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#1 hanz33

Posted 01 December 2012 - 05:23 PM

I feel so stupid for crying so much becasue I was only 6 weeks pregnant. My Husband is flying all the way back from Simpson desert (works on rigs) to be with me. Bless him.

Is this normal or am I being over emotional? and I feel so guilty, like I didn't do my job.


I wish I could just toughen up and get over it.

#2 3'sACharm

Posted 01 December 2012 - 05:27 PM

Ohhh sweetie...cry as much as you need to you are NOT stupid!! My condolences go out to you and your husband!! A miscarriage is something you don't just get over...it all takes time. Please take care of yourself...it's not your fault!  hhugs.gif

#3 hanz33

Posted 01 December 2012 - 05:30 PM

QUOTE (3'sACharm @ 01/12/2012, 05:27 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Ohhh sweetie...cry as much as you need to you are NOT stupid!! My condolences go out to you and your husband!! A miscarriage is something you don't just get over...it all takes time. Please take care of yourself...it's not your fault!  hhugs.gif



thank u sad.gif

#4 Guest_Sunnycat_*

Posted 01 December 2012 - 05:30 PM

I had an early miscarriage a couple of months ago. It was before 6 weeks but it really did get me down and I felt silly for being so sad when it was such an early loss.

But it's not silly, it's the loss of the dream and hope of your child. It may be early but it still matters.

I'm sorry you have gone through this, please do not be hard on yourself and allow yourself time to grieve.



#5 mandala

Posted 01 December 2012 - 05:33 PM

It is normal. On top of the sadness, you also have all the hormones, and the hormonal changes. I found that it took four weeks for the hormones to leave my system and it did get better from there.

And please don't feel guilty. It just didn't work out, and it's not fair, and it's nothing you did.

I'm very sorry. Please be kind to yourself.



#6 hanz33

Posted 01 December 2012 - 05:40 PM

QUOTE (KRT @ 01/12/2012, 05:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
It is normal. On top of the sadness, you also have all the hormones, and the hormonal changes. I found that it took four weeks for the hormones to leave my system and it did get better from there.

And please don't feel guilty. It just didn't work out, and it's not fair, and it's nothing you did.

I'm very sorry. Please be kind to yourself.



thank u so much for your comment. Its good to know im not a crazy lady hehe. The doctor still wants me to go back on Monday to double check there is no heartbeat and that  everythings gone. I wish it was just finale. It leaves this tiny glimmer of hope that I know doesn't really exsist. I can see whats coming out...

#7 GreenEyedGirl

Posted 01 December 2012 - 06:09 PM

You are not crazy. I was 6 wks 5 days and it was like a sledgehammer hitting me and continued to be that way until I ended up on anti depressants.

Take care of yourself and cry as much as you need. Grieving is natural


#8 smilinggirl

Posted 01 December 2012 - 07:43 PM

So sorry that you are going through this. It took me 4 weeks before I could face the world and go back to work. Grieve the way that you need to. It is such a horrible thing. I bought myself a necklace that had a heart in the birthstone the baby would have been had it lived. Mines gender wasn't tested but it helped me to name him Lachlan (I always thought he was a boy).

You don't need to "toughen up and get over it" - a loss is a loss no matter the age of the pregnancy. The baby was much wanted and loved and you had begun dreaming about its place in your family.

#9 Spring Chickadee

Posted 01 December 2012 - 07:51 PM

It is normal to feel the way you do. this isn't just bad news, its a loss and therefore you don't just 'get over it' instead you grieve. This takes time and can't be rushed.

I too struggled with feelings of thinking I was overreacting or should get over my losses faster.

Let yourself grieve however feels right for you.

#10 Soontobegran

Posted 02 December 2012 - 08:19 PM

I am so sorry. There is no right or wrong way to behave but crying would be a very natural response sad.gif
This was your baby from the moment you get a positive pregnancy test and you must grieve.
Take care, so glad you DH is on his way home x

#11 pinkcupcakes

Posted 02 December 2012 - 08:32 PM

it's not silly, it's the loss of the dream and hope of your child. It may be early but it still matters.
exactly what i was going to say. you poor thing, i feel for you and hope things do seem easier as time goes on. and i hope for your sake ( if it's you're choice, of course) that it doesn't deter you from trying again, because it seems to be a lot more common these days to have one and then to get pg the next time around. this happened to a very close friend of mine. whether you decide to try again or not i really hope your future is brighter. xo

#12 Purelle

Posted 02 December 2012 - 11:07 PM

Big hugs to you. Its been nearly a month for me and I'm still struggling with it. Half my problem is I've had to bottle it up due to visitors. Don't make my mistake and try to force yourself to get over it, it just makes you an angry person. Itsnot fair, I'm soo soo sorry.

#13 Cookie_J

Posted 05 December 2012 - 02:31 PM

I just found out today at my 12 week scan that my bubs stopped growing after week 8. Have to have a D & C.
How did you ladies hold it together in front of family/friends/work? (Only my mum knew I was pregnant) I  took a sick day today and have been crying non-stop. But I have an important work meeting to lead all day tomorrow - not sure I'm going to cope.

#14 LeNat McCoy

Posted 06 December 2012 - 10:37 PM

@cookie - you poor thing, I hope u took another day off.  So sorry xo
I had a miscarriage this week at 8 weeks, I elected to have a chemical d & c (misoprostol treatment) on Tuesday.
I must admit, I'm having a flat day today, up and down, happy then crying. Very unmotivated, I'm usually into exercise and really active but I've turned into a hermit.
I'm frustrated that I should be able to move on quickly, that seems like a common theme so I might just take it easy for a while.
Take care everyone

#15 Bazinga

Posted 06 December 2012 - 10:45 PM

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