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#1 MintyBiscuit

Posted 22 November 2012 - 11:59 AM

Ok, this may come across as b*tchy, but I've been called worse wink.gif

Those of you who go into a thread, skim it and then say "I haven't read all the replies, but" - why? 90% of the time when I've seen someone do this, whatever they've said has been said at least once before. Why not read the thread? Why admit that you couldn't care less about what other people have to say and just want to have your say?

I'm not trying to be nasty, I just don't get it shrug.gif

And I promise I will read every single reply this thread gets Tounge1.gif

#2 melandned

Posted 22 November 2012 - 12:02 PM

sometimes the thread is huge so i skim read it - i only will answer though if i think it will help, not just to make a comment tho

#3 BadCat

Posted 22 November 2012 - 12:03 PM

I'm sure some people never even read the first post let alone the replies.  They just go off half cocked after seeing the title.  It's pretty funny really.

#4 Feral Becky

Posted 22 November 2012 - 12:06 PM

I do read every post in threads I post in.

#5 DS1979

Posted 22 November 2012 - 12:06 PM

I usually just pop in when I have a few spare minutes and if i come across a thread I want to reply to I will add that I haven't read all the replies, just so if my opinion/advice/whatever is just a repeat of what someone else has said then they will know that is why. It's not that I don't care what others have said, it's just I haven't had the time to go through it all right now. Never thought it was a big deal to anyone!

#6 ~buzz~

Posted 22 November 2012 - 12:08 PM

I always try and read all the posts but sometimes if the threads are really long I will just add a comment and then read through all the replies at another time

#7 Magnus

Posted 22 November 2012 - 12:09 PM

I've only done that about once and it was when the thread had already blown out to several pages long and I did have something to say that could have been useful. It probably had already been said but I didn't actually have the time to read the whole thread at that stage.

#8 Guest_AllegraM_*

Posted 22 November 2012 - 12:12 PM

Not on my list of things that bother me.

If it is a long thread, before posting I usually read the first page, which sets up the tone of the thread and the last page, to make sure the thread hasn't veered off topic.

#9 protart roflcoptor

Posted 22 November 2012 - 12:12 PM

QUOTE (DS1979 @ 22/11/2012, 12:06 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I usually just pop in when I have a few spare minutes and if i come across a thread I want to reply to I will add that I haven't read all the replies, just so if my opinion/advice/whatever is just a repeat of what someone else has said then they will know that is why. It's not that I don't care what others have said, it's just I haven't had the time to go through it all right now. Never thought it was a big deal to anyone!



But that is precisely why it bugs people. One of my pet hates. Why do you think that whatever you have to say is so special or your opinion is so unique that you should type it out and hit reply without spending the time to find out whether it is still relevant, or has been said eleventy billion times upthread?



#10 I*Love*Christmas

Posted 22 November 2012 - 12:12 PM

I usually read the thread and then forget what I was going to say and don't post anything. lol. But on occasion I have posted without reading all the replies because either the thread is so big I just don't have the time to read everything or I just really want to have my say regardless if someone else has already said it.

Edited by I*Love*Christmas, 22 November 2012 - 12:13 PM.


#11 vanessa71

Posted 22 November 2012 - 12:12 PM

I haven't read all the replies in this thread because you are asking a question that requires a personal answer, so it doesn't really matter what the other replies say.  wink.gif

It is rare that I will reply without having read the thread first, I don't always think it's rude, it just depends on what is being asked.


#12 SeaPrincess

Posted 22 November 2012 - 12:13 PM

I do it if the actual question that was asked in the OP seems to have been overtaken by some marginally relevant (or completely irrelevant) debate, in which case, I will respond only to the OP.

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#13 snortle

Posted 22 November 2012 - 12:15 PM

I started a topic like this a few years ago complaining and you could tell who didn't read the replies by the fact that they all started their reply with "I haven't read all the replies but..." thinking they were SO witty.

Thing is- none of them bothered to read the other replies and if they HAD they would have realised how unoriginal they were. Basically proved my point for me wink.gif lol

I think it's arrogance.
The most annoying thing is when someone offers at about post 200 the most obvious solution that was dealt with by the OP in the first page or even post. Do you really think after 200 posts no one has thought of that incredibly obvious and simple suggestion? Gah!!!

#14 ~kacee~

Posted 22 November 2012 - 12:17 PM

I don't see that repeating something someone has already said as being a bad thing. If there are various view points to consider, it helps to find out what the majority agree on. And once a thread gets to around 8 pages, I just can't be bothered reading very single reply in depth - I just skim.

#15 seayork2002

Posted 22 November 2012 - 12:18 PM

I like to air my opinion (sometimes) and not just go with the sheep I mean the flow.

