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#1 Bluestocking

Posted 28 November 2012 - 08:28 PM

Anyone else find their kids really struggle at the end of the year? DD is not wanting to go to school, tired, teary, etc. She was like this last year as well (currently second year of school). I'm thinking of giving her a day off tomorrow.

There are no problems at school, DD just says she is very tired of all the work. How do you manage it?


Posted 28 November 2012 - 08:34 PM

Yes! I only have one child in kindergarten but today I was at the shops chatting to the deli lady saying how he had just finished a tantrum and that his behaviour has been pretty poor. And she pointed out that all her kids also got like this at the same time of year. I hope it is true because to be honest I am over it and it scares me he might be like this all the time!

#3 AnotherFeral

Posted 28 November 2012 - 08:34 PM

Yep. DD1 is only FYOS but went to preschool 5 days a week for two years, so this is the third year this has happened for her.
I'm not one to allow time off school lightly, but I think a mental health day or two at this time of year is not unreasonable for younger kids if it helps them cope.

#4 applepie83

Posted 28 November 2012 - 08:34 PM

The kids in my class are restless and not overly focused - standard for this time of the year. We are all on the countdown.

Edited by applepie83, 28 November 2012 - 10:03 PM.

#5 Boys Rock

Posted 28 November 2012 - 08:37 PM

My son has had a day off this week because of fatigue. I told the teacher he had the day off for that exact reason and she said heaps of children are teary etc at this time of the year.

#6 Chelli

Posted 28 November 2012 - 08:43 PM

For us, mental health days off are a must when I have teary and tired children who are just burnt out. Daylight savings makes it hard to get them to sleep as early as they do in winter, the many activities they are doing - school swimming lessons (our kids are in the 2nd week of them at the moment), end of year picnics, excursions, assemblies, packing up the classrooms, etc is wearing them out. Even my DD in high school is feeling it. It doesn't help that the kids are going until nearly Christmas here in Tas! I think they finish on the 21st of December here.

Anyway, I certainly sympathise and I don't think at this time of year it hurts to take a break when they are finding it too much.

#7 mez70

Posted 28 November 2012 - 08:44 PM

Well my older 2 have well and truly hit the wall.
We had a 1/2 day teacher stop work today and DS teacher was still going to be at school and normally DS would attend but today given his sister was staying home (teacher on strike) and as she is currently recovering from a nasty chest infection (tail end, still very tired and not back to full strength) I had convinced her to stay home all day and REST. I allowed DS to have the day off as well

In the past 3 years my DD has had nasty chest infections that turn to mild pnuemonia twice and both of these times has been in November. I know she has a crazy Sept/ October due to Cali Comps and concerts etc so come November she is totally exhausted and has little reserve left.

Last year I really noticed that Dec was a really tough month and in Vic the public schools went until Dec 22, so they were totally wrecked for Christmas as they didn't get anytime to unwind between finishing school and Christmas....So this year I am actively making an effort to truly wind down in Dec and as hubby will have the last 2 weeks of term off I and seriously thinking of taking a couple of days off with the kids and just unwinding (give them 2 days off and have a long weekend away)

#8 Luxe

Posted 28 November 2012 - 08:56 PM

QUOTE (Excentrique @ 28/11/2012, 09:28 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
not wanting to go to school, tired, teary, etc

almost sounds like me  biggrin.gif
3 more working weeks to go!

#9 QueenIanthe

Posted 28 November 2012 - 09:00 PM

Yep my Year 2 child is over it completely and even my Year 4 son has had it. I think my Year 6 son is only excited because it's his last year of primary and he is doing lots of fun stuff.

I have had enough of homework and the running around too and cannot wait for all activities to stop.

#10 Freddie'sMum

Posted 28 November 2012 - 09:03 PM

*nods head in agreement*

Miss-7-and-a-half (year 1 girl) is explaining to me "I'm so busy Mum at school, there's so much to do".

There is an end of year concert and all the other stuff that is going on - everyone is just tired and cranky.  Not long to go now.

