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#1 UpsyDaisy

Posted 24 November 2012 - 11:14 PM

I really want to keep specifics out of this where possible, however any advice based on the information I provide would be greatly appreciated.

My SN's child attends a mainstream public school. The school in question has always gone beyond my expectations for my child and my other SN's child. So much so, when I moved I kept my children at this school and travel everyday.

A situation happened mid-year with this teacher, and myself regarding my SN's child. Some completely "out of line" comment was said by my SN's child's teacher. The comments were that bad I took them further to the SN's coordinator who is VERY supportive of myself and my child. She agreed it was of concern and promised me she would deal with it. I trusted her and left it be. However, the situation mean't I no longer felt comfortable going anywhere near this teacher or the classroom.

Fast forward to recently and due to my SN's childs class being there well after the bell I went over to the classroom. I walked in and what I experience was beyond words. I was abused, harrassed by my SN's child's teacher over a silly little issue she (that happened to be the exact SAME issue as mid-year). She refused to believe this issue was related to my child's SN's and turned on me in a BIG WAY. My other younger SN's child witnessed all this, and was very confused over the teachers aggression towards me. It was such a severe situation I removed my child from the school for a week. The SN's cooridnator spoke to me on two occassions over the phone and wanted my child to return. What bothered me, despite her (as always) amazingly understanding personality, was that this teachers actions have not and will not be dealt with.

I have contacted a local disability discrimination place, who referred me to another place. I have not heard back from them. My child has been back for only one day. My child is happy enough and I have chosen to send him back, a little out of pressure, but I can not let this teacher get away with it. Hard when I can't put specifics in here. I fear for other children, and I know this behaviour is not isolated. I fear for other kids who aren't SN's.

WDYT? Would you take this further and put a compliant about the teacher only (not the school) to the Department of Education? I don't and wouldn't take this step if I didn't feel it was needed. Does anyone know what the DoE do with these complaints? Would I need to meet up with this teacher and others over this? If was offered but I refuse to be anywhere near this person.

TIA

#2 TeaTimeTreat

Posted 24 November 2012 - 11:37 PM

It's hard to respond not knowing what this teacher was cross about (I do understand you cannot be specific), have you spoken to the prinicipal about it? If you have and they were not responsive then I suppose your next step would be the dept of education. Do you have access to a advocate for your child through the disability services team in your state?

Edited by sparkler, 24 November 2012 - 11:37 PM.


#3 UpsyDaisy

Posted 24 November 2012 - 11:41 PM

The principal was consulted prior to the last phone call I received. My SN's child is too old now for any funding, so not advocate other than myself. Thanks

#4 PurpleWitch

Posted 25 November 2012 - 01:28 AM

Definitely take it further!!

You're your childs advocate.

#5 Bec .

Posted 25 November 2012 - 05:36 AM

I would go and speak to the principal directly, not through the coordinator. Make it clear that you will be ringing the education department - start with the disability area. Also, if your child has ASD, ring the organisation as they have school representatives. Do not let this matter slide. If you were abused, that is completely unacceptable and it should go further. Good luck.

#6 JRA

Posted 25 November 2012 - 06:08 AM

It is hard to say given there are no specifics, but you are your child's advocate.

My only question is did the teacher say something because you went over to the class before it  had finished, or was it something you heard, that normally you would not hear as you weren't there - if that makes sense.



#7 liveworkplay

Posted 25 November 2012 - 06:46 AM

You say you fear for the students. Physically? Emotionally? If it was that bad that some harm may come of them, I would be contacting the teachers registration board for an investigation if you have exhausted all possible avenues with the school.

Very hard to comment without knowing specifically what happened.

#8 Copacetic

Posted 25 November 2012 - 07:38 AM

Daisy where are you? In Queensland you can have an advocate or support person from the department of education come to any meetings with you.

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Hard to comment not knowing what you are saying exactly. What actually happened? What did she do / say? and how old is your SNs child? You said you don't recieve any funding for your child anymore, so are we talking about a teenager?
Why is your child SNs but then not funded because of age? That doesn't make sense, not knowing what the SN is exactly?


Tam my boys do not receive funding and they are 7 and 9. We were told by DSQ that this is because once they are school age the funding and support now comes from EQ, and we do have excellent support from them now - between the hours of 8.30 and 2.30. I can't say that was the case when we were using a mainstream school. The difference being of course is that the teachers at our SS actually WANT to be there. They signed up to teach children with disabilities.

Children on the spectrum are also provided with funding through FACHSIA although this evaporates when they are 6.

Edited by Copacetic, 25 November 2012 - 08:21 AM.


#9 José

Posted 25 November 2012 - 03:26 PM

Its impossible to know what I would do in that situation without specifics. I wonder what you mean about fearing for other children. ?  you can report a teacher to docs if you hold significant fears. In my experience formal complaints against teachers very rarely result in any changes, principals seem to be left to deal with complaints ad they see fit. But they have very little power to impose any consequences. Its almost the end of the school year. So in ur situation I'd probably  see out the year and request a new teacher for next year.

#10 JaneDoe2010

Posted 25 November 2012 - 04:01 PM

Not specifically related to this topic but on the topic of no funding over a certain age (which is correct) the Catholic system (at least in Victoria) DOES fund ASD students, including Aspies, after FACHSIA runs out.

Just wanted to mention in case it helps anyone out. original.gif

Edited by JaneDoe2010, 25 November 2012 - 04:02 PM.


#11 Lyra

Posted 25 November 2012 - 04:07 PM

Not sure if you are in Victoria or not but this mob really helped us when we were having issues with my son's CCC

http://acd.org.au/index.htm

I agree with the others though, it is hard to comment when we don't have all the details. But, I understand why you are being so circumspect

#12 ASDivine

Posted 25 November 2012 - 05:34 PM

Yes I would take it further.

Edited by ASDivine, 01 December 2012 - 09:51 PM.


#13 Domestic Goddess

Posted 25 November 2012 - 09:00 PM

I'm a strong supporter of the "listen to your mothers instinct". If you really believe something needs to be done, than do it.
What if this happens a 3rd time? You children will get more confused and upset.
Yes, it is hard to give any detailed advice with any proper details. Just go with your "gut" is all I can say.

I am praying this is not about any physical/mental abuse.




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