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#1 Mummy fab

Posted 27 November 2012 - 01:42 PM

So I have recently discovered I am pregnant currently somewhere around 7-8 weeks.

I have/had been looking for work as we could really do with the extra cash however I'm not sure how to best move on with this.

I feel like I'm kind of stuck, do I tell them at the interview I'm pregnant then I run the risk of them not hiring me for that reason?

However if I don't tell them I think I would feel terrible telling them as soon as I start work that I'm pregnant?

How would you approach this?

#2 katpaws

Posted 27 November 2012 - 01:46 PM

I would be looking for casual or set term work under those circumstances. If i found my dream job I would probably be upfront if offered the job but knowing they don't have to provide maternity leave etc.

#3 MrsLexiK

Posted 27 November 2012 - 01:48 PM

QUOTE (katpaws @ 27/11/2012, 02:46 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I would be looking for casual or set term work under those circumstances. If i found my dream job I would probably be upfront if offered the job but knowing they don't have to provide maternity leave etc.

I would do this, it would also depend on the company.  If it was a small/medium sized business looking for longterm employment I would probably not bother applying or I would be upfront (depending on what I was planning on doing for maternity leave) If it was a large company which did not specify it was a longterm position or ability to work up etc I probably wouldn't be to phased about it.

#4 kez71

Posted 27 November 2012 - 01:50 PM

depends how much training you would be needing and if you planned on a  short maternity leave.

if it was a casual job waiting tables etc, then it wouldn't matter much as theres not a huge amount of time for them to invest in your training, but if it was a specialized job where youd be training for weeks or months then id probably not apply, Unless I was only planning on taking a couple of weeks/months maternity leave.

#5 niggles

Posted 27 November 2012 - 01:53 PM

They won't be obliged to give you maternity leave if you get a job. You need to have worked somewhere for 12 months to qualify.

I would not tell my employer at that stage. I would tell them when I would otherwise tell an employer - at around 3 months or later. They are not allowed to discriminate against you - that means they are not allowed to take your pregnancy into account when deciding whether to offer you the job. So why mention it?

If you are offered a job and the time does come to tell them then have a think about whether you'd like to return to work. They may be prepared to hold the job for you if you are prepared to return to work quickly even though they aren't obliged to. My friend was in this exact situation and they were happy to give her 3 months leave.

#6 Guest_- Poppy -_*

Posted 27 November 2012 - 01:55 PM

You will not get a job if you tell them you are pregnant.

I used to work in HR and all I can say is lie lie lie through your teeth.

#7 Mummy fab

Posted 27 November 2012 - 01:57 PM

I should add I wouldn't be expecting the maternity leave and I understand the 12 month requirement.

If it was a job I loved and they were prepared to hold it for me then I would have a short 6 months maternity leave.

And I'm looking at reception/office admin type roles so nothing overly special.

I used to work in financial planning as an insurance manager but looking for something less stressful.

Edited by aliyah's mum, 27 November 2012 - 01:58 PM.

#8 Missy Shelby

Posted 27 November 2012 - 02:00 PM

I don't think that many places would actually hire you if you disclose to them that you are pregnant.

Unfortunately, through my own personal experience, many companies view pregnancy as a hindrance.

#9 niggles

Posted 27 November 2012 - 02:02 PM

Good luck then. There have been threads like this before and people will inevitably come in and tell you how difficult you will make things for small businesses and so on and so forth if you don't give them the opportunity to tell you you're 'just not the right fit for our business'. My advice is to tell them to take a short walk on a long pier. You have every right to find yourself a job and are no less valuable than the next person looking for one.

You may even be able to find a short contract or maternity leave cover for that kind of work somewhere and then you won't have to worry about it at all. original.gif

#10 noi'mnot

Posted 27 November 2012 - 02:02 PM

This has happened to me before. I was upfront in applications that I was pregnant, and was successful in getting a great job. It probably depends on your sector, though, and how specialised your skills are.

