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#1 ~A2~

Posted 28 November 2012 - 09:07 AM

Hi all

New thread time

Previous thread

Regards

Ali


#2 jimbobmel

Posted 28 November 2012 - 09:14 AM

GOLD!!!!! Yay my first original.gif

#3 julzely

Posted 28 November 2012 - 10:24 AM

SILVER! - Also a first for me original.gif

#4 Zanbam

Posted 29 November 2012 - 12:11 PM

Hi All

My DH and I will start TTC in mid Jan (as that is 3 months since the reversal). We are both really excited about it. It will be my #1 and his #3 (plus 1 DSD to his earlier relationship).

Am on the vitamins + folate and all my jabs have been done so we will be right to go when the time comes. Any hints or tips leading up to TTC would be much appreciated (especially if anyone knows how to stop the time dragging or how to make such an exciting secret easier to keep! biggrin.gif ).

#5 julzely

Posted 30 November 2012 - 11:53 AM

Welcome Zanbam: I have no idea on how to stop time dragging!  I’m so excited that I just want it to be the new year already. I’ve started charting my temps so that I know when my body is back to normal after the being on the pill and to be honest it is probably making me more impatient. In terms of keeping it a secret I have told a couple of people but I’m trying really hard not to. I’ve had a few people ask when we will have kids and I usually say we are thinking about the end of next year so that you can still carry on a conversation about kids, but give you 12 months before people start pestering you about it.

What jabs did you get done?  I went to get checked out and the doctor I saw seemed really blasé and didn’t give me any info.  I asked what I should get checked and he didn’t suggest anything. I requested Whooping Cough which I did get done, but I’m not sure what else I should have been checked for.

#6 MrsShine

Posted 01 December 2012 - 04:49 PM

Ok - update time!

Welcome Zanbam original.gif don't really have tips on making time go faster Lol but what I will say is take the time to do lots of lovely couple things with DH in the next month or so. Go see lots of films, go out for dinner & attend as many social gatherings as possible as from what I hear you'll miss those days once bub arrives original.gif plus it can only help male the waiting time fun, and should be easy to keep busy over the silly season!

Julzely, I don't think you've found YOUR GP yet sad.gif keep shopping around - look for "family" general practice or especially one where a Dr has paediatric care advertised as it would be nice to continue seeing the Sam Dr once bub is here for continuity of care. You can also google GP's that do "shared care" for pregnancy and if nothing comes up either call Medicare or your private health provider (even if u don't have OHI just call one) and ask if they have a list of shared care GP providers in your area. They can then see you for prenatal care and even through pg if you decide to go that way. I wouldn't make appointments until u know someone is right for u - try & get the receptionist talking and ask lots of Q's about whether any of their Dr's specialist in women & children. A friend asked her regular GP the same thing abt preparing for pg and her Dr took her blood pressure & that was it!

They should talk you through the vitamins and what u need - for instance in required vitamin D as well as B12 which we found out from bloods. I was also screened for up to date chicken pox/rubella vax etc. and told a list of good foods to eat, get plenty of rest, regular exercise, sleep lessen alcohol etc. etc.oh & they made sure Pap smear was up to date & all of that.

Nothing too exciting to report here - it's so darn hot! I'm enjoying a cheeky glass of cold wine and laying under our fan. Not sure what where going to do tonight original.gif

Sill off BCP and doing ok, feeling much better this time and really feeling ready for a baby now! Think new year is Definitely the time!

We're off to meet our mates who have a gorgeous 7mnth old baby girl tonight - thinking of possibly going with them in a holiday next month too - DH seems quite enamoured by her too, think I'm finally cracking him!



#7 Zanbam

Posted 04 December 2012 - 08:01 AM

Thanks for the advice MrsShine, I'm trying to plan a big night out for NYE as the stepkids will be with their mum this year and (hopefully) it will be the last one to ourselves!

