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#1 wonder woman

Posted 19 November 2012 - 11:14 AM

Why does it seem here that it is generally less socially acceptable to like, prefer or praise people for their body (beauty, appearance) rather/more than their mind (knowledge, intelligence, wisdom) or behaviour?

If it's fine to choose form over function for things, why not for people?

Whilst I would work better and enjoy being with a beautiful/intelligent person more than an ugly/intelligent one, to me it's a question of the right balance.

And of course, one can always improve their appearance with makeup, their knowledge with books.


#2 BadCat

Posted 19 November 2012 - 11:21 AM

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I see praise all the time for people who have the pretty but bugger all for people with the smarts.


People choose form over function in people all the time.  That's why the divorce rate is so high.  He was so pretty, pity he turned out to have the intellect of a broom and the personality of a pit viper on crack.

#3 Pull Up A Beanbag

Posted 19 November 2012 - 11:24 AM

QUOTE (BadCat @ 19/11/2012, 11:21 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
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I see praise all the time for people who have the pretty but bugger all for people with the smarts.


People choose form over function in people all the time.  That's why the divorce rate is so high.  He was so pretty, pity he turned out to have the intellect of a broom and the personality of a pit viper on crack.



I've dated primarily "unfortunate looking" men.  None of them have been as ugly as sin, but none of them have been pretty!   I will ALWAYS take a person on their personality.  Of course, it helps that I'm gorgeous, so I get a choice Tounge1.gif

#4 Liv_DrSperm_sh

Posted 19 November 2012 - 11:26 AM

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You should come and work with me OP, I am a nobel prize winning scientist who moonlights as a swimwear model!!

Maybe we should just tell all the "ugly/smart" people to work at home and save all the "pretty/dumb" people the trauma of looking at them?

#5 Walkers

Posted 19 November 2012 - 11:26 AM

QUOTE (wonder woman @ 19/11/2012, 12:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Why does it seem here that it is generally less socially acceptable to like, prefer or praise people for their body (beauty, appearance) rather/more than their mind (knowledge, intelligence, wisdom) or behaviour?

If it's fine to choose form over function for things, why not for people?

Whilst I would work better and enjoy being with a beautiful/intelligent person more than an ugly/intelligent one, to me it's a question of the right balance.

And of course, one can always improve their appearance with makeup, their knowledge with books.

What world are you living in?
Beauty worship is everywhere


#6 BadCat

Posted 19 November 2012 - 11:32 AM

I prefer to work alone lest the blemished visage of a co-worker ruin my day.   tongue.gif

I guess it comes down to whether you have a fascination with the world around you, or shiny things.

Edited by BadCat, 19 November 2012 - 11:32 AM.


#7 Ianthe

Posted 19 November 2012 - 11:32 AM

I only surround myself with beautiful, smart people like myself so I don't understand the question.

#8 ~Nodnol~

Posted 19 November 2012 - 11:34 AM

QUOTE (BadCat @ 19/11/2012, 11:32 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I prefer to work alone lest the blemished visage of a co-worker ruin my day.   tongue.gif

I guess it comes down to whether you have a fascination with the world around you, or shiny things.





#9 aprilrain

Posted 19 November 2012 - 11:34 AM

I don't think it is just beauty. I dislike any naturally occurring attribute being made too much fuss of.

What about intelligent people lording it over people with lower IQ's who find the same work much harder but put more effort in.

People with talent for sport who consider others lesser, but it was just luck they recieved the genetics for it.

I've taught my children that any attribute they have like this was God given and a responsibility to be used for everybodies good, not for just their own glory.

#10 BadCat

Posted 19 November 2012 - 11:34 AM

QUOTE (2handsdon'tspillit @ 19/11/2012, 12:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
What is it, exactly, OP that makes you work better with the beyootiez around?

Because **** me, I'm at work now and the guy in  the office next door is a dish, but it appears that I procrastinate regardless.

Any tips?


You're not working closely enough with him.  Go sit on his lap.  It'll make ALL the difference.

#11 niggles

Posted 19 November 2012 - 11:37 AM

How often are people choosing form over function for things? Form and function maybe but as beautiful as a spherical coffee table might be, nobody is buying it.

People are not objects. I don't have them around for their aesthetic value. There is no real value in aesthetics when it comes to people, except for what we ascribe to it. That can't be said for intellect and behaviour.

I disagree with you wholeheartedly. There is no need to find a balance of brains and beauty in work colleagues and friends. That would be absurd.

#12 ComradeBob

Posted 19 November 2012 - 11:41 AM

QUOTE (Ianthe @ 19/11/2012, 12:32 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I only surround myself with beautiful, smart people like myself so I don't understand the question.

I always knew there was a reason I'm friends with you  original.gif

OP, I have no idea where you'er coming from. We can all name a top model, but how many of us can name a Nobel Prze winning scientist?*

*Livish you are only allowed to answer on the grounds that you will in all probability be the exception that proves the rule  laugh.gif  tongue.gif

#13 FeralFerretOfDoom

Posted 19 November 2012 - 11:42 AM

QUOTE (niggles @ 19/11/2012, 12:37 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
How often are people choosing form over function for things? Form and function maybe but as beautiful as a spherical coffee table might be, nobody is buying it.

People are not objects. I don't have them around for their aesthetic value. There is no real value in aesthetics when it comes to people, except for what we ascribe to it. That can't be said for intellect and behaviour.

I disagree with you wholeheartedly. There is no need to find a balance of brains and beauty in work colleagues and friends. That would be absurd.


Saved me from a whole lot of typing by posting that - ta.



