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Posted 22 November 2012 - 10:17 AM
Good day everyone.
DH and I are having a minor disagreement.
I think it's fine that on a lovely spring morning it's ok for our two year old and four year old to play outside in the backyard barefooted.
He however is insisting they need shoes on due to bees.
Now DH is allergic to bees so is a bit paranoid. However are girls have never been bitten so their is no reason to believe they would be allergic. Our grass has been freshly cut, so no flowers and no dog poop.
I just remember most of my childhood I was barefooted in the warmer months around the house and street.
And weirdly DH used to go to primary school in Queensland in the earl 80's and went to SCHOOL barefooted.
So how do you feel about it?
Posted 22 November 2012 - 10:23 AM
Team he, I'm afraid.
But...I too am allergic to bees, and the first time I had a major reaction it wasn't recognised and I was in a dangerous place by the time people realised and stopped telling me it was just a bee sting and I was being a sook! That possibly colours my response.
To my mind, outside (except at the beach or such) = shoes, always.
Posted 22 November 2012 - 10:23 AM
Team you. If there's no flowers on the ground what would bees be doing there?
Posted 22 November 2012 - 10:24 AM
There is nothing like the feeling of sand or grass under your feet. Though I struggle to get my children to wear shoes at all at home or at the beach.
Posted 22 November 2012 - 10:24 AM
Both times DS#1 has been bitten it has been on the hand and he was wearing shoes both times so they didn't save him.
Posted 22 November 2012 - 10:25 AM
Did your husband go to a 1 teacher school? I also went to school in the early 80s in Queensland with no shoes. We only wore them when the inspector was coming.
Team you but I understand allergy anxiety. I would probably end up putting shoes on them so that hubby could relax.
Posted 22 November 2012 - 10:28 AM
We have a beautiful but messy jacaranda tree in the backyard, which is currently shedding lavender flowers everywhere that have bees buzzing around, and my two (5 and 3) are barefoot at home, inside and out. I never wear shoes at home either. DD has been stung once with no reaction and DS is on his way to a sting, he keeps chasing the bees, but I'm not worried. DH on the other hand always wears shoes (and socks) and thinks we're strange.
Short answer team you!
Posted 22 November 2012 - 10:32 AM
Team him, I freak out if DD wants to go outside with no shoes on. It's not bees that worry me, it's sharp rocks, glass, bindis, etc that might hurt to step on.
To be fair though, I HATE stepping on things and rarely have bare feet myself.
Posted 22 November 2012 - 10:33 AM
Team you. Plus I believe that it's better for foot muscle development to have maximum shoe-free time. I'm sure someone medical can give you some proper info on this
Posted 22 November 2012 - 10:34 AM
Hmm I agree that the chance of a bee sting from being barefoot in grass when there are no flowers present in the grass is pretty minor, but I also understand your DH's perspective due to his own allergy. What about a compromise? some easy to slip on outside shoes? Or go count the number of bees seen in the grass every day for a week. If the answer is 0 - no shoes !
Posted 22 November 2012 - 10:37 AM
I would probably be ok with the kids outside without shoes in the grass like that, but we have an ant issue at the moment so am more worried about that! Ant bites are so painful!
Posted 22 November 2012 - 10:38 AM
Bees here in Australia do not purposly go out of their way to sting you! We don't have killer bees & in fact australian native bees have no stingers at all.
I'm on team you - the bees will get out of their way.
Mind you, if you have a large patch of bindi's, then it's shoes on all the way - extracting prickles from the feet of a wriggly 18 month old is a nightmare.
Posted 22 November 2012 - 10:41 AM
Surely they could still get stung elsewhere even with socks and shoes on. If its going to happen it's going to happen.
Posted 22 November 2012 - 10:44 AM
Edited by *SnowFlower*, 20 February 2013 - 05:20 PM.
Posted 22 November 2012 - 10:49 AM
Team you. I can't keep shoes on either of my two anyway
Posted 22 November 2012 - 10:50 AM
Not allergic myself, but my mum was and I remember she told me about when she was stung, she basicly had a 2nd head on her shoulders.
Also dog bones, big bits are easy to miss but the shards DD wont see and they will slice her.
I also hate the sight of bare feet. Summer can be a nightmare for me
Posted 22 November 2012 - 10:51 AM
Team him. And make sure that they have long pants, long tops, preferably a skivvy. Best to leave no skin uncovered I'm afraid. You can never be too sure about bees, evil little bastards that they are. Better yet, get the kids to carry a fly swat in their back pockets in case they see a bee
Posted 22 November 2012 - 10:52 AM
Team you UNLESS the backyard trees and shrubs were swarming with bees and only because I have a son who is severely allergic to them and has had 3 hospital admissions after being stung.
Aside from that I think bare feet in the grass is a sensation that all kids deserve
Posted 22 November 2012 - 10:55 AM
Edited by soontobegran, 22 November 2012 - 10:56 AM.
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