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#1 imamumto3

Posted 18 November 2012 - 06:51 PM

several real estate agents around here personally address their marketing advertising,

ie.  mr and mrs .....
addresss
suburb. state

we have this property for sale, maybe you would like to sell too etc etc.

our house is only in my name, so all council records show me as sole owner, yet all these letters are addressed as above to mr and mrs LAST NAME.  do you think it is rude to assume that I'm a mrs and therefore address their letters that way?  it's not something I loose sleep over, I'm just curious!

#2 Melidia

Posted 18 November 2012 - 06:56 PM

Not rude, but odd.  Especially if it's clear there is only one property owner.  shrug.gif

#3 Libster

Posted 18 November 2012 - 06:56 PM

Nah I'd just think they were being lazy.

#4 **Tiger*Feral**

Posted 18 November 2012 - 07:00 PM

I wouldn't pay much attention, they are just trying to create sales.
It's different if it's someone you actually know sends things with the wrong salutation.

#5 KatakaGeoGirl

Posted 18 November 2012 - 07:04 PM

Considering now that we've rented for 7 years and had similar letters wherever we've lived, I assume they aren't really looking into intimate details. It doesn't take long to get addresses from white pages online. I guess there are no spamming rules for mail to be sent to you - only email spam.

#6 cinnabubble

Posted 18 November 2012 - 07:13 PM

Lazy and grounds for not listing with them. I'm the only name on the title and I'm not Mrs anyone, so it'd p*ss me off.

#7 Team Awesome

Posted 18 November 2012 - 07:47 PM

Every 3-6 months I get a phone call from a real estate saying we're on their list of people who had been enquiring for houses and wanting to know if we were still looking to buy in the area.

We bought our home from this real estate almost 4 years ago. I've told them so every time suggested they remove my name from this list as we're happy here wink.gif but 3-6 months later I get another phone call.

I'm also on another list with the same real estate which gets phone calls and letters asking I we'd like to sell the house. They started just over a month after we bought the house wink.gif bright buttons aren't they?

#8 feral fembo bull

Posted 18 November 2012 - 08:54 PM

Well yes, I do think that sexism is rude.

Telemarketers who call me Mrs Kitteh on the phone get short shrift on the same principle.

I would be inclined to contact them and let them know that if and when you do decide to sell it will be through an agency that isn't living in a Stepford Wives' timewarp.

But I'm not in a very good mood this evening ph34r.gif

#9 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 18 November 2012 - 09:06 PM

poor judgement rather than rude.  And probably lazy - they are just covering their bases.

#10 SeaPrincess

Posted 18 November 2012 - 09:33 PM

We got those letters when we were living in rented company-owned housing, so I don't think they get the info from council records.  The only place they could have got our names and that address from was the electoral roll.  We were getting letters in WA from an agent in Qld.

R

#11 Fenrir

Posted 18 November 2012 - 10:07 PM

I wouldn't care TBH. The fact that some random has addressed a letter to me that doesn't reflect my marriage status would be so low on my care factor scale as to be non existent.

Seriously...do people really get their knickers in a twist over it? It's not personal FGS

#12 JaneDoe2010

Posted 19 November 2012 - 06:50 AM

I am surprised that would be a bleep on anyone's radar to be honest.

#13 Cat Burglar

Posted 19 November 2012 - 07:45 AM

I used to get slightly annoyed when living in a share house and you answered a telemarketer and they are like 'oh is that MRS X' (male house mates last name). Id say no sorry and hang up!


I think the OP is saying its the sexist assumptions that are annoying, which I do agree with as its showing how our society still thinks. I also have plenty of married friends who kept their maiden name and dont like being assumed they are 'MRS X' as they chose to keep their name for a reason.



Edited by Soccer Mum, 19 November 2012 - 07:47 AM.


#14 bright*future

Posted 19 November 2012 - 08:05 AM

I find it rude that I get those letters at all, not that they call me Mrs.

#15 Faradaye

Posted 19 November 2012 - 08:16 AM

As someone who worked in the office of a Real Estate office, I can tell you that they probably purchased a database of names and addresses from somewhere, which includes yours.

Every week the sales secretary, who if she was anything like me couldn't stand this part of her job and just got it done as quick as possible because it was boring and fiddly and repetitive, uses mail merge to put the details of the lucky chosen into a template document that is printed, signed and posted to you.

Believe me, there is no more thought in it than that.  And possibly no way to tell from the purchased database if the residents of the property are male, female, married, de facto, alien or human.  So they slap in a generic 'Mr & Mrs' and hope it fits the majority of recipients.

To be honest, if I got mail addressed incorrectly to me in this manner, it would go in the bin and I would never waste my time thinking about it ever again.  My precious brain cells are reserved for far more important issues.

