#1 busymum01

Posted 03 December 2012 - 09:38 AM

I've had long hair for a lonnnnnng time and while I *do* like it and I *do* go to the bother of doing different things with it, I'm just plain bored of it. I'm getting plenty of grey hair at the ripe age of 33 and it's changing the texture of my hair so it's not as soft and silky as it used to be and my fine hair truth be told is quite damaged from the curling / straightening / drying / stabbed with a million hair pins over the years and a simple trim just isn't cutting the mustard for hair satisfaction.

Problem is I suffer GREATLY from hair cut remorse. The fear of not liking a new do often outweighs the taking a risk of change and I KNOW IT'S ONLY HAIR, but holy guacamole it takes a long time to grow back.  ph34r.gif

BUT I'm putting this out there on the interwebz that change is good and having ten inches taken off my length might just give me a new fresh look that I didn't know I was capable of. The appointment is made and I've warned my hairdresser now I'll keep telling myself to be brave and JUST. DO. IT.

Please someone tell me if I hate it, it will be ok.  rolleyes.gif

Edited by busymum01, 07 December 2012 - 06:15 PM.


#2 papilio

Posted 03 December 2012 - 09:43 AM

I had super long hair and had it cut a couple of months ago.  While I know it's just hair, I'm afraid to say that I really regret it.  My long hair is part of my identity, it's how people remember me.

Having said that, my hair is in great condition and not going grey, so perhaps I'd feel differently.  Also, I'm a bit glad that my hair is shorter over summer, but I can't see myself cutting it in a hurry again.

#3 Gudrun

Posted 03 December 2012 - 09:07 PM

I found that a skilled hairdresser knows what to do in terms of cutting in such a way that there are options afterwards and certainly will know how to cut it to grow it again if want to, without it being annoying.

It sounds like you won't be happy never going short and it sounds like now is the time.

My bet is you'll feel like a new woman once it's done.  The only downside is needing to go to the hairdresser reasonably often once you go short (depending on the style). You may also end up experimenting with different short styles or variations on a style.   You'll have to keep making hair decisions because it does grow continuously (that hit me when I first went short!).

New hair, new life!  Enjoy it!



#4 Maple Leaf

Posted 06 December 2012 - 04:21 PM

Before and after pics please!!!

Just don't go too short and if it's done well and incrementally over time, it will be great. original.gif


#5 Beebread

Posted 06 December 2012 - 04:27 PM

Just don't get the posh spice style middle aged bob that everyone I know over 35 has gone for! So boring!

Edited by Beebread, 06 December 2012 - 04:28 PM.


#6 **Xena**

Posted 06 December 2012 - 04:31 PM

Have fun!

I have had long hair, short hair and a multitude of different colours. I love changing my hair and if I didn't like it then I just changed it again.

Also try wigs. They are great fun and you instantly have long or short hair and styles that just aren't possible with real hair. I have about 7 wigs in different colours and hairstyles and I love them biggrin.gif

#7 SkyeMummy

Posted 06 December 2012 - 04:37 PM

Oooohh, my hair is halfway down my back and was once thick and wavy/frizzy. I put it up for work and take the time to straighten when going out - not often though.
Due to some stress and not eating properly (I know, I know) I would say 2/3 of my hair has fallen out and lots more greys. My hands are covered in hair every morning in the shower  ph34r.gif
So I have decided to get it cut short and coloured too to perhaps give it a chance to recover (and hope it will grow back!!)
Sorry to hijack OP, some photos would be good - might give me some ideas!

#8 little lion

Posted 06 December 2012 - 04:48 PM

Go for it. I did it as a teenager and it was the best thing I ever did. It was literally and emotionally like lifting a huge weight. My tip is to go with mid length so it isn't too much of a shock, then next time you might want to try something more adventurous (or not original.gif ). Good luck.

#9 Dylan's Mummy

Posted 06 December 2012 - 04:50 PM

You could get itcut to a bit below shoulder length and see how you feel about it then shorter from there with your next cut if you want.  


If you have a lot of hair, you could donate it to that charity who was doing a promotion recently (can't remember the name) and they will use it for a wig.

Remember that after it is cut you win't need as much shampoo. I had a lot cut off once and used the same amount of shampoo and there was so much froth and bubbles.

Edited by Dylan's Mummy, 06 December 2012 - 04:51 PM.


