Jump to content

Blacktown hospital - shared care?

  • Please log in to reply
7 replies to this topic

#1 leratocharlie

Posted 28 November 2012 - 10:10 AM

I chose earlier on in the pregnancy to do GP shared care.  This was explained to me as seeing my GP most of the time (much easier when I'd have to take a day off to go to the hospital instead), and then seeing the midwife for key appointments.

This suited me for a couple reasons - the above one, plus I (rightly or wrongly) figured midwives were more likely to be female.  There's a sensitive reason that this was a slightly big thing for me, as I was very badly attacked and sexually assaulted by a man 7 years ago, and seeing a female made me feel more relaxed and less freaked out.

I had my checking in appointment with the midwife, then went back a few weeks later for my first appointment with them.  They were really nice, I felt really comfortable.  I've then been going to see my GP for every other appointment.

I'm now 34 weeks and had an appointment last night to go to the midwives at Blacktown hospital.  They called me half an hour before, and said there'd been a mixup.  I had to see the hospital doctor instead.  When I asked why, they said anyone doing shared care saw the hospital doctor instead of the midwives...  they therefore had to reschedule my appointment.

Coming off the phone, partly due to hormones, I was really upset at this.  I realised it was because now I'm bothered by the fact that I might have to see male doctors more.  (I know - this may not even be the case! I am calling them today to find out if my rescheduled appointment is with a male or female)

Has anyone else done shared care, and found this to be the case, that you have to see the hospital doctor?  I wasn't sure if it was just a Blacktown thing, or everywhere.  

I'm also going to ask them about birthing in a pool - does anyone know if they have that facility there?  Again, for my own sanity, I like the idea of minimising people 'touching' me during labour, unless necessary.  Obviously if they need to, it's fine, I just want to try and stay as calm as possible, plus I'm English so I love baths!

Hope this doesn't sound stupid, and that someone can give me feedback from their experience...


#2 lucky 2

Posted 28 November 2012 - 05:27 PM

Hi there, I think with your past experience and need for a female carer you could also ask your shared care Dr to advocate on your behalf if necessary.
Have you disclosed your history to the Dr and the Hosp?
I think it best if you do so if you can, if they are fully aware of your needs there will be a much better chance of them being met.
Wishing you all the best.

#3 ~spirited~

Posted 28 November 2012 - 05:38 PM

I went through Canterbury Hospital and was given the choice of seeing only female doctors (a big sticker goes on the front of your file). I was happy to see male or female doctors but many patients there see females only (cultural/religious reasons).

Perhaps as you are also at a public hospital in western Sydney you might be given the same choice?

Usually you have an OB appointment after your booking in appt to ensured you are eligible for your chosen method of care- the OB checks for risk factors that may exclude you, eg I was no accepted into the midwifery group program in my first pregnancy as I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes.

#4 leratocharlie

Posted 03 December 2012 - 08:36 AM

Thanks for the replies.

The hospital is aware of my history, yes.  I filled them in during the booking in meeting.  I said I would therefore obviously prefer to only see females, but I understood obviously if I went into labour and there wasn't one free, I'd understand!

I'm going to call them today to find out if I'm booked to see a male or female doctor on Thursday, and try to change it around.  It just makes me feel nervous that now my husband can't be there either as it's during work hours, whereas seeing the midwives was always 7pm ish so he could attend too.

Like you said ~spirited~, it might be that I just have to see this doctor now to establish if I am eligible for the normal midwife program.

With 5 weeks to go til baby is born, I'm just feeling mighty unprepared with changes like this going on!  Hopefully they'll actually answer the phone today and I can get some clarification.


#5 lucky 2

Posted 03 December 2012 - 09:13 AM

I hope things go well today original.gif .

#6 leratocharlie

Posted 03 December 2012 - 03:08 PM

QUOTE (lucky 2 @ 03/12/2012, 10:13 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I hope things go well today original.gif .

Thanks.  I just called - well eventually managed to get through to them.  I hope that's not the number I have to call if I'm in labour, as I haven't had much luck with anyone picking up so far!!

The woman I spoke to said I'm booked into the clinic and it could be either a male or female doctor.  She said she can't guarantee either way.  She said what to do is go there, advise reception that my preference is female.  Then, if a male doctor comes out and calls my name, just to stay seated, and hopefully the next doctor that becomes free will be female.

