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#1 Ms_Jae

Posted 22 November 2012 - 02:38 PM

He is not sleeping any more than 2 hours and always wanting to be fed.. I am not getting much sleep and I just dont know why he is unsettled..

He has a bath of a night to relax him which he loves... But I dont know why he wont sleep any more than 2 hours at a time..

Any ideas on relaxing him would be great....

#2 LovenFire

Posted 22 November 2012 - 02:52 PM

How old is your little one oP?

#3 Trevie

Posted 22 November 2012 - 02:56 PM

My son was like that. There wasn't anything I could do to change it, he just grew out of it.  But cosleeping made it a lot manageable.

#4 Trevie

Posted 22 November 2012 - 02:56 PM

My son was like that. There wasn't anything I could do to change it, he just grew out of it.  But cosleeping made it a lot manageable.

#5 anikal

Posted 22 November 2012 - 02:59 PM

Your bub is only a couple of weeks old. His being unsettled is normal. Everything is still very new to him and he needs his mum available.
I don't think I had more than 10 minutes to grab a shower for the first six weeks of my son's life.

Good luck

PS It will all change more quickly than you think.



#6 nen-c

Posted 22 November 2012 - 03:01 PM

Problem is he is a 3 week old baby!!! OP this sounds totally normal, he has a big adjustment to make to being 'on the outside', and he has a tiny little stomach. So he needs lots of feeding and cuddles. Just try to sleep when he sleeps and he should start to be able to stretch out the sleeps soon. Give up on the housework and ask for help if you need it. I find it helps to feed them often during the day to make sure that is when they get most of their milk, in the hope that they can feed less and sleep more at night. I hope he starts to settle down a bit soon.

#7 MintyBiscuit

Posted 22 November 2012 - 03:02 PM

Three weeks was the exact point when DS went from four hourly clockwork baby to feeding every two hours around the clock baby. Exhausting, but it doesn't last forever.

If possible (and I know it often isn't), just sleep when your baby does during the day. It will pass, but those first weeks are very very unsettled

#8 Lorikant

Posted 22 November 2012 - 03:06 PM

Does he have any signs of reflux? E.G. Lots of large spit ups after a feed, crying when feeding? My DD had reflux, which interupted her sleep. We found raising her bassinet at the head end helped her sleep better. Reflux can also be silent (as in no signs but they just get heartburn). Another tip I found worked related to applying a very thick layer of barrier cream to DD at night before her nappy, this prevented her waking from having a wet nappy (she doesn't like even a bit damp otherwise).
Also is he un-swaddling himself? He could need to be wrapped a bit tighter. DD liked to be tightly wrapped and woke herself up if she wasn't.
DD didn't sleep through till around 3 months before that she'd wake for a feed every 2-3 hours.
It took me a while to realise that she wouldn't sleep all day anymore when she reached around 3 months, as she started to interact more with us too.

#9 LovenFire

Posted 22 November 2012 - 03:07 PM

Sorry, noticed from your sig that he was about 3 weeks old.  Your babe is just very little OP and he is probably just adjusting to life on the outside - which is to say that everything is very new and very scary, and the only thing that he KNOWS to be safe is his mummy, which could be why he just wants to be with you.

I'm very sorry to say, but 2 hr naps are excellent for a 3 week old, their tummies are so tiny that they simply cannot hold more milk.  Add to that the fact that breast feeding is exhausting for them and that breast milk is easily digested and they will go through what is in their tummies very quickly.  Their bodies are also developing at a phenomenal rate, which also means they need phenomenal amounts of fuel.  

All I can say is to a) ask for help from friends and family for laundry, grocery shopping and meals b) sleep when baby sleeps - yes, even at 10 in the morning and c) let the house go.  Your sleep is more important and you will enjoy bubs more.  

Good luck

#10 Mum2TwoDSs

Posted 22 November 2012 - 03:35 PM

QUOTE (nen-c @ 22/11/2012, 04:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Problem is he is a 3 week old baby!!! OP this sounds totally normal, he has a big adjustment to make to being 'on the outside', and he has a tiny little stomach. So he needs lots of feeding and cuddles. Just try to sleep when he sleeps and he should start to be able to stretch out the sleeps soon. Give up on the housework and ask for help if you need it. I find it helps to feed them often during the day to make sure that is when they get most of their milk, in the hope that they can feed less and sleep more at night. I hope he starts to settle down a bit soon.


Agree. original.gif

They have been in our tummy for 40 weeks. It's a lot to adjust for our little ones. original.gif

Edited by Mum2TwoDSs, 22 November 2012 - 03:36 PM.


#11 lucky 2

Posted 22 November 2012 - 03:40 PM

http://www.rch.org.au/kidsinfo/fact_sheets...settled_babies/
Hi OP, this is pretty standard behaviour for a 3 week old baby, the link above is from the Royal Childrens Hospital in Melb and focuses on infant crying, there is also a link at the bottom of that article with links to "purplecrying" which is also very informative and reassuring rt normal newborn behaviour and tips to cope with crying and help with comforting and sleeping.
Infant crying tends to peak at around 6-8 weeks for most babies.
Most babies do not feed and sleep around the clock and the average number of bfeeds per 24 hours at this age is 8-12 with an average of 10.
All the best.

#12 Ms_Jae

Posted 22 November 2012 - 03:51 PM

QUOTE (LovenFire @ 22/11/2012, 03:52 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
How old is your little one oP?


He is 3 weeks old..

#13 Ms_Jae

Posted 22 November 2012 - 03:54 PM

QUOTE (Lorikant @ 22/11/2012, 04:06 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Does he have any signs of reflux? E.G. Lots of large spit ups after a feed, crying when feeding? My DD had reflux, which interupted her sleep. We found raising her bassinet at the head end helped her sleep better. Reflux can also be silent (as in no signs but they just get heartburn). Another tip I found worked related to applying a very thick layer of barrier cream to DD at night before her nappy, this prevented her waking from having a wet nappy (she doesn't like even a bit damp otherwise).
Also is he un-swaddling himself? He could need to be wrapped a bit tighter. DD liked to be tightly wrapped and woke herself up if she wasn't.
DD didn't sleep through till around 3 months before that she'd wake for a feed every 2-3 hours.
It took me a while to realise that she wouldn't sleep all day anymore when she reached around 3 months, as she started to interact more with us too.


No, he is feeding well, and not bringing anything up.. Although he is very windy down below.. He burps fine after every feed.. But windy, popping off heaps..

Thank you ladies.. I wasnt sure whether it was normal, but by the sound of it, it is.. Hard when DP is working 12 hour days and comes home and practically sleeps then out again..

Thanks again  biggrin.gif




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