#11 peking homunculus

Posted 28 November 2012 - 09:05 PM

I've topld the kids that homework is optional until the end of the year. If they want to do it fine, but it's their choice

#12 barrington

Posted 28 November 2012 - 09:06 PM

One more day to go for my teary and overtired preppy!  I can't quite believe how many of her school friends have been crying every morning and DD1 has been uncharacteristically teary in the afternoons for the past week.

#13 Jjbeanz

Posted 28 November 2012 - 09:10 PM

Yes my kids always get tired this time of year and do do I lol

#14 Chelli

Posted 28 November 2012 - 09:24 PM

So this year I am actively making an effort to truly wind down in Dec and as hubby will have the last 2 weeks of term off I and seriously thinking of taking a couple of days off with the kids and just unwinding (give them 2 days off and have a long weekend away)

That's a great idea!

#15 ~TSC~

Posted 28 November 2012 - 09:28 PM

Yep my preppy is terrible. Thankfully a student free day next Monday.

#16 Bob-the-skull

Posted 28 November 2012 - 09:31 PM

*nods* very very common!

#17 JJ

Posted 28 November 2012 - 09:33 PM

Not just end of school year... with DD in particular it was the end of every term (but even worse towards the end of the year). I so don't miss that!

I think mental health days definitely have their place when the kids get like this!

Edited by JJ, 28 November 2012 - 09:34 PM.

#18 ~shannon~

Posted 28 November 2012 - 09:33 PM

Yep, same in this house.
I'm feeling it probably more than DD as I'm the P&C president and have to organise the Christmas break-up, final fundraiser (school disco), gifts for teachers who are leaving, gifts for various volunteers, hiring next year's tuckshop convenor, and so on and so on. I'm exhausted and am counting down the days till it's all over. Really looking forward to handing the reigns over next year to someone else. It's rewarding, but it's also demanding.
DD has ballet break-up, final weeks of swimming club plus the school swimming carnival, and community concert on top of usual cramming of school work in the final weeks, and she's only in year 1!

#19 JustBeige

Posted 28 November 2012 - 09:40 PM

Yep, same here.

I have found that they do get better as they get older, but yes a day off towards the end of nov / early dec is very common here.

#20 *LucyE*

Posted 28 November 2012 - 09:48 PM

I'm tired too. But woohoo!  We're on holidays now!

For the last 2.5weeks, the school has been winding down and teachers have planned their days in anticipation of this fatigue. The hot weather hasn't helped with tiredness.

DD in year 1, has had mini excursions last week. The week before, they had afternoon free swims after lunch. Then library story times.  Most of the kids in DD's class have been fine and I've had no issues with DD not wanting to go school. I have also made dinners and bedtimes a little earlier to help.

If most of the kids are exhausted and teary, I'd be talking to the teacher about the schedule.

#21 baddmammajamma

Posted 28 November 2012 - 09:58 PM

We use mental health days on a fairly routine basis (at least 1-2 per term) to help keep my daughter on the rails.

Our school is wonderful, but I think it is too focused on world class productions for things like the school gala/year end concert. Those rehearsals seem to be VERY draining on the kids.

#22 Expelliarmus

Posted 28 November 2012 - 10:00 PM

The kids? Pfffffffft

I'M bloody struggling and teary!

Seriously mine are older so not teary etc but they certainly were when younger, now they are just irritable and annoying (compounded by the fact I am feeling the fatigue as well).

A lot of my kids at school are on a knife edge.

So yep, totally normal.

#23 Cath42

Posted 28 November 2012 - 10:16 PM

My 11-year-old seems fine, but my 7-year-old is feral. She's tired, cranky and emotional, and she's been like this all week. The only reason I'm sending her to school tomorrow is that she's in a school play that's being performed in the afternoon.

I'm burned out as well, I think.

#24 Princess.cranky.pants

Posted 28 November 2012 - 10:30 PM

At the end of every term.. school girl and mum are grumpy, tired and over it all.

Although have noticed that DD is not nearly as tired as she normally is. I had her home today because she has gastro but she has been happy to go to school. Just over a week to go for us! Counting the days!

#25 Alina0210

Posted 28 November 2012 - 10:31 PM

My son is in year 1 and is shattered..., and next week for the next 2 weeks he has swimming lessons with school... Not going to go down well.

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