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#1 Unatheowl

Posted 01 December 2012 - 08:51 AM

Dd has recently gone into her big girl's bed and has started to insist that we leave a small lamp on in her room.  It isn't very bright and I have found a very low wattage bulb to put in it but it would be bright enough  to say, read by.  She insists that it is on all night.

If I turn it off whe she is asleep she wakes up and freaks out and either calls us or turns it back on herself.  Her reasons are that she is 'scared'.  I'm sure that it is mostly attention based.  I actually don't mind if she keeps it on all night, it doesn't bother me however I am concerned about the quality of her sleep. she also tends to wake at 5 am and tik that the nights over.  She has a Gro clock which she understands how to read so no excuses about not knowing what time it is.

Is there any reason why I should insist she turn it off?  Would it affect sleep quality by essentially sleeping every night withi the light on?  Perhaps I'm just looking at it from my point of view and I personally wouldn't be able to sleep.  Anyone else have a child that insists on this?  Any comments would be appreciated.

#2 Suz01

Posted 01 December 2012 - 08:58 AM

Our 2 year old was getting up crying without the little night light. We put a little low volt plug in light that is very soft in her power point and had very few issues with waking now. That's just our experience, as an infant/ toddler she didn't require it. Only since being in toddler bed. My rationale is I'd rather her be able to find us in the night if she has too.

#3 zibble

Posted 01 December 2012 - 08:59 AM

Is the gro clock on the brightest setting?

#4 DylJayBen's Mum

Posted 01 December 2012 - 09:00 AM

My 3 kids have all had night lights. The 2 older ones when they were younger I got some coloured light globes red, green or blue and they just set off a nice glow to the room but were not bright in any way. My youngest 2year old has a night light that we got from bunnings and you plug it into the wall and it changes colours, it is his "magic light" as he started waking every night again and driving us insane until we found it.  I don't think that there is anything wrong with it.  Whatever works for you guys as a family

#5 Unatheowl

Posted 01 December 2012 - 09:01 AM

QUOTE (zibble @ 01/12/2012, 09:59 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Is the gro clock on the brightest setting?

I did try that, because it is really bright but she doesn't seem to like it??! She insists on the little lamp (curse Myself for showing it to her) which is actually a whiter light.  The gro clock is a blue light.

#6 Unatheowl

Posted 01 December 2012 - 09:04 AM

Ok thanks for replies.  It's just when I check on her it is so bright in there I think surely its affecting the quality of her sleep.  We do have small night lights but she doesn't want them.  I don't want her lying in the dark freaking out all night and I would rather she can find us/the toilet easier.

#7 DM36

Posted 01 December 2012 - 09:14 AM

Both of my girls are terrified of the dark and flatly refuse to sleep without their lamps on.

I don't think it affects their sleep and they don't wake up early from it so it doesn't bother me.

Can you get a lower wattage bulb for your DDs lamp, or a pearl one to make it a softer light?

#8 Therese

Posted 01 December 2012 - 09:33 AM

I don't think there is any harm in leaving it on if it means she sleeps better.

#9 Tesseract

Posted 01 December 2012 - 09:45 AM

In terms of circadian rhythm stuff I would be trying for a low orange light. Orange is the opposite of blue, blue equals sky equals day to our primitive brain.

#10 caesie'n'linc

Posted 01 December 2012 - 09:47 AM

My kids don't like sleeping in complete darkness either original.gif
We don't close bedroom doors in our house though so i just leave the toilet light turned on all night.  I have the toilet door open completely when they are going to sleep but once they are asleep/when I go to bed then I pull the door almost closed so that just a sliver of light comes out.  They can still see the light is on, they can push the door open easily without needing to reach the handle (ours are really high, my 4yr old can only just reach them), but the light doesn't keep me or DH awake.

I don't think there's anything wrong with having a small light on at night.  I used to hate complete darkness too, it wasn't until I was about 15yrs old that I could be the last person in the house to go to bed, before that I'd "forget" to turn something off just so I didn't have to be in darkness LOL

#11 Unatheowl

Posted 01 December 2012 - 10:27 AM

QUOTE (Tesseract @ 01/12/2012, 10:45 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
In terms of circadian rhythm stuff I would be trying for a low orange light. Orange is the opposite of blue, blue equals sky equals day to our primitive brain.

Ahh, ok thanks.  It was this sort of thing I was concerned about.  Messing up what her brain was doing whilst sleeping exec.

#12 millie_11

Posted 01 December 2012 - 08:51 PM

I have two sons - DS5 who is very confident, up for trying new things, doesn't easily get scared, and DS2 who is very wary of new things, scared of lots of things (including Santa and cute little bunny rabbits)... DS2 always wants the light off at night, whereas DS5 has slept with the light on for as long as I can remember... And not just a night light or side light, I mean the main light! Given he's not an anxious child (unlike his sleep-in-the-dark younger brother) it hasn't concerned me, and he has always been a great sleeper - doesn't wake up in the night and doesn't wake up early.
So I really wouldn't worry about it - it certainly hasn't been an issue for us... Except on the odd occasion when they have had to share a room on holiday - but we've managed to find a compromise that suits them both!

#13 kadoodle

Posted 01 December 2012 - 09:04 PM

With Christmas coming up, maybe a glow toy or nightlight from Santa could be the answer?  

My older kids now prefer a torch beside their bed, but the toddler has a plug in glowing dinosaur from the supermarket to take the edge off the darkness.

#14 sophiasmum

Posted 02 December 2012 - 06:50 AM

Honestly I don't see anything wrong with it & I wouldn't be getting technical about what kind of light either. The one you have already OP sounds fine to me.

At that age DS suddenly became afraid of the dark when we moved house & his new room was at the back of the house whereas his old room was at the front near a streetlight. We allowed him to have the lamp on for more than a year & then he changed rooms near a streetlight again so we told him he didn't need it anymore. They let it go when they are ready to.

Now my DD2 likes to sleep with the lamp on because she feels better when she can see her surroundings. But there are some nights when she won't put it on. I don't mind either way.

#15 mum201

Posted 02 December 2012 - 07:00 AM

I was scared of the dark for years, and tbh still don't like sleeping in a pitch black room. But when I was little, my parents left the hall light on for me to go to sleep but would turn it off when he went to bed. I would wake up at some point in the night freaking out, would run down the hall to turn it back on, but because by this stage I was freaked out and found it hard to go back to sleep. I still don't know why it was such a big ask to leave the light on????
So OP, in my experience my quality of sleep was way better when my room was lit all night

#16 Unatheowl

Posted 02 December 2012 - 07:06 AM

Ok cool thanks.

Kadoodle, her aunty has bought her a fairy night light for Christmas so we'll give that a go.

Ds falls asleep with the hall light on so I don't mind that. The halal light is not enough for her. Its just that dd insists on such strong light in her room.  I really don't mind, I just didn't want to be harming her quality of sleep in any way.

I'll try giving her a torch so that she has some control over the light.  Perhaps it will be a novelty?!

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