#14 ShamelesslyPooks

Posted 19 November 2012 - 11:42 AM

I think it's coz they jealous of us bewdiful ppl.



#15 Mrs Dinosaurus

Posted 19 November 2012 - 11:44 AM

Wonder Woman making a late grab for 'most ridiculous question posed in 2012'

What about me, I am stunning and very, very good at what I do but very, very, very stupid at virtually everything else. Plus I have a memory the size of a pin. I get distracted by shiny thing and philosophy.

But shiny philosophy is my real area of interest.

Oo, I just saw a pretty dress *flounce*

#16 Liv_DrSperm_sh

Posted 19 November 2012 - 11:45 AM

QUOTE (BobTheKelpie @ 19/11/2012, 12:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I always knew there was a reason I'm friends with you  original.gif

OP, I have no idea where you'er coming from. We can all name a top model, but how many of us can name a Nobel Prze winning scientist?*

*Livish you are only allowed to answer on the grounds that you will in all probability be the exception that proves the rule  laugh.gif  tongue.gif


that's easy! Livs_h is a nobel prize winner and a model!!

#17 Ally'smum

Posted 19 November 2012 - 11:53 AM

QUOTE (wonder woman @ 19/11/2012, 11:14 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Why does it seem here that it is generally less socially acceptable to like, prefer or praise people for their body (beauty, appearance) rather/more than their mind (knowledge, intelligence, wisdom) or behaviour?

If it's fine to choose form over function for things, why not for people?

Whilst I would work better and enjoy being with a beautiful/intelligent person more than an ugly/intelligent one, to me it's a question of the right balance.

And of course, one can always improve their appearance with makeup, their knowledge with books.


Op 1) I hope you don't work in medicine/education/law/science/finance/business/food production.

2) I can't think of a field that I hope you ARE actually working in so hopefully you are just sitting around at home being beautiful.

3) Actually I also hope you are not a parent.

#18 happening

Posted 19 November 2012 - 11:54 AM

I'm torn between Shiney Shiny Shiny http://www.lyrics007.com/Underground%20Vel...s%20Lyrics.html

and Shiny  shiny  http://www.lyricsfreak.com/h/haysi+fantayz...y_20858846.html

And btw there is absolutely nothing wrong me at all, thank you for asking.

If I read a book about make up, I will be even better looking - win//win...

Edited by happening, 19 November 2012 - 11:59 AM.


#19 Starrydawn

Posted 19 November 2012 - 11:57 AM

I know right. You can just like tell by looking at them there's like something like wrong very wrong with them.

#20 BadCat

Posted 19 November 2012 - 11:58 AM

Reminds me of Dirty Dancing:

Jake: Max, our Baby's gonna change the world.
Max:[to Lisa] And what are you gonna do, missy?
Baby: Oh, Lisa's going to decorate it.

It's SO much more important to be decorative.

Edited by BadCat, 19 November 2012 - 11:59 AM.


#21 Nofliesonme

Posted 19 November 2012 - 12:00 PM

Beautiful people are looked at everyday..... I'm struggling with your question OP. what your point exactly???? I'm not Mona Lisa at all so I guess I should be glad I don't work with you. If people took the time to see people for who they are not what they look like it would be a better place.  I am judged for being overweight, I see the way people look at me, the lady walking down town is judged as being hot because she has the prefect looks and body..... But, she may have no personality. To me, I take personality over anything else original.gif

#22 seayork2002

Posted 19 November 2012 - 12:00 PM

Come again???

You mean I am meant to have my face made up for when I hand my husband his slippers when he gets home?

Can you please tell me who the decider of what is beauty is as I always it is presumed to be in the eye of the beholder?

Using him as an example (and no offence to him as a person) I do not see the fuss about Brad Pitt but others do...who is "right"???

It is all madness and I am vey happy I do not wear let alone own makeup not would consider plastic surgery (of any form)

Edited by seayork2002, 19 November 2012 - 12:00 PM.


#23 Jane Jetson

Posted 19 November 2012 - 12:00 PM

QUOTE (wonder woman @ 19/11/2012, 12:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Why does it seem here that it is generally less socially acceptable to like, prefer or praise people for their body (beauty, appearance) rather/more than their mind (knowledge, intelligence, wisdom) or behaviour?

If it's fine to choose form over function for things, why not for people?

Whilst I would work better and enjoy being with a beautiful/intelligent person more than an ugly/intelligent one, to me it's a question of the right balance.

And of course, one can always improve their appearance with makeup, their knowledge with books.


Lolwut?

I suppose I could bang on a bit about how aspects of beauty are culturally derived (though certain rules do hold true, such as symmetry/Golden Mean or ratio) and thus do not hold constant over time and across cultures, whereas dumb and nasty people are dumb and nasty wherever they go. Or that being pretty achieves precisely nothing apart from flogging a few tubes of waxy stuff. But I is pretty so am too dozy to come up with a cogent argument.

#24 Ireckon

Posted 19 November 2012 - 12:05 PM

There is absolutely nothing wrong with me.

I may be breathtakingly beautiful, yet I done has enough smarts to ....what was I saying?

#25 BadCat

Posted 19 November 2012 - 12:08 PM

I feel for you JaneJetson.  Being too pretty to mount a cohesive argument is a curse.  sad.gif

Luckily there is a new product I saw in an infomercial that can help you with that.  It's a kit consisting of a paper bag and a book.  You read the book then put the paper bag over your head, thus adressing the imbalance in your looks to brains ratio.

Simply phone 1800 IMSODUMB and order your kit today.




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