I like to answer a thread honestly with my thoughts and not others (hence why I have not read all the replies to this one)

#16 MintyBiscuit

Posted 22 November 2012 - 12:20 PM

QUOTE (BadCat @ 22/11/2012, 01:03 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I'm sure some people never even read the first post let alone the replies.  They just go off half cocked after seeing the title.  It's pretty funny really.


true. although most of them don't even bother admitting they haven't read the replies wink.gif


QUOTE (vanessa71 @ 22/11/2012, 01:12 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I haven't read all the replies in this thread because you are asking a question that requires a personal answer, so it doesn't really matter what the other replies say.  wink.gif

It is rare that I will reply without having read the thread first, I don't always think it's rude, it just depends on what is being asked.


cheat Tounge1.gif

I suppose the reason it bothers me is that I view a forum as a discussion board, and if I'm having a discussion with someone IRL I don't just ignore what has been said just to say my own piece. Well, I do sometimes with DH, but he knew that when he married me Tounge1.gif

I guess I'm just wondering what someone gets out of saying their piece but not worrying about what others have said. Don't you want people to read and consider what you have said?

#17 JJ

Posted 22 November 2012 - 12:20 PM

I think sometimes people are just passionate and keen to share their experiences or opinions, but don't have time to read umpteen pages first, so they take the risk of repeating what's already been said. I know I usually try to at least skim read the replies, but sometimes it's just like that - want to put in my 2c worth, don't have the time to read the entire thread first.

I only find it annoying when it's a question that requires a very short, simple answer (rather than sharing your personal opinions etc.), and you have poster after poster coming in to repeat the same word or two... as if the first person to reply somehow cannot be trusted (I know sometimes it happens because people post at the same time, but that's not what I'm talking about here).

Edited by JJ, 22 November 2012 - 12:21 PM.


#18 MintyBiscuit

Posted 22 November 2012 - 12:23 PM

Sorry, these posts popped up while I was replying

QUOTE (~kacee~ @ 22/11/2012, 01:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I don't see that repeating something someone has already said as being a bad thing. If there are various view points to consider, it helps to find out what the majority agree on.


I agree. The repeating for me isn't the issue. To me, it's akin to just talking over the top of a group of people in a conversation or a meeting - I just find it rude.

QUOTE (seayork2002 @ 22/11/2012, 01:18 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I like to air my opinion (sometimes) and not just go with the sheep I mean the flow.

I like to answer a thread honestly with my thoughts and not others (hence why I have not read all the replies to this one)


But if your opinion could be so easily swayed by a handful of replies stating a differing opinon, surely it's either not that strong in the first place or perhaps an opinion that you should be questioning?

#19 CourtesanNewton

Posted 22 November 2012 - 12:26 PM

It annoys the crap out of me, OP, especially when in one of these threads the OP comes in to update and then most of the posters afterwards keep asking questions that the update has answered. I agree that it's like a discussion, and to me doing that is the same as talking over the top of someone.
All that being said, in threads like "What is your favourite movie" or "where do you like to go on holiday" I don't think you need to read all the posts. It's only really necessary in the more personal threads.
ETA even worse is when someone doesn't even read the OP properly, ie someone's OP reads "Since I was widowed, I'm finding that all the mundane tasks of day to day life are really getting on top of me, do you have any suggestions?"
The second reply will then say "Why are you doing all the work! Why is your husband not taking responsibility? Time for a long talk with him I think...." ddoh.gif

Edited by redkris, 22 November 2012 - 12:29 PM.


#20 jai*

Posted 22 November 2012 - 12:27 PM

I haven't read all the replies... laughing2.gif

but sometimes if someone has read the OP and feels like they have a good insight/opinion/advice but they don't have the time to read 50 replies, it might be really handy to the OP that they DO at least leave their thoughts. Plus if it is a sentiment that has been shared once or a few times, doesn't it still make it valid?

#21 Guest_Sunnycat_*

Posted 22 November 2012 - 12:27 PM

I always read the OP and usually most of the first page but then if the thread starts to degenerate and go off track (and if it's not an interesting slag match) I usually stop reading and just post my response.

#22 seayork2002

Posted 22 November 2012 - 12:28 PM

What is the pint of a person starting a thread if they don’t want people’s opinions??? Should there be a disclaimer that says “only post if you are different”? they could end up being short threads.

QUOTE (HollyOllyOxenfree @ 22/11/2012, 01:23 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Sorry, these posts popped up while I was replying



I agree. The repeating for me isn't the issue. To me, it's akin to just talking over the top of a group of people in a conversation or a meeting - I just find it rude.



But if your opinion could be so easily swayed by a handful of replies stating a differing opinon, surely it's either not that strong in the first place or perhaps an opinion that you should be questioning?



#23 ~kacee~

Posted 22 November 2012 - 12:31 PM

QUOTE (redkris @ 22/11/2012, 12:56 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
It annoys the crap out of me, OP, especially when in one of these threads the OP comes in to update and then most of the posters afterwards keep asking questions that the update has answered.


I agree with this. I always read any posts by the OP to make sure that I'm getting the whole story.

#24 Acidulous Osprey

Posted 22 November 2012 - 12:32 PM

It bugs me as well.  Especially when they are asking questions that have already been answered.

It's rude.

#25 protart roflcoptor

Posted 22 November 2012 - 12:33 PM

I think the sense of entitlement and 'specialness' of a few PPs in explaining why they do it is the answer to your question HOO.






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