Just need a few varying opinions i guess.
One of my BIL/SIL has asked me to be godparent to their child. This is late DHs brother.
Honestly I have never been close to the couple and apart from christmas family functions not that much to do with them. But have always got on with them - until recently.
Awhile back I posted about getting a fairly large Death and Disability payout from Dhs work re his death. I made a decision to move to a property and chase a dream DH and I had together. When MIL found out the family made decision to try and stop me from doing so - stating that this money is really the childrens and I am being irresponsible with it. It is all legally without a leg but is taking precious time an dmoney sorting out. Anyway since then things have been somewhat tense within the family. When BILs baby was born they used DHs name as his middle name, I found out via the facebook announcement. Now I have no issue with what they call this child but I think basic manners suggests they could have told me themselves.
So back to the request - I get a phone call off BIL asking me today and I really don't want too. I just think saying no could tip the whole family relationship into never never land.
But I don't have a close relationship with BIL and SIL, I really don't like the way they raise their kids (yeah I know it is judgey but we come from totally different places in childrearing - their kids are spoilt beyond all sense) so I really see why they asked anyway.
I don't know what to do, I want to maintain some kind of relationship for the sake of my kids but this is getting a bit much.
Edited by 3Keiki, 25 November 2012 - 07:41 PM.