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Mid Life Crisis- do they really exist?


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#1 purpleblackqueen

Posted 01 December 2012 - 07:02 PM

Watching Everybody Loves Raymond, and they were talking about mid life crisis' and got me thinking, Do they really exist?

If so what was yours?

#2 FiveAus

Posted 01 December 2012 - 07:12 PM

I sold my little 4 cyl sedan and bought a convertible. Classic "mid-life crisis" but it was fun. I owned it for 2 1/2 years then decided it was too hard to get in and out of so traded it for an X trail.
I used to take my two dogs to the dog wash and bath them, then put the top down and drive around town to dry them off. They'd sit on the back seat like a pair of movie stars.

#3 Feral Grey Mare

Posted 01 December 2012 - 07:16 PM

Haven't had mine yet but DH is in the middle of his and has bought a black SS V8 Commodore aka the Big Black Money Burner. He drives around in it looking to make sure that other drivers are looking enviously at him as he 'roars' around the town making his V8 noises.

#4 Ange remplie

Posted 01 December 2012 - 07:19 PM

People tend to go through identity crises at a number of key transition points in their lives.  So many people do experience something of a "mid-life" crisis, but it's part of their ongoing development into maturity (a bit like adolescence is, only further along, obviously).

I haven't quite hit mid-life yet... my last big transition was becoming a mother, and I'm still reeling from that!

#5 GenWhy

Posted 01 December 2012 - 07:27 PM

I'm still having a quarter life crisis from kids!

#6 **Tiger*Filly**

Posted 01 December 2012 - 08:15 PM

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Edited by Tyrone Finkelmeyer, 26 March 2013 - 08:52 PM.


#7 kadoodle

Posted 01 December 2012 - 09:48 PM

My mum did.  She bought a sports car and a chihuahua.

#8 ~iMum~

Posted 01 December 2012 - 10:14 PM

I can pin point 2 'mid life' crises I've had so far, both punctuated by cars. The first saw me trade my crappy Kia for an Audi. Then I traded the Audi for a 2 door Jeep last year. Along with the Jeep, I chucked in my cushy public service job and studied full time to finish my degree instead.

#9 I look incredible

Posted 01 December 2012 - 10:51 PM

No. I'm having a decidedly ordinary and dull mid-life.

#10 sophiasmum

Posted 02 December 2012 - 06:36 AM

Yes they do!

My DH quit his stressful corporate job, took 2 mths off to "find himself", then got another job in the education sector that he loves.

I had another baby for my mid life crisis!

#11 kiam

Posted 02 December 2012 - 08:15 AM

My Dad had a "reverse" mid-life crisis, as we like to call it.

He quit his bikie group, sold his bike and leathers, bought a boat and some old man clothes with that money and now goes fishing instead of going cruising on his bike.

Was very weird for all of us.




...at least we don't have to buy fish any more?

#12 cinnabubble

Posted 02 December 2012 - 08:32 AM

I don't drive and don't have the money to travel, so my mid life crisis is a bit crap, really.

#13 Nora.

Posted 02 December 2012 - 08:32 AM

Definitely. The past year has been one enormous mid life crisis. It's almost broken me sad.gif

#14 Chchgirl

Posted 02 December 2012 - 09:05 AM

I am mid fourties but am not having a mid life crisis, but maybe they do exist with some people. In general I am happy within myself, I just don't like others at the moment..

Although since my dh passed away this year I have the urge to pack up and go overseas for a year or so to get away from everyone, maybe that is one! (although I'm thinking it's the travel bug I haven't shaken for 20 years..)

Edited by Chchgirl, 02 December 2012 - 09:06 AM.


#15 fruitbat72

Posted 02 December 2012 - 09:35 AM

When I turned 40 this year, I realised I am on the downhill run now and I hadn't imagined I would be still changing nappies, so a bit of a crisis in that respect.

Mostly a career "where am I going?" type thing - I am trying to get into the specialty that I want to work in and go from there. It will hopefully happen in the next few months

I am also slowly coming to terms with the fact that I am no longer 21 and slim and gorgeous, I have had 3 babies, that my body is aging and I have wrinkles. I am having to adjust my thinking to aging gracefully. I feel a bit sorry for those women who cannot accept ageing and look plastic due to excessive use of Botox and fillers and end up looking worse. I am going to take myself back to the gym and work with what I have.