#16 Bel Rowley

Posted 19 November 2012 - 09:58 AM

QUOTE (The Gentle Kitteh @ 18/11/2012, 09:54 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Well yes, I do think that sexism is rude.

Telemarketers who call me Mrs Kitteh on the phone get short shrift on the same principle.

I would be inclined to contact them and let them know that if and when you do decide to sell it will be through an agency that isn't living in a Stepford Wives' timewarp.

But I'm not in a very good mood this evening ph34r.gif

I'm with the Kitteh.

Patriachal assumptions p*ss me off, they are a big blip on my radar because they happen ALL THE TIME. I am not a Mrs anything, I have a different surname to my husband and I wish people would respect that. My husband and I are joint owners of our house, I expect any correspondence to be addressed to Mr D___ and Ms S____.

#17 #YKG

Posted 19 November 2012 - 11:13 AM

I find these kind of mailings amusing. My parents own their house but when I lived at home I would get mail from local REA's going on about choosing them to sell. I didn't own the property.

From Latrobe Uni near my parents house last year I got a letter that said "Dear Miss YKG, Help your child attain a great ATAR to ensure they get into the Latrobe course of their dreams, come to our Open day"  I was 26  and where I got a 17/18 year old child I have no freaking idea I was a REALLY young mum. I called them in regards to the letter and he person I spoke to was very apologetic. It started a long running joke though.

There is also this mail company that every christmas sends me mail on how to make my childs christmas special. It's the one that you order plates, bags, bottles, lables with your childs name on it.

So according to random records I am 27 own a house, have a 17/18 year old and also a child in primary school. I'm doing well lol

#18 seayork2002

Posted 19 November 2012 - 12:07 PM

I doubt in this day and age that there is a person beghind it rather than being computer generated, so no I just find them all annoying!

#19 Fenrir

Posted 19 November 2012 - 01:00 PM

QUOTE
Well yes, I do think that sexism is rude.

Telemarketers who call me Mrs Kitteh on the phone get short shrift on the same principle.

I would be inclined to contact them and let them know that if and when you do decide to sell it will be through an agency that isn't living in a Stepford Wives' timewarp.

QUOTE
Patriachal assumptions p*ss me off, they are a big blip on my radar because they happen ALL THE TIME. I am not a Mrs anything, I have a different surname to my husband and I wish people would respect that. My husband and I are joint owners of our house, I expect any correspondence to be addressed to Mr D___ and Ms S____.

You do realise it's not personal don't you. There isn't some nasty little Gollum creature sitting behind a computer tapping their little frog like fingers mumbling "Let's see who we can offend today my preciousssss."

So much angst wasted on a simple mistake that can be corrected with a simple smile and a "I'm Ms So and So" rather than causing the person embarrassment.

QUOTE
As someone who worked in the office of a Real Estate office, I can tell you that they probably purchased a database of names and addresses from somewhere, which includes yours.

Every week the sales secretary, who if she was anything like me couldn't stand this part of her job and just got it done as quick as possible because it was boring and fiddly and repetitive, uses mail merge to put the details of the lucky chosen into a template document that is printed, signed and posted to you.

Believe me, there is no more thought in it than that. And possibly no way to tell from the purchased database if the residents of the property are male, female, married, de facto, alien or human. So they slap in a generic 'Mr & Mrs' and hope it fits the majority of recipients.

To be honest, if I got mail addressed incorrectly to me in this manner, it would go in the bin and I would never waste my time thinking about it ever again. My precious brain cells are reserved for far more important issues.

Exactly.

#20 Bel Rowley

Posted 19 November 2012 - 01:21 PM

QUOTE (Beautiful Warlock @ 19/11/2012, 02:00 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
You do realise it's not personal don't you. There isn't some nasty little Gollum creature sitting behind a computer tapping their little frog like fingers mumbling "Let's see who we can offend today my preciousssss."

It doesn't need to be personal to p*ss me off. The fact that it's an automatic computer-generated assumption makes me more annoyed.

#21 MuppetGirl

Posted 19 November 2012 - 01:29 PM

It is unwanted marketing...so yeah I find it rude, but not because of the way it is addressed.

#22 VioletRose

Posted 19 November 2012 - 01:33 PM

Junk mail addressed incorrectly doesn't worry me. It's going in the recycling whether my name is correct or not.
Mail from my DP's family addressed to Mr and Mrs DP does get an eye roll.

#23 Tigerdog

Posted 19 November 2012 - 01:36 PM

I think they're wasting their time if they're looking to win you over with the personal touch when it's so obvious they haven't even done their research properly! happy.gif




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