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Does anyone else NOT do Christmas presents for teachers?
I just never have - not being mean - I just haven't done it.


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#1 jm3

Posted 21 November 2012 - 07:36 PM

My daughter is nearly finished primary school and we've never bought a gift for the teacher.
I've always had good relationships with her teachers but I never would have thought it necessary to buy them a gift.
These threads each year make me feel bad but I still don't really think it's necessary and I'd hate to think that I'm the only parent who doesn't do it....


#2 luke's mummu

Posted 21 November 2012 - 07:40 PM

At our school, 1 of the parents usually volunteers to arrange a collection of $10 per child to by the teacher a gift voucher or present. Not everyone in the class participates - maybe 3 or 4 don't. I have no idea whether they can't afford it o choose not to, and I certainly don't judge the child by it.

#3 Expelliarmus

Posted 21 November 2012 - 07:40 PM

OP, most families don't do a teacher present.

#4 CFMummy

Posted 21 November 2012 - 07:41 PM

I wont unless that teacher was exeptional in how my child is taught or mentored

#5 jm3

Posted 21 November 2012 - 07:42 PM

QUOTE (howdo @ 21/11/2012, 08:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
OP, most families don't do a teacher present.


Ok, thank you.


#6 **Tiger*Feral**

Posted 21 November 2012 - 07:43 PM

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Edited by Tyrone Finkelmeyer, 26 March 2013 - 08:56 PM.


#7 sweetmango

Posted 21 November 2012 - 07:44 PM

Almost 20 years of having children at school and have never once bought a teacher gift.

My daughter is a teacher and there is no expectations to receive them.

Edited by takingitback, 21 November 2012 - 09:43 PM.


#8 brazen

Posted 21 November 2012 - 07:47 PM

wow, i had no idea!

that said 2 of my kids are quite a handful so a small gift of gratitude never goes astray! (usually we give something homemade, it's sentiment not value. last year we did give a gift voucher to ryan's teacher because she had been exceptional with him)

PS: i even give a small gift to the DP and any teachers who might have helped out with them, plus the LSA's etc lol

Edited by brazen, 21 November 2012 - 07:48 PM.


#9 JapNFeral

Posted 21 November 2012 - 07:49 PM

QUOTE (howdo @ 21/11/2012, 08:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
OP, most families don't do a teacher present.

That isn't the case at our school. Most years its a group pressie for both kids' year levels and the majority kick in.


#10 ~Jodama_Feral~

Posted 21 November 2012 - 07:57 PM

QUOTE (howdo @ 21/11/2012, 08:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
OP, most families don't do a teacher present.


Not at our school either Some parents who are closer pool money and get a bigger present and most of the others get small gifts. I like to give a present with a note of thanks for all they have done for my child.

#11 nomazoca

Posted 21 November 2012 - 07:59 PM

QUOTE (JAPN2 @ 21/11/2012, 08:49 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
That isn't the case at our school. Most years its a group pressie for both kids' year levels and the majority kick in.


In our school too. Sometimes group sometimes individul

#12 Jembo

Posted 21 November 2012 - 08:00 PM

Never have done it, if the kids want to thank their teacher they are free to make a card or something at home.

This year, DS2 kindy class someone decided that they should buy a coffee machine for the entire kindy and asked everyone to put in for it  and according to said parent, it is not optional, she is ticking your name off and asking for donations of $10- $20 - needless to say I am avoiding her like the plague original.gif

#13 LynnyP

Posted 21 November 2012 - 08:14 PM

I am sure it varies from school to school and region to region.  I don't think anyone is an expert about everything in the education system!

We have always done it. My daughters school bristles with people bringing in presents from ECC to Year 12.

#14 No One

Posted 21 November 2012 - 08:44 PM

I don't do it.  If someone from our school/class organized a joint present, i would contribute, but no one ever has.

Honestly, i feel as thought i already buy enough presents, for my own kids, my parents, my nieces/nephews, etc.  By the time i buy gifts for all the teachers (DS1 and DD1 have 2 teachers each), kindy teachers, childcare workers, etc...i'm going to be seriously broke.