In a way, I am looking forward to meeting the challenge.



#16 Mpjp is feral

Posted 02 December 2012 - 09:40 AM

QUOTE (**Tiger*Filly** @ 01/12/2012, 09:15 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I had a real sense of mourning the end of my youth. Sort of like a point where lots of possibilities and parts of your life are finished, and although there are still lots of good things ahead, you won't get back those youthful opportunities. It did feel like a mid-life crisis.



This is EXACTLY how I felt.

#17 Walkers

Posted 02 December 2012 - 09:58 AM

QUOTE (**Tiger*Filly** @ 01/12/2012, 09:15 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Absolutely. I used to wonder why people got hung up on turning 40, after all isn't it just a number.
Then when I turned 40, it was the same year my youngest child started school, and I had a real sense of mourning the end of my youth. Sort of like a point where lots of possibilities and parts of your life are finished, and although there are still lots of good things ahead, you won't get back those youthful opportunities. It did feel like a mid-life crisis.

This is kind of how I feel now except I still have little kids at home.
I never understood the drama surrounding the number 40 until that number clicked over for me. Over the past year I have felt like something is NQR, like a kind of sadness but I just couldn't pinpoint what it was. I googled mid life crisis and I tick a few of the symptom boxes.
Like PPs I can't go nuts and buy stuff, so it sucks eggs.
Ageing - I don't like it!





#18 Acidulous Osprey

Posted 02 December 2012 - 10:34 AM

I'm 50 next year and that number is the one that is really bringing home to me that life is passing and quickly.  It's an interesting time, needing to figure out what I am going to do with the rest of my life.

#19 Gudrun

Posted 02 December 2012 - 11:16 AM

Not for me so I must have escaped it. Way too late now.

#20 littlemissmessy

Posted 02 December 2012 - 12:19 PM

I had mine at 32, almost left my husband and almost had an affair. Seems to be something about that age, as both my sisters had affairs/broke up with husbands at that age and one of my friends husbands had an affair on her at 32.

#21 Canberra Chick

Posted 02 December 2012 - 03:31 PM

I think I am having a good one just now. I've gone from cruising along at work and being content to carry an extra six kg to changing jobs, taking on some study and going to the gym and running most days. I also started doing girly things like getting my eyebrows plucked...

#22 luke's mummu

Posted 02 December 2012 - 04:10 PM

Not exactly but the realisation that I am about to turn 42 and no more babies is very hard. Tyring to sort out/give away baby things is also very hard for me.



Lisa

#23 Chchgirl

Posted 02 December 2012 - 04:23 PM

QUOTE (Canberra chick @ 02/12/2012, 04:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I think I am having a good one just now. I've gone from cruising along at work and being content to carry an extra six kg to changing jobs, taking on some study and going to the gym and running most days. I also started doing girly things like getting my eyebrows plucked...


OT but your kids are looking quite gorgeous in your pic Canberra Chick! (and growing up fast!)

#24 Kalota

Posted 02 December 2012 - 04:25 PM

I am not yet middle-aged and I know this sounds EXTREMELY fickle, but I think I definitely had a quarter life crisis in my early to mid twenties. I had finished all of my schooling/university, gotten a full-time job and just thought "what now?" There was nothing on the horizon waiting for me (marriage, kids, financial goals - I had none and had none planned!) and I did some pretty silly things to try and pick my life up a bit!

Little did I know that I was entering the most exciting time of my life... But that's what retrospect is good for!

#25 HerringToMarmalade

Posted 02 December 2012 - 04:35 PM

QUOTE (Ange Vert @ 01/12/2012, 08:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
People tend to go through identity crises at a number of key transition points in their lives.  So many people do experience something of a "mid-life" crisis, but it's part of their ongoing development into maturity (a bit like adolescence is, only further along, obviously).


Yep, thats exactly it. The end of adolescence/formal schooling tends to be another big point, the "quarter life crisis". I still feel guilty about begging my dad to buy me a fancy new drum kit even though I already had one, because I was so sure that once I graduated life would be completely different and I'd be barely surviving with some crappy job and no life so I needed to get all I could while I still had time. I still have that shiny red drum kit (instead of a shiny red convertible Tounge1.gif) though it doesn't get used much (guilt!).




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