Jump to content

3yo scared of her room


  • Please log in to reply
8 replies to this topic

#1 hollysmama

Posted 24 November 2012 - 08:03 PM

About a week ago DD had a bad dream and after that she didn't want to sleep in her bed so I slept in the spare bed with her in the spare room for the rest of the night.  But now because of this dream she is scared of her room and she's waking quite a few times a night and coming into our room saying she doesn't want to sleep in her bed.  I don't want her in the bed with us as I don't get a good night's sleep and neither does DH.  I just want her to feel comfortable in her room again. It's never been an issue before. Any ideas on how I can make her room feel safe again?  I'm so tired yyawn.gif

#2 winkywonkeydonkey

Posted 24 November 2012 - 08:08 PM

night light?

put a mattress on the floor in her room and sleep in there for a few nights . that has worked for me before.

#3 hollysmama

Posted 24 November 2012 - 08:13 PM

I have tried the light, but she still gets up. We don't have a spare mattress, I might get one and sleep in her room if it means I'll get sleep.

I have tried spending more time with her in her room before bed trying to show her there' nothing to be afraid of, and tried turning a light on outside her room, but she's still scared.  She even told me tonight she's been getting up and sleeping on the couch!

Edited by hollysmama, 24 November 2012 - 08:15 PM.


#4 nic188

Posted 24 November 2012 - 08:20 PM

We have just been having this issue. Her dad now checks her room where ever she wants, so under the bed, behind the door, in the cupboards etc. He has to check for scaries (as she calls them) just before she goes to bed and he puts a toy lion and a tiger under the bed and they protect her and scare everything away. She now sleeps all night in her room

The other option i have heard works is you get a spray bottle of water, which is a magic spray that keeps everything away.

Just some ideas that work for us. Hope you can find something that works for you.

#5 123tree

Posted 26 November 2012 - 07:25 PM

I saw on Super Nanny one night the grown up went into the bedroom and asked the kid what were the scary toys.  Then they took them all out of the room.  Then they got a torch and turned off the lights and asked the kid what were the scary shapes.  Then they used the torch to point to them and put them out too.  So then the kid was happier going to bed.

My nephew was scared of monsters until someone told him monsters were scared of ducks.  If he thought a monster was coming or was in his room he would just quack and then the monster would leave very quickly.  

The problem I have with "checking" for monsters is that maybe then the child would think that even Mum and Dad think they are real.  However every child is different and if it works then it works.

#6 adl

Posted 26 November 2012 - 07:32 PM

I suffered bad nightmares etc as a child...and some carried into adulthood as well..so I do feel for your DD... It is terrifying and hard to articulate....


But I agree with PP about finding what is scaring her and there are some great suggestions ...I have heard using dream catchers as special traps for bad dreams  and they only let nice dreams in????

#7 rob6712col

Posted 26 November 2012 - 07:34 PM

We have had that too but found "monster" spray worked a treat. We actually used the non smelling fly spray, told her it only worked when it was dark in the room and then sprayed around the window, under her bed, a light spray over the bed and around the door. She liked the sound of the can being shaken with the little ball inside.

We then had "monsters in my eyes". This was harder but I ended up getting some saline eye drops at the chemist and these were monster drops to keep the monsters away. These also worked great.

Sometimes my kids just like to sleep with the light on and if this makes them sleep and are happy then so am I.

#8 Just Another Cat

Posted 26 November 2012 - 07:54 PM

QUOTE (123tree @ 26/11/2012, 08:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
The problem I have with "checking" for monsters is that maybe then the child would think that even Mum and Dad think they are real.  However every child is different and if it works then it works.


This is my thought too. Same with the spray.

A few weeks ago DD told DP that there were monsters in her wardrobe, so he opened the door and 'scared' them away. It didn't help. The next night she screamed when he tried to put her to bed, so she ended up sleeping in our room.

The next night I sat on her bed with her,  she protested a bit, but then we just chatted. We talked about all the good things she did that day, just positive things. She did bring up monsters coming into her room, so I said 'who? Cookie Monster or Elmo?' (She loves Sesame Street), she thought for a second and then said something about Cookie Monster and how he was her friend. We read a few stories and she went to bed fine that night.Kids this age are so impressionable, try and make the scary thing a nice thing.

We also put away scary type books (like anything with a 'bad' character), and try to just talk about nice things before she goes to bed.

Good luck OP, when we had this trouble with DD I searched EB for help and there were a lot of topics on it, I think it's quite common for this age.

Edited by GrumpyTurtle, 26 November 2012 - 07:57 PM.


#9 LibbyCo

Posted 27 November 2012 - 03:27 AM

My niece had a similar situation, she'd often wet the bed. Comfort and acknowledgement is key as often the child feels vulnerable and insecure. Let her know its safe, stay with her and just be present where possible. Get some cheap mattress toppers too that are machine washable to spare her blushes if she also soils the bedwear




1 user(s) are reading this topic

0 members, 1 guests, 0 anonymous users

 

How to tell if your child has a speech or language problem

 Left untreated, children who start school with speech and language difficulties face an increased risk of reading and writing difficulties, more bullying, poorer peer relationships and less enjoyment of school. So, what should parents expect of children at different ages?