Seems a bit rude/awkward to me to stay seated... I assume they just think that you haven't turned up yet, so move onto someone else...

It's times like this that I really hate the guy that did this to me!!!!  It doesn't bother me so much day to day anymore.  But to have to have normal experiences affected by it, it really irks me.  And I got all hot and clammy just talking to the woman on the phone, even though I didn't say why, it's just awkward sad.gif

I don't know what happens next either, if I see the doctor, is it another week til I'll see the midwife, as I wanted to ask questions about birthing pools etc which I'm not sure the doctor would normally answer, or if they're in a rush.  Will just have to wait and see I guess.  I hate the unknowns...

#7 lucky 2

Posted 03 December 2012 - 08:15 PM

It sounds like your need to have a female carer is more than a "preference".
I hope you get what you need, it's rough that you have to keep pushing it but I I suppose it's better to be one step ahead if possible and it will help with the need for control.
Have you done some preparation for the birth, ie possible emotional and physical challenges that might/will come up on labour?
You sound like you have really great insight into how you are feeling and why so you have a head start.
All the best with your appointment.

#8 leratocharlie

Posted 07 December 2012 - 08:55 AM

QUOTE (lucky 2 @ 03/12/2012, 09:15 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
It sounds like your need to have a female carer is more than a "preference".
I hope you get what you need, it's rough that you have to keep pushing it but I I suppose it's better to be one step ahead if possible and it will help with the need for control.
Have you done some preparation for the birth, ie possible emotional and physical challenges that might/will come up on labour?
You sound like you have really great insight into how you are feeling and why so you have a head start.
All the best with your appointment.

Thanks.  I did tell them the reasons I really wanted females instead of males, but they just said they can't guarantee it as it's a public hospital...

In the end, I tried to get through to the antenatal clinic the 2 days before my appointment yesterday arvo, so I could move it - my husband had the Wednesday off work so would have been able to attend.  But they didn't answer... i checked my call logs, between myself and my husband we called 97 times on Tuesday and Wednesday, and never got an answer!

So I ended up going on Thursday by myself, and did see a female doctor luckily.  Though I still freaked out because she put a stethoscope on my neck to check my heart murmur... and I have a major phobia of that, related to the attack.  Gah!  On the plus side, she said at that hospital they don't do internal checks etc unless absolutely necessary, which is good as I said I wanted minimal invasive procedures due to my history.

I haven't really done much prep in terms of the emotional and physical challenges, to be honest.  I can't talk to counsellors, I generally try to act like it's not an issue, otherwise it affects my day to day a lot more.  Obviously with my due date being imminent, I am starting to think about it more and will make sure my husband knows things I do/do not want to happen when I'm in labour.  I'm hoping for a water birth, partly as I've heard it's good pain relief, but also it minimises people randomly being in your face!!

1 user(s) are reading this topic

0 members, 1 guests, 0 anonymous users


Kourtney Kardashian goes nude for art

We've all done some pretty radical things after a big break-up, but Kourtney Kardashian has gone one better.

Video shows babies 'singing' to music in the womb

A new study has shown that babies may actually be able to hear from as early as 16 weeks – 10 weeks earlier than was commonly thought.

Prevent pelvic pain with pre-pregnancy exercise: study

Women who want to stave off aches and pains in pregnancy should exercise regularly before they conceive, experts say.

Dad's hilarious blog about life with twins

A stand-up comedian in the UK has plenty of new material since becoming a dad to twin boys.

Dinosaur products for babies and toddlers

Dinosaurs are one of those classic childhood crazes. We've put together a host of products for dinosaur-mad parents, babies and toddlers.

Restaurant manager sticks up for noisy baby

A mum was left upset by a note from neighbouring diners saying her screaming baby had ruined their dinner.

His name is Cayden: Mum and social media hit back after racist Facebook attack

When a man posted a selfie with a co-worker's son to Facebook, it became a magnet for racist comments.

The Chinese tradition for new mums that can now cost $37,000 a month

Opulent rest time is becoming the gold standard in postpartum recovery, inspired by a Chinese confinement custom known as "sitting the month".

How the media can shape our decisions when it comes to labour

We all like to think that we make our choices in fair, reasoned and well-thought out ways. Not many of us would admit that we allowed the media to influence us in our life choices.

