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#1 Mrsjessiccas

Posted 22 November 2012 - 02:03 PM

sad.gif I know it sounds silly, but after our loss last year at 13 weeks (compulsory termination due to abnormality) I am scared to test.
Have sore boobs/nipples very tender, period is 3 days late and have been feeling nauseous at the same time everyday which I had last time too, also same as last time; I feel like I'm starving hungry but then feel sick after two mouthfuls.
I'm scared that I'll test and it's a BFN and I will be disappointedI'm scared that I'll test and it's a BFN and I will be terrified of loss or fetal abnormality again
Sigh, Hmph.Sorry to whinge but DH is away for work so I have till tomorrow to decide if I have the courage to test or not!

#2 FeralSis

Posted 22 November 2012 - 02:17 PM

Sorry for your loss...

I think you will have to test.

Maybe wait and do it with DH?

#3 Sunshineandsmiles

Posted 22 November 2012 - 02:29 PM

Hi Mrsjessicas

It doesn't sound silly at all. 100% normal infact.  After a loss last year i was in the same predicament and the doctor was charting for me and wanted me to test at a certain point.  I actually POAS and walked away because i just couldn't bare the thought of it.  Ironically though that month was positive for us and i actually did another 5 tests as i didn't quite believe it until we got our blood results.  

Take your time and do some nice things for yourself.  Lots and lots of self-care

#4 klr70

Posted 22 November 2012 - 02:49 PM

Not silly at all - totally understandable.

For me, I got to the point where I HAD to test, as the not knowing/uncertainty was worse than knowing one way or the other. (Mine was BFN - my cycle was all over the place, with 6 weeks or more between periods).

As for the fear of loss/abnormality/something going wrong - as I shared in your other thread, for me, this didn't go away until my son was born.  sad.gif

#5 Sunshineandsmiles

Posted 22 November 2012 - 02:52 PM

As for the fear of loss/abnormality/something going wrong - as I shared in your other thread, for me, this didn't go away until my son was born.  sad.gif

Very much agree with this.

#6 Mrsjessiccas

Posted 24 November 2012 - 11:41 AM

I tested! I'm pregnant!! huh.gif  huh.gif  ohmy.gif  wink.gif  original.gif  unsure.gif If I calculated properly my due date will be 30th July 2013 !Thanks for the support guys, I don't think I couldve tested without it... Now just to try and enjoy it and not panic and stress hmm!

#7 Guest_Sunnycat_*

Posted 24 November 2012 - 11:43 AM

Congratulations Op and so sorry for your loss. It is understandable that you will go into the next pregnancy feeling apprehensive.

All the best for the next 8 months. original.gif

#8 dakotaskys

Posted 24 November 2012 - 11:43 AM

biggrin.gif Congrats!

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