#15 eilca

Posted 21 November 2012 - 08:51 PM

Absolutely varies from school to school, region to region and family to family.  I don't think anyone could make a blanket statement about if most families do or don't do gifts for the teachers.

I do for my daughters'  teachers.  But the power is in writing a personal message.  My message has varied from "Merry Christmas" to thank you letters for being inspirational.

#16 wildflowers

Posted 21 November 2012 - 08:59 PM

I have always given a gift even if I haven't really liked the teacher.  My dd was determined to give one teacher a gift even though I didn't lthe teacher, it doesn't have to be expensive. I keep telling my children that it is about thanking the teacher.

#17 Taff

Posted 21 November 2012 - 10:08 PM




No, I'm the odd one out in my ds class.

every parent in my ds class  buys gifts( wine, choc's ) for the teacher on the last day - I don't..

last year I gave Ds's teacher a card (and wrote my feelings in it - from the heart - thanking her for all of her work .she was ( and is) a really good teacher - I  really wish all teachers were like her!) .This year’s  teacher - ,she'll be lucky if she gets the chewing gum off the  bottom of my shoe that I have stepped on  


Kind regards


#18 Phascogale

Posted 21 November 2012 - 10:09 PM

I avoid giving gifts.  I think one year my daughter gave her teacher some chocolates because we had spares and she saw them.

However I will always write a card and I get the kids to write something too.  I hope this means more to the teacher than a box of chocolates that's eaten and forgotten.

I don't like the group present.  If I'm going to give something I prefer it be something relevant and meaningful to the teacher from the child who's giving it.  Not just some random thing.

#19 Funwith3

Posted 21 November 2012 - 10:13 PM



QUOTE (howdo @ 21/11/2012, 08:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
OP, most families don't do a teacher present.


I disagree. In fact, out of my various circles of friends, I can't think of anyone who DOESN'T give the teacher a Christmas present. It doesn't have to be expensive or take all weekend to bake. I think its just a nice way of saying "thank you for teaching my child, I appreciate your efforts".

Also, my sister is a teacher... she says there are always only a couple who don't give her a gift. Not that she minds, she says the chocolate is never ending on the last day of term 4.

#20 bakesgirls

Posted 21 November 2012 - 10:13 PM

I have never done gifts to teachers. If my kids want to say thanks to the teacher, they are free to make them a nice card and write something inside it.

#21 Feral Grey Mare

Posted 21 November 2012 - 10:15 PM

We always just gave a homemade card from whichever child it was except the year DS saved his pocket money and bought earrings for his Year 2 teacher because she was beautiful.

#22 fancie

Posted 21 November 2012 - 10:15 PM



I bought/made christmas gifts for each of DD's teachers from Kindergarten until year 6 with one exception.

But, given that I wouldn't have p*ssed on her if she was on fire, I thought it was reasonable that she was not on the receiving end of our gratitude and thanks.







#23 Overtherainbow

Posted 21 November 2012 - 10:18 PM

Get your DD to write a heartfelt card.  It will mean more than any commercial gift.

#24 frozie

Posted 21 November 2012 - 10:20 PM

We are gift givers to teachers and carers at day care.  We usually make something like a shortbread tree or lolly tree and accompany it with some of the personalised stickers for teachers and a different personalised gift for the carers depending on their interests.

My kids love Christmas and we even make up little packages of reindeer food to give to their friends instead of a card and candy cane as they hate candy canes.

#25 aprilrain

Posted 21 November 2012 - 10:26 PM

I do send one as my children want to give one, but under $15.

I think we just gave tiny things when I was growing up (b1970) but I can remember that it was common for children to take homegrown flowers throughout the year and using the old glass vases that the state school classrooms had in the art cupboard. I guess we showed we liked them all year long.

I don't give my dentist a pressie, but I find most teachers have done lots of things for my child that aren't 'pure teaching' and I show my appreciation at the end of the year.




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