Thanks for the welcome Julzely, by shots I meant checking my rubella immunisation was adequate, otherwise you need to be reimmunised and then wait 3 months (as my friend found out to her frustration). I have only recently started seeing my Dr and she is so thorough and supportive that I am going to talk to her about doing a shared care arrangement for when I do get pregnant rather then use an Ob the whole time. I absolutely think MrsShine's advice was good re getting referrals from friends and other mums, you have to feel comfortable with this person.

DH and I went away for the weekend with extended family and after a few beers he was dropping hints left right and centre, such as "if you got pregnant" when previously us having a baby was definitely not on the cards - glad to see he is as bad as me! A couple of my close friends know about the reversal as I had to have someone else to talk to about it or it would be all me and DH talked about!

#8 Amellyne

Posted 04 December 2012 - 04:06 PM

Hi all, sorry for the delay in posting sadly it is that time of the year where everything is just busy busy busy!

Zanbam, welcome to our group, sadly none of us have worked out the time dragging thing. My best friend is due to give birth in the next 6 weeks so that is certainly not making this any easier, just take pleasure in know you are certainly not alone and your DH seems very much on board if your weekend is anything to go by!

Julzely, it sucks that you haven't found your doc yet, but I agree with everyone else, you have to be comfortable so keep hunting! I have my fingers crossed for you original.gif

Mrs Shine, in response to the last thread, it is my job that is moving me, I am a teacher so one of the "perks" is being told where to live, thankfully my new posting is much close to friends and family, and more importantly to the city so DH may be able to pick up some work. He has an interview scheduled for Thursday so cross fingers for us original.gif.

Other then that there is isn't much to report here, we move on Friday next so I am likely to be without internet for a week (hopefully they will hook it up before Xmas otherwise it looks dire until the new year) and then it is Christmas so I presume things will become even more sporadic in our little forum. At the moment our house looks like a warzone with stuff everywhere and half packed boxes and suitcases, but I am sure it will all come together next week (the positive to a forced move, someone else has to pack most of our stuff for us original.gif ) , and I am off on year 9 camp tomorrow for 3 days in the delightful FNQ heat, I'm sure it will be delightful! On a side note I am actually pretty sure it will be the most awesome fun so I am actually not that worried.

Hope everyone has a good week and that the rest of this year flies! Come on 2013!

Talk soon original.gif

#9 MrsShine

Posted 08 December 2012 - 10:23 AM

Hi girls,

Just thought I'd check in and say hello original.gif cannot believe Christmas is so soon!

I really miss my grandparents at this time of year, all the family always gathered at their big place in Melbourne and it was always so much fun. Ever since they passed away over 6 years ago it seems we are lacking in tradition and everyone sort of floats around between other IL's and family members.

DH and I are not sure what we're going to do, we have a bunch of very good friends who all live in our suburb and we've just found out they are all in town for Xmas. All 3 other couples have babies and at least one parent from each couple is from OS so this rarely ever happens, my family (as mentioned above) are having an "off" year and even if we do anything it's always Christmas Eve as my folks are of European descent, so its looking more and more like a beach BBQ or something for Xmas day. I was thinking of getting DH a ping long table as his gift, I know he'd love it and they are surprisingly cheaper than I'd expected.

I think he is going to get me (or pay my portion of more like) a holiday to Hawaii with friends! Pretty exciting original.gif we only decided in the last week but thinking of going the last week in January for 7-10 days.

One of the couples we'll be spending Xmas with want to go and asked if we'd like to join them. I'm very excited as most of our other holidays are unplanned, go with the flow type things as that's what DH prefers but since we're going with these guys and they have an 8 month old bub it will be a 5 star resort/packaged deal - heaven! The boys will golf, surf etc. and me and the ther girl will shop, spa and order cocktails by the pool! original.gif

Ok, back on track with conversation - Julzely, have you had any more luck with GP's?

Zanbam - how are you going with the NYE plans? I always find the night such a let down, and the last few years we've usually done something local and low key which is always so much nicer! I'd be interested to know what you've got in mind.

Amellyne - I hope your move is currently in the process and going very smoothly original.gif how did the year 9 camp go?

