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#1 Regular Show

Posted 23 November 2012 - 09:13 AM

*Sigh* I have a dilemma and need to some advice. I have a funeral today - I should really really be there but I have my 2yr old and no one to watch her.

My other two children are at school so thats fine. My DF however is having surgery this morning so I cant exactly leave her with him and my MIL has taken him to the hospital because he didnt want me waiting around there for him with said 2yr old.

Do I miss out on the funeral or do I go with my 2 yr old?

#2 Therese

Posted 23 November 2012 - 09:16 AM

I think it is ok to take your 2 year old. Of course if she gets noisy you would need to take her outside. As long as you are prepared to do that then I see no issue with taking her.

I am sorry for your loss Cadie.

#3 countrymel

Posted 23 November 2012 - 09:16 AM

Sit near the back and if she gets at all scratchy or noisy then quietly slip out.



#4 duckasorus

Posted 23 November 2012 - 09:16 AM

If you have no other options i would sit down the back with some quite things and food bribes.

#5 jmaz86

Posted 23 November 2012 - 09:17 AM

Personally, I wouldn't take a 2 year old to a funeral, unless it was an immediate family member. I guess you need to maybe weigh up the pros and cons of the situation.
Is it going to be a funeral that is going to have the casket up the front of the church...are you going to have to answer questions from your 2 year old regarding it?
Also how long is the funeral going to take? Will you 2 year old be able to sustain patience for the duration of the service without interrupting?

#6 Mamabug

Posted 23 November 2012 - 09:21 AM

I'd take her.

#7 niggles

Posted 23 November 2012 - 09:22 AM

I don't think I've ever been to a funeral that didn't have babies and children present. But even if you think there are unlikely to be other children there I would think it's okay so long as you are prepared to slip out/away if disruptive.

#8 ednaboo

Posted 23 November 2012 - 09:24 AM

I've done it twice.  You can always stand outside if she gets noisy.

#9 Froger

Posted 23 November 2012 - 09:25 AM

I would take a two year old unless it was a funeral for a baby or a child.

#10 Regular Show

Posted 23 November 2012 - 09:25 AM

I think id rather go and have to slip out when she gets noisy rather than not make the effort to go at all.

I feel like I really need to be there. I dont feel like I cant just go.

I think i'll take a snack box for her and sit at the back.

Thank you guys xo

#11 Mumsyto2

Posted 23 November 2012 - 09:27 AM

Absolutely, death is a part of life and sadly kids don't really get exposed to that much anymore so it comes as a big shock when older rather than an ingrained acceptance all along.

Just sit at the back with them so if they start to get bored and disruptive you can duck out with them and let them have a run around and a bit of a chat etc.

I really hope there will be small kids at my funeral doing all the usual things that small kids do.

#12 hayzee fantayzee

Posted 23 November 2012 - 09:36 AM

I'd go.
Like pp said, take some snacks and sit at the back so you can slip out quickly if she gets bored or noisy.

Edited by starboard, 23 November 2012 - 09:40 AM.


#13 Chazee

Posted 23 November 2012 - 09:46 AM

Just don't take a 3 year old that lets off a really big fart during the silent part where you're meant to think about the dearly departed. Sent many of us in the vicinity in to hysterics. I felt like i was in High School again trying to stop laughing when the teacher says 'stop laughing!!!!'. Thankfully everyone there had a great sense of humour. roll2.gif

In all seriousness though, hope it all goes well.

#14 ms flib

Posted 23 November 2012 - 09:52 AM

Of course you can. I've done it myself.

In fact, at my Dad's funeral, my then 2 year old DS was rolling on the ground at my feet.




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