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#1 IShallWearMidnight

Posted 23 November 2012 - 10:34 PM

So much is invested (both emotionally and financially) in the Big Day, and the 'rules' around manners seem to change, with a lot of forgiveness towards the couple wanting a 'perfect day'
While my wedding was nice, I certainly never expected it to be the happiest day of my life, and by far my children (especially their births) have bought me more joy than my 'special day'

#2 Guest_Maybelle_*

Posted 23 November 2012 - 10:38 PM

It was lovely, and very low key and stress free, but no. Mind, I don't think I could name the happiest day of my life...lots of them have been plenty fabbo.

#3 luke's mummu

Posted 23 November 2012 - 10:42 PM

No our engagement day was heaps more romantic and happy. And less stressful.

#4 FeralProudSwahili

Posted 23 November 2012 - 10:42 PM

It was a wonderful day. Was it the happiest? I'm not sure. I can't think of any one day which was clearly the happiest day of my life, although the birth of my son was pretty amazing too.

#5 wickle pickle

Posted 23 November 2012 - 10:45 PM

My wedding was the best party I've ever been to, but considering I don't like parties very much, that doesn't say very much!

But while it was a great day it was not the happiest day of my life. My kids' births and subsequent birthdays etc have all been as happy or happier for me.

I never expected the wedding to be the 'happiest day'. I really think there is too much emphasis placed on the wedding day these day and not enough placed on the thousands of days that come after it!

#6 saxa

Posted 23 November 2012 - 10:47 PM

No not really.

In hind sight I wish I had postponed it as I found out 6 weeks prior I had cancer and had to go into hospital 2 days after the ceremony for a hysterectomy.

It was 6 years ago now and wedding anniversaries are getting easier but still wish now I had waited and not have my wedding anniversary 2 days before my operation anniversary sad.gif

#7 katrina24

Posted 23 November 2012 - 10:48 PM

Absolutely not. The. Birth of my children and many days with them since have been happier. It was a lovely day and I really enjoyed it but certainly not the happiest of my life.

#8 Guest_Sunnycat_*

Posted 23 November 2012 - 10:49 PM

I didn't have a wedding but it was still a lovely day.

#9 bubble-o

Posted 23 November 2012 - 10:52 PM

Definitely not the happiest day, too much stress and obligation for it to come out on top. It was a lovely day, but I've definitely had other days which have surpassed it in terms of happiness...

#10 Chelly_M

Posted 23 November 2012 - 10:56 PM

The birth of my children were by far the best days of my life. Their births were so joyous and intimate.  Nothing is better than holding your baby for the first time!
Whereas I was too nervous to truly enjoy my wedding, even though it was as low key as we could manage.  And if I had my time again would do things very differently.

#11 Sweet like a lemon

Posted 23 November 2012 - 11:03 PM

No. Fortunately both DH and I were too sensible to blow a heap of money on it but the whole experience was pretty surreal. I upset the minister and I drank way, way too much. Honeymoon was much better (and free, lucky us). Holding DD for the first time (11 years later) was really my day that beats all other days.

#12 niggles

Posted 23 November 2012 - 11:16 PM

It was a really really happy day. But I've had a few really happy days so I'm not sure it stands out as the best. One of a bunch.

#13 Kiki M

Posted 23 November 2012 - 11:26 PM

Yes, I believe it was. It was a fantastic day, and I thoroughly enjoyed myself. As weddings go it was pretty stress-free, all the people I loved were there, the weather was perfect, and it was all about celebrating our love as a couple.

My DDs birth was momentous, but the day also involved stress (she was five weeks early), pain (obviously) and it was more a feeling of relief when it was all over rather than 'happiness.' It was a special day, no doubt, but I wasn't smiling and laughing all day like I was on my wedding day.

Having said that, she brings me limitless happiness now  biggrin.gif

ETA: My beloved AFL team Hawthorn won the 2008 GF the day after my wedding; so it was a great weekend for me, and certainly I look back on those two days as probably the most exciting, happiest and fun in my recent memory.

Edited by Kiki M, 24 November 2012 - 10:00 AM.

#14 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 23 November 2012 - 11:28 PM

Well, it probably was at the time.  My wedding day was one of many happy fabulous days I have had.  DH and I both had the sorest faces from smiling and laughing all day, it was excellent.  I've had quite a few happy days since my wedding.  And I'm sure there will be more happy days to come.  

I don't have one single solitary stand-alone occasion that is THE happiest day ever.  Ask me when I'm 90.

I always think that as much as today might be spectacularly fabulous, tomorrow can always be better.  And some days it is. biggrin.gif

#15 Oriental lily

Posted 23 November 2012 - 11:44 PM


Neither was the birth of my babies.
The most significant days but not the happiest.

