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Does your cosleeping baby use a lovey/comforter?
Or are you it?


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#1 bjk76

Posted 21 November 2012 - 09:27 PM

Just wondering why DS (19mo) isn't interested in having a lovey/comforter to comfort him when upset or trying to sleep, when other toddlers seem to?  I'm at home with him full time, we breastfeed and co-sleep.

We only started co-sleeping at 6 months, when he stopped sleeping through the night. I tried giving him a lovey before then, but he wasn't interested and only started becoming interested in cuddling soft toys at 12 months, but only for a few seconds at a time.

Whenever he's upset or needs to go to sleep, he comes to me for a cuddle or a breastfeed.

Anyway, was just wondering if this was common in co-sleeping babies? I'm not worried, just curious!

#2 ChickenortheEgg?

Posted 21 November 2012 - 09:36 PM

Ds has a few but Dh or myself are used as his comforters.

#3 Charlie & Lola

Posted 21 November 2012 - 09:38 PM

I also cosleep and breastfeed with my toddler. He is 28 months. He is the first of my 3 children not to have a comforter - the older 2 did not cosleep or breastfeed for as long.

#4 Red Cabbage

Posted 21 November 2012 - 09:42 PM

He does have a comforter... you!

Some kids just don't have that need or requirement for it.

I have 6 kids, first had a flat out bear, second had 400 odd dummies, third had a ripped pillowslip, fourth had nothing, 5th had taggie and 6th has me. (or my boobs to be more precise.)

I breast feed and co sleep with the 6th, did with the others but just not as long as this little boy who won't take a bottle or dummy.

Edited by Red Cabbage, 21 November 2012 - 09:42 PM.


#5 katrina24

Posted 21 November 2012 - 09:42 PM

Neither of my kids co slept but they also never wanted a comforter. They did both suck their thumbs and this was their comfort though.

#6 Chazee

Posted 21 November 2012 - 09:43 PM

None of my children have ever been interested in comforters.

My first i never really co-slept with, she slept through the night quite early on. My last 3 i've either co-slept or fed through the night when they woke.

Perhaps DD1 just wasn't interested in comforters and the last 3 have used me as the comforter!

#7 lizzzard

Posted 21 November 2012 - 09:45 PM

I always thought a lovey was essentially a substitute attachment that children develop to comfort themselves when their mum isn't around...but if you are always available, then your DS probably hasn't had an impetus to establish an attachment to such an item. Not sure if this theory is right or not, but it seemed to describe our situation - DD only developed an attachment to her comfort item when I went back to work and stopped co-sleeping.

#8 LibbyCo

Posted 06 December 2012 - 01:04 AM

Haha you are the comforter! If you have that body heat beside you, why would you need one? Maybe look into getting a down comforter down the road as you can get combi ones which have different togs on different sides. That could ease your little one into sleeping with a duvet

#9 erindiv

Posted 06 December 2012 - 01:08 AM

DD's comforter was (and still is) her thumb.

DS prefers a dummy.

They have their objects that they like such as a favourite soft toy, but they can and do sleep without them.

#10 BadgerBasher

Posted 06 December 2012 - 01:42 AM

I have a dummy fiend. She's fond of her teddy, but teddy is no replacement for dummy.


#11 ausmumof2

Posted 06 December 2012 - 06:37 AM

Mine haven't, although DS developed an attachment to a bear after I weaned him at around 2 and a half.  As others have said, comforter tend to be a stopgap for when Mum's not available so if you are available you'll be the preferred comforter!

#12 Guest_Sunnycat_*

Posted 06 December 2012 - 04:44 PM

My DS uses my bloody boob as his comforter. Wish he'd t ake a freaking dummy.

#13 mum201

Posted 10 December 2012 - 02:01 PM

My left boob!

#14 iwanttosleepin

Posted 15 December 2012 - 02:23 AM

DS1 had a dummy until about the age of 2 years old and needed some form of soft toy but it didn't matter what it was. he could take it or leave it though!

DS2 also had a dummy but he has a favourite toy that he must sleep with.  He got it at about 12 months of age and it was a cheap ikea soft toy.  He actually had 2 that i switched between.  he still has it at 4 years old.  he isn't allowed to take it out or to school but if i am sneaky and want him to fall asleep (on couch or in car) i give it to him and hey presto - sleep!  funny thing that i thought it would have to be an old smelly one but last week i bought 2 new ones to give to his best buddies who are moving away and he decided the new ones were heaps softer than the old one and chucked the old one in the bin.



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