Finding your tribe as a new mum

How was my renegade mother's group different from my first? They were my kind of people. My tribe.

Following your child's emotional roadmap

Psychologist Angharad Candlin will guide parents through their child's emotional development during her seminar at the Essential Baby and Toddler Show in Sydney this weekend.

Delivery room surprises: when gender predictions are wrong

Out of all the questions asked of mums-to-be, “Do you know what you're having?” would be right up there in popularity. Sometimes,

The fertility battle we don't talk about

“You’re nowhere near menopausal,” my doctor cheerily informed me, and my heart sank. I don’t want to live with worry about pregnancy anymore.

'My morning sickness was so bad I'm not having any more kids'

“All the horrible stuff was totally worth it to have my son. But there is absolutely no way I could go through it all again.”

The 'no children' wedding invite

It was the wedding of one of my oldest and dearest friends, and she had invited me to be her bridesmaid. It was quite an honour. But there was one problem.

Baby Dylan recovering well after spending five days alone

 For up to five days he lay alone after his mother died of a suspected drug overdose, but eight-month-old Dylan Micallef has made an incredible recovery.

Win a $200 Pumpkin Patch voucher

Fill out this quick survey and tell us in 25 words or less your best pregnancy or parenting tip - you'll go in the draw to win a $200 Pumpkin Patch voucher.

The mystery of William Tyrell, little boy lost

The question remains: How does a little boy simply vanish without a trace?

Woman fights off robber, then gives birth

A thief in the US got more than he bargained for when he try to rob a woman who was nine months pregnant because he figured she would be an easy target.

Video: Two-year-old tells mum off for laughing at her

This little girl is not happy that her mum started laughing during her performance - so she tells her exactly how she feels about it.

Download now: Essential Kids Activity Finder app

Got bored kids? Quickly find the best activities for kids wherever you are in Australia with the Essential Kids app.

 
Advertisement
 
Advertisement
 
 
 

What's hot on EB

Losing yourself to motherhood

While watching your baby grow into a unique little person is exciting and wondrous, the intensity of meeting everyone else?s needs can ever so sneakily overtake your own needs for self-care.

Tearing during delivery: the facts

Almost all women will experience bruising, grazing or tearing after a vaginal birth. Depending on the degree of tearing, there are various treatments available.

6 tips for a day out with a baby and toddler

Outings can be lots of fun with the kids, but there are inevitable challenges. Here's some information about days out to help you be a little more prepared.

Why I invited a dozen people to watch my son's birth

I sent invitations on burgundy scrapbooking paper stamped with a field of poppies, and told each person why I wanted him or her there. I warned that there would be nudity.

Getting labour started: tips for a natural induction

When your baby?s due date comes and goes without so much as a pop - let alone a bang - it can be disheartening. Mums and a doula share their stories of natural inductions.

7 mistakes old hands make with new babies

As I sat across the table from my friend ? me, a seasoned mother of three; her, a brand new mum ? I thought of all the mistakes an old-hand parent can make when visiting a newborn baby.

That's my boy: a dad's diary of the first 4 months

Unbearable anxiety, unspeakable joy, constant exhaustion and bouts of frustration ... The many shocks of first-time fatherhood resound in a dad's diary of his son's early months.

One of the most important things a new mum can do

Finances may not be as cute as a newborn, but with many women?s working arrangements changing post-baby, monetary matters need attention too.

Does this baby say 'I love you'?

She's only 10 weeks old, but this baby is already dividing people around the world.

Personalised baby gifts

We've scoured the internet to find gorgeous personalised keepsakes and nursery decor to record baby name and dates. They make great gifts for christenings, name days and birthdays! (All prices in AU.)

 

My Wellbeing

Making time for me

We look at your wellbeing, covering health, relationships, beauty and fashion, mind and body.

 
Advertisement
 
 
Essential Baby and Essential Kids is the place to find parenting information and parenting support relating to conception, pregnancy, birth, babies, toddlers, kids, maternity, family budgeting, family travel, nutrition and wellbeing, family entertainment, kids entertainment, tips for the family home, child-friendly recipes and parenting. Try our pregnancy due date calculator to determine your due date, or our ovulation calculator to predict ovulation and your fertile period. Our pregnancy week by week guide shows your baby's stages of development. Access our very active mum's discussion groups in the Essential Baby forums or the Essential Kids forums to talk to mums about conception, pregnancy, birth, babies, toddlers, kids and parenting lifestyle. Essential Baby also offers a baby names database of more than 22,000 baby names, popular baby names, boys' names, girls' names and baby names advice in our baby names forum. Essential Kids features a range of free printable worksheets for kids from preschool years through to primary school years. For the latest baby clothes, maternity clothes, maternity accessories, toddler products, kids toys and kids clothing, breastfeeding and other parenting resources, check out Essential Baby and Essential Kids.