#11 Natttmumm

Posted 27 November 2012 - 02:03 PM

Not many employers would be happy to hire someone who would be going on leave about 6 months later. If you dont say anythign and get the job you lose credability as when they find out they will know you werent upfront. I would apply for  short term contract roles and I wouldnt say anything as it shouldnt matter.

Good luck

#12 Fossy

Posted 27 November 2012 - 02:07 PM

Maybe contact a recruitment company about short term contracts? There is a stack of reception type work out there, I'm sure you'd find something. I have several friends who have done this between jobs and had 1 - 10 day placements covering sick leave, annual leave etc.  

It's hard, if you omit the truth you'd unlikely make it through the probation period, if you tell the truth you're unlikely to get the job.

#13 bambiigrrl

Posted 27 November 2012 - 02:15 PM

QUOTE (- Poppy - @ 27/11/2012, 01:55 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
You will not get a job if you tell them you are pregnant.

I used to work in HR and all I can say is lie lie lie through your teeth.

yeah i couldnt find a job once i was showing either...try and get a job before then and dont tell them, if you cant get one before you start showing id just give up cause they wont look twice at you if they know your pregnant

#14 ms flib

Posted 27 November 2012 - 02:28 PM

I have been in this situation.

I applied for a job and told them when they offered it to me. It was not a problem. They held the job for 3 months for me when I had the baby and then actively tried to get me to come back but I wasn't ready. I'm sure I could have returned at a later date if I'd wanted to. It was a similar job to what you're considering.

You should be fine applying for that sort of job. Lots of women do that sort of work and it will be easy to find a replacement for you. Compare it to someone working so they can go overseas for a year.......

All the best!

#15 Propaganda

Posted 27 November 2012 - 04:13 PM

I tried to find work while pregnant too, but I made sure to tell them first.

I know you're technically supposed to be refused a job for pregnancy, but I'd rather them just not hire me, than hire me, find out, and act like jerks because of it. I knew that it was unlikely I'd have had someone hire me while they knew I was pregnant, but I decided that it was probably easier me not having a job, than having a job during pregnancy with bosses who hated me because they wished they hadn't hired a pregnant woman.

#16 FizzlingFireboxes

Posted 27 November 2012 - 04:56 PM

I would look for contract work.

I emailed an old mgr asking about casual work up to Christmas as I was sick of my current job. I was called in by a partner in the firm and instead of the casual position they wanted me permanent part time, I had only just found out I was pregnant, but I told them as I wouldn't want to start a new job without that up front.

They hired me and I have been there since September and will work until feb. I'm not entitled to maternity leave as I have been employees under 12months but they seem decent and I think will let me go 12months. So you do get good people/companies out there but you do take a risk.

#17 Milly Molly Mandy

Posted 27 November 2012 - 05:15 PM

I just couldn't do it, I would have to be upfront and risk not getting the job. I really think employers should have the right to not employ someone who is going to take extended leave 6 months later.

Not a popular or politically correct view I know.

My sister's work recently employed someone to lighten my sisters load while she undertook a year long course of cancer treatment (sis worked through the whole thing except chemo and other treatment days) turns out girl was pregnant. Yeah that sure lessened the stress load for my sister.

#18 Duck-o-lah

Posted 27 November 2012 - 05:36 PM

Tricky one this, and I think it depends so much on your industry.

From the point of view of a small business owner, if I hired you and you told me after starting work I would think a few things...
1. Like me you had an incredibly anxious 1st trimester and didn't want to put your life on hold just incase you lost the baby, or
2. You only had your own interests at heart and didn't really care about the wellbeing of my business, or
3. You were (perhaps justifiably) anxious that I wouldn't hire you due to your circumstances

If it were #2 I think your attitude would become apparant pretty quickly and you wouldn't be a good fit for my business, and you probably wouldn't be taken on past the probation period. If it were the other reasons I would be more understanding (having been there myself!) but would really appreciate knowing sooner rather than later as I would need to discuss your leave period and whether I would need to find a replacement for you.

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