Oh, my other news is that we applied for a home loan the other day and got approved so it looks like its time to start house hunting too which is very exciting!

Any more thoughts on TTC girls? I'm still doing ok off the BCP so I guess in theory we could conceive any time, but I'm pretty sure my AF isn't back to normal yet & no idea if I'm ovulating. I haven't bothered this time with OPk's and all that. I'm thinking that we wait until the new year and if nothing has happened without us preventing it from happening IYKWIM then we'll start to chart, use OPK's and DTD at the correct times.

Yikes!

Edited by MrsShine, 08 December 2012 - 10:26 AM.


#10 lovepink

Posted 27 December 2012 - 10:09 PM

Hi all

Im new here, DH and I are going to start TTC straight after my next period - due New Years Eve. I am so so excited and can not wait!! I feel as though thinking about Pregnancy and Babies is consuming me atm!! DH got me a Pregnancy Book for Christmas and I have been doing lots of research online.

Quick question for you all, I started taking Elevit with Iodine last week. Prior to this I was taking Swisse Womens Ultivite which I believe includes Folic Acid. Does it matter that at the time of TTC I wont of been taking the Elevit for at least a month??

Thanks

#11 Zanbam

Posted 30 December 2012 - 01:56 PM

Hi all
What a crazy time of year hey? Kinda glad Christmas is behind us (though I do love all the gift giving, eating and drinking and seeing my lovely family), now we will be starting to actually TTC in the next week or so!
MrsShine, we have decided to go into Sydney as I LOVE fireworks and it's something we have never done on NYE together. Usually we just go to a party locally or to my brothers (whose neighbour puts on fireworks as they worked in that industry for years) and I agree that a big build up is a sure way to ruin the night. We are going for dinner at a pub in the Rocks and then we will hang there until the fireworks and then head home. As we have a table booked the only part I worry about is the public transport to and from the city but I'm hoping that if we expect it to be hell we won't be surprised/disappointed when it is. Does that make sense?
I hope you all have a fab NYE and wish us all luck in conceiving next year!

#12 MrsShine

Posted 01 January 2013 - 10:47 AM

Happy new year ladies!

I hope you all had a safe and wonderful Christmas too original.gif

How were the fireworks Zanbam? We are in Sydney but we just watched them on TV after meeting up with some friends locally to watch the 9pm fireworks our council put on. DH was fast asleep on the couch by 12pm, and we were both in bed by 12.30pm - party hard! Lol

I was just popping in to say the same - I think it might be time for me to move to a TTC group......eek! I'm excited and nervous at the same time.

I have been off the pill now since mid Nov, so the goalie has been taken out of the net so to speak for over 6 wks! My AF recently was 12 days late and I did begin to freak out (although when it finally arrived I was a little disappointed) but I knew coming off the BCP so recently probably just meant by cycle was still adjusting.

Not going to change too much just yet, obviously still taking vitamins and using no contraception, thinking of using OPK'S staring this week and will see if we can DTD around O time which will mean we aren't really thinking about it anymore but actively trying!

Not sure where I go from here, is it TTC now or TTC #1 buddy group?

Love pink - I don't think it really matters you've only been taking Elevit for a month. Plenty if people don't even know they are pg until they start the vitamins. I think as long as you continue to take them now then that's ok:)

Did AF arrive for you? Shall we make the big leap over to a new buddy group together?

Amellyne - what about you? Hope your move went well.....are you guys TTC now?

#13 TTC2013

Posted 02 January 2013 - 07:32 PM

Hi all!Dh and I are going to ttc #1 this year starting in July. I cant wait - obviously I'm on here already and just trying to improve my diet exercise and take my vitamins.



#14 MrsShine

Posted 04 January 2013 - 05:39 PM

Hi TTC2013!

I saw your post here & thought I couldn't not reply original.gif

Our little buddy group has been pretty quiet for a little while and the few of us that have been posting occasionally have lastly moved to TTC groups in the new year (including me!)