Mum told to express in pet relief area at airport

A woman who flew from Boston to Washington says staff with United Airlines at Washington's Dulles Airport suggested she pump her breast milk in the pet-relief area.

Heartbreak as mum dies and her baby chokes to death

An Australian woman living in the US collapsed and died while feeding her baby, who then choked to death on his food. 

The hidden mental health illness of anxiety

Anxiety took over Robyn Read's life to such an extent she could not even buy the groceries and felt suicidal.

Two children fall from second storey window

Two young boys have been rushed to hospital after falling out a second-storey window of a home in Eastwood.

Mum gives birth to India's heaviest baby

An Indian woman has given birth to a baby boy weighing a whopping 5.97kg, setting a new record for the country's heaviest baby.

Grandma surprised with brand new granddaughter

Finding out you’re going to be a grandmother can be a very emotional moment. Finding out that you’re a grandmother and the baby is already here is just out of this world.

Saltwater Sandals for babies and toddlers

Many mamas are wearing Saltwater Sandals - why not buy them for your babies and toddlers too?

How to spring clean your body and mind

Whether you're pregnant, already a mum, or are just trying to be a bit more healthy, there are ways to use the rejuvenating season to give yourself a boost.


What's hot on EB

Stella McCartney honours mum with lacy bra

Fashion designer Stella McCartney has honoured her late mum, Linda McCartney, by designing a special bra for post-mastectomy patients.

Don't panic: A granddad midwife's guide for dads-to-be

Mark Harris has helped deliver 500 babies. And he's now telling fathers what to expect.

How to be a calm parent when you're feeling anything but

Being a calm parent takes a lot of work, sometimes more than is obvious to those around us.

The joy and isolation of being a stay-at-home dad

It's cool, kind of like a second childhood. I love him to bits and think, on average, I'm an okay dad. But I also want to talk about the other stuff.

How baby Teddy's short life is helping save thousands of lives

He may have only lived for 100 minutes, but that didn't stop baby Teddy from saving the lives of others.

A heartbreaking trail of missed chances in death of baby forgotten in car

A haunting reminder to stay mindful about babies in cars, especially as we approach summer.

What to do if your baby has tongue-tie

Tongue-tie can cause feeding problems. However once it is diagnosed, the condition can be easily treated.

How to move house without losing your mind

Some people move frequently, while others like to stay put. But everyone finds it stressful.

'She had nowhere to go': how new mum's life began to unravel

The birth of her first child should have been happiest of times for Campsie mother Phuong Cao, but friends say it marked the beginning of when her life began to unravel. 

Women giving birth to a son keep some of his Y chromosomes

It was an experiment doomed to failure - they were looking for male cells in female bodies. And their search was stunningly successful.

Photos: How babies fit in the womb

A gorgeous photo series shows babies in the first hours after their birth - as they were positioned in the womb.

Baby tries to persuade stubborn bulldog to walk, fails

We don't know what he's saying, but this baby has a very clear message for his bulldog pal: let's walk - NOW.

The best toddler gift ever? Nine gender-neutral play kitchen picks

Without a doubt, one of the best gifts for a toddler turning two or three is a play kitchen.

9 easy steps to improve your baby photography

With a few simple tips you can take your images from random happy snaps to lovely clean images that create beautiful lasting memories.



Can't decide?

Check out the Essential Baby Names section for some inspiration

Essential Baby and Essential Kids is the place to find parenting information and parenting support relating to conception, pregnancy, birth, babies, toddlers, kids, maternity, family budgeting, family travel, nutrition and wellbeing, family entertainment, kids entertainment, tips for the family home, child-friendly recipes and parenting. Try our pregnancy due date calculator to determine your due date, or our ovulation calculator to predict ovulation and your fertile period. Our pregnancy week by week guide shows your baby's stages of development. Access our very active mum's discussion groups in the Essential Baby forums or the Essential Kids forums to talk to mums about conception, pregnancy, birth, babies, toddlers, kids and parenting lifestyle. Essential Baby also offers a baby names database of more than 22,000 baby names, popular baby names, boys' names, girls' names and baby names advice in our baby names forum. Essential Kids features a range of free printable worksheets for kids from preschool years through to primary school years. For the latest baby clothes, maternity clothes, maternity accessories, toddler products, kids toys and kids clothing, breastfeeding and other parenting resources, check out Essential Baby and Essential Kids.