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#1 ChunkyChook

Posted 30 November 2012 - 02:04 PM

Another thread got me thinking about Santa being a lie and it not sitting well with some people.

Curious if any families dont do Santa or the Easter Bunny etc because it is lying. If so do you make up for it and buy a few extra presents or give them tooth fairy money from you instead?



#2 baddmammajamma

Posted 30 November 2012 - 02:16 PM

We don't do them because my now 7-year-old daughter figured out the drill at a really young age (and is only too happy to tell her little brother the truth). Once the Santa myth was cracked, it wasn't hard for her to figure out that the other players didn't make sense either.

Our kids still get treats on Christmas, Easter & when they lose teeth, but we don't attribute them to fictional characters.

As I mentioned in the other Santa thread, we promote Santa as a spirit that make people feel good about giving to others (my daughter is the one who came up with this, and we have just run with it).

We have lots of fun and magic and special moments in our family despite the lack of Santa in a starring role. original.gif

#3 Acidulous Osprey

Posted 30 November 2012 - 02:31 PM

When my older kid was 4, he set up a Santa trap on the roof with the help of his father.

He concluded that Santa was a fraud.  We never did the Easter Bunny at all.  Teeth equalled money with no help needed from the fairy.

#4 Bluenomi

Posted 30 November 2012 - 02:39 PM

We don't do Santa. Mostly because DH doesn't believe in it and I'm not fussed either way. DD still gets the same amount of presents as she would, they are just all from us.

We don't bother with the easter bunny either, her eggs are from us and we haven't gotten to the tooth fairy stage yet.

#5 BadCat

Posted 30 November 2012 - 02:46 PM

Yeah I don't quite get these qestions either.  You do what you choose to do. No rules either way.

We did all the characters but we would have done the same gifts and goodies with or without the characters.  


#6 baddmammajamma

Posted 30 November 2012 - 02:46 PM

QUOTE (Madame Catty @ 30/11/2012, 03:39 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
We are not some weird cult with special rules (don't forget about monthly meeting BMJ, I think you're leading this month)


Shhhhhhh! Don't blow my cover. wink.gif I am trying to masquerade as "just another mum" on EB rather than the freak cult leader I truly am.

#7 ChunkyChook

Posted 30 November 2012 - 02:48 PM

Madame Catty I'm not sure what you do, that's why I ask.I meant it more for people who just dont do it from day one. How to you explain santas at shopping centres to a 2/3yo? Oh thats a santa, he's fake. Some children believe because their families want them to?

I suppose our presents got scaled down....I'm in my 30s and santa still swings by mums place every year  ninja.gif

With the tooth fairy I guess we had lost all our teeth before we realised. But was curious if you have a little 'thing' or the "Oh wow you lost a tooth" attitude but no money etc.

I dont think you are rude, or a weird cult!



#8 Roselet

Posted 30 November 2012 - 02:59 PM

We haven't had to implement it yet (bub is under 1) but intend to avoid lying about Santa. The difficulty is how to not ruin it for all the kids whose parents are happy to lie to them. I hopped on this thread hoping some of you who have been down this path can give some good ideas / advice on managing that one. (I have this image of a scary angry mum furious with my because my little one told her little one that Santa is fictional, and getting screamed at over it).
Bunny and fairy are easier I think as they are less of a massive public fantasy. Plus easter in our house will be pretty church focussed rather than chocolate focussed. (please, lets not get into a discussion about the fictionality or otherwise of religion, my husband would agree with you and we plan to introduce both sides of the coin to our children and allow them to make up their own minds, just as my parents did with me.)

#9 Guest_Sunnycat_*

Posted 30 November 2012 - 03:05 PM

I don't think we'll be doing Santa when I was a kid my parents did the tooth fairy and Santa but never the Easter Bunny. I definitely won't be promoting the Easter bunny.

So far our plan for Christmas is to do the big present under the tree reveal on Christmas morning. Whilst DS is young I don't think he's going to ask where the presents have come from.

As for Santa at the shops, he'll be told its a character. When I was a kid I never believed that the Santa at the shopping centre was the real Santa anyway.



#10 Fright bat

Posted 30 November 2012 - 03:09 PM

I didn't have to tell DS3 that Santa was pretend, he told me the first time I told him about the North Pole, elves etc. he told me that it was a good story but Santa was pretend, "like dragons". We had not been planning to do Santa anyway, so I chose to tell him that he was right.

I did however explain to him that even grown ups like to pretend that he's real, and that many children think he is real, and to not tell any other children that Santa wasn't real. While I don't play along with the whole Santa thing, I'm happy to police my kid not blowing the myth for others.

I don't think the dressed up santas are a big deal - surely even kids who believe in Santa don't think those are the actual real Santa?



#11 Imaginary friend

Posted 30 November 2012 - 04:03 PM

QUOTE
Madame Catty I'm not sure what you do, that's why I ask.I meant it more for people who just dont do it from day one. How to you explain santas at shopping centres to a 2/3yo? Oh thats a santa, he's fake. Some children believe because their families want them to?


Not sure I am the right person to answer  -  I dont quite not do santa but I am very low key about it.


I dont think a 2 - 3 year old has much concept of fake and real - if  I saw santa at a shopping centre with a 2 - 3 year old  I'd just say Theres  Santa the way I'd say There's Dorothy the Dinosaur or any other dressed up character, no need to elaborate on the genuineness or otherwise of the character. unsure.gif

#12 JJ

Posted 30 November 2012 - 04:09 PM

QUOTE (ChunkyChook @ 30/11/2012, 02:48 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Madame Catty I'm not sure what you do, that's why I ask.I meant it more for people who just dont do it from day one. How to you explain santas at shopping centres to a 2/3yo? Oh thats a santa, he's fake. Some children believe because their families want them to?


Oh look, there's a man in a Santa suit! wink.gif

I said that to DD at the shops the other day and got some funny looks (don't worry, I wouldn't dare do it in front of other children - I've seen too many angry rants about that on EB!).




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