#10 Starrydawn

Posted 06 December 2012 - 04:55 PM

I am not a fan of long hair for the sake of it,  a nice style and it can make such a difference. Mine has been long, short and in between. It always grows back.

Long hair layered and nicely styled is great but a change is often just what you need for a fresh look.



#11 emnut

Posted 06 December 2012 - 04:56 PM

I had mine cut from waist length to really short a few months ago - everyone else loved it, I hated it.  It has now grown to a point where it's almost shoulder length & I'm happy with it

#12 JaneLane

Posted 06 December 2012 - 04:58 PM

I have very long hair and have always hated cutting it.  I have had it cut once this year and that was the first time in 3 years I had been brave enough to visit a hair dresser!

Before kids it was very thick but has now thinned out quite a bit.  DH wants me to cut a lot off but I don't think I can, but I am lucky mine does grow back very fast but at the same time I hate it as I am always having to dye the roots.  

I have had lots of different lengths over the years as well as every Fudge Paintbox colour they made plus going black and then back to blonde a few times.  My hair was damaged for years but it's better than it use to be and I think I am going to keep the length until I can finally loose some of my excess baby weight I hate so much!

If you feel like you need to have a change then cut it!  If you don't like it, it will grow back even if it seems to take forever!

#13 Tigerdog

Posted 06 December 2012 - 05:03 PM

Definitely do it, it'll take such a weight off you and probably years off your looks!  I went short a few years ago (had done so previously but went back to long), I'll never have long hair again.  I was getting to nearly 35 and never did anything with my shoulder-length except tie it up in a ponytail, even for work. I felt like a frumpy schoolgirl.  

Since March last year I've had it short with a long sideswept fringe, longer bits at the front and spiked out at the back, a mohawk and shaved (twice - currently it is like this).  Even with very little hair I feel at least now I have a 'style' and can use product and colour it as I like without damaging it too much.  You can still feel feminine without long hair, I put a treatment in mine once a week and do other pampery, feminine body things to myself.  A good short cut can be a statement in itself, you can tone the makeup right down or amp it up to really stand out on a special occasion.

Edited by Tigerdog, 06 December 2012 - 05:09 PM.


#14 busymum01

Posted 07 December 2012 - 06:14 PM

So... *gulp* I did it.


QUOTE
Just don't get the posh spice style middle aged bob that everyone I know over 35 has gone for! So boring!


Oh dear - I fear that's what my hairdresser sneakily gave me (or at least blow-dried me in to LOL) here is my before and after. While I'm not convinced it makes me look younger in all my dark under eye scary selfie glory, it does make me feel fresh and has put a bit of spring in my step, which I LOVE.

The back is a bit shorter than I anticipated but I've been curling it up and declaring myself freaking awesome all the same wink.gif. All I can say is it is so darn nice not to be defined by my hair anymore! If in doubt, just do.it.


Edited by busymum01, 10 December 2012 - 05:27 AM.


#15 Bwok~Bwok

Posted 07 December 2012 - 06:18 PM

Love, love, love it!

#16 Beanbag Warrior

Posted 07 December 2012 - 06:20 PM

That's lovely original.gif

#17 NunSoFeral

Posted 07 December 2012 - 06:20 PM

From a total random - it is fabulous!
You look awesom-er

#18 papilio

Posted 07 December 2012 - 06:21 PM

Brave move!  Enjoy the lighter feeling!

#19 Starrydawn

Posted 07 December 2012 - 06:21 PM

It looks fabulous. A great cut.

#20 Loulla

Posted 07 December 2012 - 06:23 PM

You look GREAT!

#21 Bluemakede

Posted 07 December 2012 - 06:25 PM

I really like it, I think the new style really suits you..

I'm trying to get the guts up to do something similar, my hair is mid back, lacks everything.

#22 FeralZombieMum

Posted 07 December 2012 - 06:26 PM

Wow! Looks awesome on you!

#23 Kwyjibo

Posted 07 December 2012 - 06:27 PM

Lovely cut  original.gif

#24 tres-chic

Posted 07 December 2012 - 06:27 PM

Yep, I love it and good on you!

#25 Procrastinator5000

Posted 07 December 2012 - 06:28 PM

Oh you look really good. Actually you look great in both styles, so just enjoy it!




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