I have a couple of random days, especially days in my childhood and the early days in dhs and I's relationship that I think are wonderful, perfect and happy.

Only I would really ' get' hy I felt that way.

The best part of my wedding was getting in to the
Car to go to the hotel lol.

It was uch a stressfull, long and exhausting build up that was not helped with me also being 28 weeks pregnant.

I just felt relief that everyone seemed to be having a good time and it was soon to be all over.
And that DH was finally married and we could concentrate on our birth of our first child.

#16 Mum2TwoDSs

Posted 23 November 2012 - 11:54 PM

No, It was a stressful day for me wanting everything to work out the way I wanted. It was so low budget I wish we had lots more money to do a better wedding.

I now find that the birth of my two kids are the happiest days of my life followed by the days when I found out I was pregnant.

Edited by Mum2TwoDSs, 23 November 2012 - 11:56 PM.

#17 ~ky~

Posted 24 November 2012 - 01:48 AM

It was just one of the happiest days of my life.

The births of my children and many milestones along the way, like the first time a child purposely crawls to you just to plant a sloppy kiss on your face - many happy days like that!

I've been married almost 13 years and look back on my wedding day fondly. Each day I have spent married to DH has only improved on it. We spent less than $500 on our wedding (in a friend's beautiful, old established garden) and it couldn't have been better.

We always promised ourselves a huge party on our 10th anniversary, but as we were moving interstate at the time, we have decided to revise our plans for 20th anniversary, maybe  original.gif

#18 Bernard Woolley

Posted 24 November 2012 - 02:44 AM

Heck no. It was a rite of passage that achieved what it needed to: DH and I committed to each other in front of our friends and God.

We designed an afternoon (not a whole day!) that our family and friends would enjoy, and they did. But for me, there was mostly the satisfaction of having successfully hunted down the woolly mammoth, and knowing I could now get on with the next stage of our life.

We weren't living together prior to the wedding (so 1950s  biggrin.gif) so it genuinely marked a transition point. But I was pretty sure going in that for me, it wouldn't even be the happiest day of that year: that title would go to some random day involving books and coffee and conversation and the chance to watch the sky. And I was pretty much right  wink.gif

#19 threeinnyc

Posted 24 November 2012 - 06:59 AM

It was. It was a very small gathering but a wonderful event. The sky was so blue, the sand soft and warm in our feet, DH's very romantic but sincere vow made everyone weep.
I will never forget... wub.gif

#20 miinii

Posted 24 November 2012 - 07:01 AM

My wedding wasnt the happiest day of my life. My childrens births were by far the best days

#21 Carmen02

Posted 24 November 2012 - 07:14 AM

births of my children defiently where the happiest days of my life even though my last was quite scary! my wedding was very low key stress free event in our backyard but I had enough of my SIL she was bugging me to drink alcohol i wasn't interested.

#22 50ftqueenie

Posted 24 November 2012 - 07:15 AM

It was the best wedding I've ever been to!

It is definitely one of the happiest days of my life, I look back at it with many fond memories. The planning and stuff was sometimes stressful, but I find any party stressful if I am hosting. Once things are underway it's all good fun.

#23 CupOfCoffee

Posted 24 November 2012 - 07:15 AM

No, it was an awesome day, but I have had lots of awesome days.

The happiest days have been really simple, days where you spend it with your family, the kids are well behaved, and the sun is shining.  I like those days best.

#24 Liv_DrSperm_sh

Posted 24 November 2012 - 07:20 AM

Our wedding was a fun day, we had a good time...but happiest day of my life!!?? Not at all, in fact if it WAS the happiest day of my life I would have to seriously consider my life choices!

The following is a list of things that were better than the wedding
- seeing the black keys in concert
- going to big day out (after the wedding)
- my first trip to Europe
- venice
- croatia
- kid removal from belly (although this is tinged with lingering horror at the car crash that was the birth)
- last weekend sitting on the beach in Manly reading a book watching the kids play in the sand
- handing in my PhD
- handing in my honours
- graduating from Oxford and getting to wear the stupid blue and red gown
- Rarotonga

#25 Feralmummacat

Posted 24 November 2012 - 07:26 AM

I have to agree with Oriental Lily minus the pregnancy.

MIL caused a huge scene at the reception as she forgot to turn up for photo's with DH prior to the wedding as arranged. Some how it was my fault she could not walk 10m across the motel to DH's room and that DH did not send someone to get her. By the time she made the scene the photographer had left (I was meant to have ESP to know she didn't turn up and reschedule the photo's, DH or photographer didn't tell me).

Everyone got over it quickly but I was really upset. Eleven years on it is still one of my lasting memories of our wedding.

I think I find happiness in the little spontaneous moments, like DS2 first belly laugh.

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