Feel free to ask any questions you might have - I'm happy to answer if I know anything and hopefully a few more people will pop into this group soon too!

#15 lilsunniegirl

Posted 06 January 2013 - 01:53 PM

Hi there original.gif

Thought I'd pop in and say Hi! We have decided to TTC#2 this year as well...

The plan!! (oooh how exciting writing it down for the first time!!)
  • Charting from May
  • June:
    • BMCWG
    • Maybe acupuncture and chinese medicine again (it has always led to a pregnancy for me)
    • Megafol
    • Iron Melts
    • Berocca (although Ill probable find an alternative without the nasties in it)
    • Cardiprin Aspirin from Ovulation
    • Use Conceive Plus Fertility lubricant (I found it so much better than PreSeed and cheaper too!)
    • OPK's
    • Charting
Wow... I forgot what it was like! We had a lot of heart ache TTC DS, so hoping this time will be easier (although I'm turning 35 this year, so will see if it takes even longer) I have thought about trying earlier, and there is every chance that we might to be honest... just want to finalise the credit card, and have some more savings and annual leave behind me too.. and work out uni as well (I study and work fulltime)

We had a quiet Christmas and N Years, so was good. I do miss NY in the city though.. always so much fun and full of energy and colour.

OK, back to studies for me.. looking forward to getting to know you all original.gif Best of luck to those already TTC!

#16 MissingInAction

Posted 06 January 2013 - 02:41 PM

Hrmm... DH & I are Thinking About TTC by the end of 2013...
I skimmed this thread and... I guess we'll be taking a fairly relaxed approach (unless nothing happens for a while, then we'll get serious!).   unsure.gif   I've got a fairly regular cycle and we have a fairly good idea of when I'm ovulating so no charts or anything like that here just yet.  Just taking it easy.  Laidback & lowkey.

#17 TTC2013

Posted 07 January 2013 - 02:24 PM

Thanks for the welcome Mrs Shine
Hi miamoo, lilsunniegirl!
I'm using a period/ovulation app to help get to know my cycle and have already discovered differences in cm.Ive begun taking prenatal vitamins as I want a good background when we do start ttc.DH says he's both excited and nervous about being a dad & when I told him how often we should BD he was shocked. He still thinks first go we will conceive lol.
Hope everyone who's now ttc is having fun and wishing you *babydust*

#18 FrenchSoda

Posted 07 January 2013 - 07:57 PM

Hi ladies! DH and I are going to start TTC in May and today I am feeling particularly impatient!
We (well me, really - I'm a planner and a worrier and DH is so laid-back and of the "whatever happens happens" mindset! rolleyes.gif) had a pre-TTC bucket list with some major life goals on it - graduate uni, move interstate, start good careers, and others. We've ticked off all but 1, a once-in-a-lifetime dream holiday (it's kind of our honeymoon, since we were too poor to go overseas for the real honeymoon!). No way do I want to do 20 hour flights pregnant, so we are starting TTC as soon as we get back (end of May) or possibly at the end of our trip if the timing is right.
I have been trying to get as prepared as possible in the meantime. I got all-clears at dental, skin cancer and GP check-ups last month. Now I'm on my last packet of BCP and will be practicing FAM (with a backup) from about Australia Day. I'll also start prenatal vitamins then - at the moment I'm taking my usual supplements of B12, iron, and fish oil. I've also been babysitting a coworker's baby girl to give me an idea if we're cut out for it - that was what made me REALLY clucky, especially when I saw how sweet DH was with her! wub.gif
Anyone else feeling impatient? What are you doing to make of the pre-TTC phase?

#19 lilsunniegirl

Posted 10 January 2013 - 04:25 PM

I wish I could be cruisey when it came to TTC... It takes me alot to fall PG as I can only conceive the day of O.. so timing is everything.. and with the previous losses and age, need to be pretty organised..

I'm also anaemic now so need to get that under control too.

I have uni and work keeping me pretty busy, and I have 2 pracs this year that I want to get out of the way so lots to focus on..

