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#1 tryingforanother

Posted 20 November 2012 - 10:32 PM

So in the lead up to our first round of IVF, I have started to adjust my diet, taking a multi-vitamin, trying to get more exercise, cutting back on caffiene - all of the recommended things they advise to get my body ready for the treatment.

My DH is on board with doing IVF to the point of wanting another baby and is supportive from that point of view, but is totally uninterested in changing his diet, cutting back on alcohol or taking a men's vitamin.

I've tried pointing him to the research and the recommendations for this stuff, but he doesn't seem to care.  Has anyone else found that their DH was happy to do IVF but didn't want to make any lifestyle changes?

So much of the IVF journey is outside of our control, I feel like diet and alcohol changes are something we can at least improve.  I want to do everything possible, so I can have no regrets that "if only we'd had better diets, cut back on caffiene" etc

Do lifestyle factors like diet, alcohol and caffiene really have a great affect on the success of IVF?

#2 quin

Posted 20 November 2012 - 10:50 PM

I can't comment whether diet etc have an impact on IVF. Perhaps you could point out that it is very costly and if it were to fail, would he still be ok with wondering whether not making a few changes could have had an impact? Or perhaps instead of expecting him to do a big change, perhaps one step at a time. Maybe cutting out just one thing or instead of cutting things out, changing slightly. For example choosing a healthier option. DH and I havent made huge changes to our diet or lifestyle. (That said, out of 5 transfers we have had an ectopic, chemical and 3 negatives) I prefer not to stress myself too much with trying to worry about diet and lifestyle. If drug addicts etc can get pregnant, then lifestyle can't have to much of an effect.

#3 kez71

Posted 20 November 2012 - 11:32 PM

My hubby didn't really want to, but i pointed out the cost factor and how we really should put our all into it and all i was asking was for him to take menevit and fish oil which will both also help his own health whether the IVF works or not and to cut down on alcohol for the month prior. By cutting down, i just meant no binges or getting p*ssed, but he could still have some. As i do most of the cooking and food shopping, i just bought healthy stuff.

I don't know if any changes helped or not, but it felt good to be doing somthing.

for what its worth for yourself, you can also take maca root which is supposed to be a great fertility boost and is a super food. I also took spirulina, royal jelly and coQ10. They are all good egg boosters. After taking them myself I got much better quality embryos. (currently 20 weeks preg)

good luck, I hope your DH can see the light!

Edited by kez71, 21 November 2012 - 12:04 AM.


#4 Jem007

Posted 20 November 2012 - 11:52 PM

Also, don't forget the importance of regular ejaculation in sperm health. The difference this made to  my DH's sperm quality was huge!!

#5 Satay Chicken

Posted 21 November 2012 - 09:02 AM

QUOTE (Jem007 @ 21/11/2012, 12:52 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Also, don't forget the importance of regular ejaculation in sperm health. The difference this made to  my DH's sperm quality was huge!!


I think this is the main thing!!!! And also underwear!!!
http://www.nhs.uk/news/2012/06june/Pages/s...rm-quality.aspx

I do understand your frustration though OP, my DH didn't really make much effort either - he's a pack a day smoker and loves his rum and cokes.  He got good numbers 3 times on different tests so I had to just let it go.
All I can suggest is if you do the shopping, make sure you are buying good quality foods and both eat well.


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