I think though, no matter how you go about the TTC journey (mostly) its pretty exciting.. def full of ups and downs..original.gif

#20 SmithiesWife

Posted 17 January 2013 - 02:03 PM

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Edited by SmithiesWife, 18 February 2013 - 09:07 PM.


#21 drmiaow

Posted 02 February 2013 - 02:56 PM

Hi Ladies,

Well we are thinking about TTC so I guess belong here... though * thinking * doesn't seem quite strong enough somehow. Even obsessing underplays it! The whole, 'should we shouldn't we', 'if, so when' turmoil goes on (for me anyhow!) several times a day - and often with different outcomes. What purgatory this is, i swear i am usually an almost rational and mostly normal person  wink.gif .

So tell me, how do you avoid having your life taken over by the whole TTC thing?

drmiaow xx

#22 SmithiesWife

Posted 02 February 2013 - 09:32 PM

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Edited by SmithiesWife, 18 February 2013 - 09:06 PM.


#23 FrenchSoda

Posted 02 February 2013 - 11:15 PM

QUOTE (SmithiesWife @ 02/02/2013, 10:32 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
.Finally there is someone else in this thread other than me!


I'm here too! waves.gif    

DrMiaow, I obsess too. I've been off the pill for exactly a week and it feels like it's been at least a month! Time moves slowly in the pre-TTC world!
My distractions are work - crazy busy and stressful at the moment (though my awful new manager is making mat leave VERY appealing wink.gif ), planning our overseas trip, and babysitting for a friend, which makes me jealous AND more patient (babies are tiring! Haha).
We are going to give TTC a shot this month, but given I've only just stopped BCP I expect I'll be in this thread for little while longer at least - we won't be trying in March or April if it doesn't happen in February. With the nature of my work, and our upcoming trip, we have to be very careful with timing (I have a ridiculous spreadsheet to assist with the planning - it factors in things like future work pressures and potential first trimester sickness/fatigue, mat leave, etc. to calculate optimum conception dates! Talk about obsessive! laughing2.gif).

#24 drmiaow

Posted 03 February 2013 - 11:53 AM

biggrin.gif Hi there SmithiesWife and FrenchSoda lovely to hear from you and see that we are all muddling along looking vaguely 'normal' to the outside world.

SmithiesWife, building a house and having a new position both sound very diverting. finding the perfect time is a large part of the agony - i love that you have a spreadsheet FrenchSoda! i kind of wish it just happened ifywim because then you'd just have to deal with it and make it a good time. Having me involved leads to all this painful too'ing and fro'ing!

I already have 2 little munchkins so this would be number 3, which feels so elective, unnecessary, chaotic and wonderful. My first was a little less than planned, we knew we wanted a family and I stopped the pill planning to start TTC and voila! Without any more thought about it there I was UTD. Not what I expected - so watch out FrenchSoda!!!! My second was meticulously planned which was kind of weird, it sort of made me feel as though by thinking and planning so much it was unnatural or something. Both adorable, but lots of hardwork though, esp. my nearly 16 month old, hence the agony (aka 'WTF am I thinking' moments).

Lucky my DH is a little more sensible (but also why I need to debrief elsewhere). Our plan is to start trying (gee that sounds weird) after my next AF, due around 16/2....  blush.gif  So close, but so far, and is it the right thing to do? Who knows really.

Good luck FrenchSoda for this month, you are definitely in with a good chance. That would be an Oct/Nov baby maybe? Best wishes SmithiesWife, you're a patient woman but very sensible too, parenthood is a massive upheaval and life change. wonderful but irreversible!

#25 MissingInAction

Posted 03 February 2013 - 12:36 PM

We're living in la la inbetween land too...
We keep saying, 'ah there's never a right time, let's just do it' and then next minute change our minds because I'm currently on probation at work due to some recent changes there and i've finally had a pay increase where i'm FINALLY earning above 50g/year so we'd like to have a good shot at paying off a big chunnk of the house first before doing something crazy like putting a child into the mix!


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