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#1 SkyeMummy

Posted 18 November 2012 - 06:22 PM

A perfectly normal acting and looking woman knocks on your door one day with her 3 children 9, 6 and 3 G, B, G and says -
I live in the street behind you and my son has been desperate to play with your boys after hearing and seeing them playing at the front of your house. Is it ok if he plays with your boys? I'm going to sit here for a little while to make sure he's ok, do you mind?

#2 LynnyP

Posted 18 November 2012 - 06:24 PM

I would think her children wanted to play with my children?

It would probably be better for her to pop around alone first to set up a time though.

#3 ~iMum~

Posted 18 November 2012 - 06:26 PM

I would think what a brave woman she is to take the initiative. I'd also look upon it as an opportunity to get to know my neighbours and make new friends.

#4 Escapin

Posted 18 November 2012 - 06:26 PM

I'd think 'fabulous! New friends all round!' original.gif

#5 BetteBoop

Posted 18 November 2012 - 06:26 PM

I'd think lucky you. There are no kids around me, but if there were I would probably be knocking on their door asking if DD could have a play date.

There are lots of advantages in being friendly with neighbours with kids. I would pursue it with vigour and vim.

#6 LambChop

Posted 18 November 2012 - 06:29 PM

QUOTE
I'd think 'fabulous! New friends all round!'


Same!

I'd chuck on the kettle and have a good old yack, I love meeting the neighbours, especially if there are kids similar age.

#7 BadCat

Posted 18 November 2012 - 06:29 PM

There are  ways to phrase her request that would have sounded better but ulimately I don't have a problem with it.  I would have introduced myself and asked her to sit and have a chat over coffee while the kids got to know each other.

Edited by BadCat, 18 November 2012 - 06:30 PM.


#8 EsmeLennox

Posted 18 November 2012 - 06:29 PM

I would think it was great!

#9 Cuddlesnkisses

Posted 18 November 2012 - 06:31 PM

I'd think she is totally scoping out your house so she can break in when your not home.

#10 auldlangsyne

Posted 18 November 2012 - 06:33 PM

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Edited by auldlangsyne, 03 March 2013 - 04:42 PM.


#11 Shellby

Posted 18 November 2012 - 06:39 PM

Heck my neighbour just put a ladder against the fence and the kids climbed over, I think someone coming over first would have been nicer. I would have issue with what she did and I would have invited her inside for a coffee.


#12 readyandraring

Posted 18 November 2012 - 06:45 PM

I think that is great and as the others said, that takes guts!

This happens a lot here in Singapore, as an expat you have to put yourself out there so you can make friends and not go crazy! I made a great friend sheltering from a storm at McDonalds!

Did you say Yes?

#13 Miranda Grace

Posted 18 November 2012 - 06:52 PM

If I lived in the house and the other mother door knocked, I think I would say something along the lines of ' fantastic, the kids are always keen to play, but can't do today, how about next weekend' to give me a chance to get my head around it. I would much prefer the kids to just come over though. Not sure if I could offer a cuppa straight up, but I'm kind of shy.


#14 Buggylicious

Posted 18 November 2012 - 07:20 PM

I'd think great, I'm guessing it's you that's planning to do it maybe reword your last sentence a little.

#15 B-B-M

Posted 18 November 2012 - 07:29 PM

I'd think it a bit strange (only because i'm pretty shy so it wouldn't be something i'd do!) but before i could say much more i'd probably be shoved out the way as my two girls would no doubt be wanting to make a new friend!

Then i'd offer coffee - even though i'm shy i'm a great hostess if someone else breaks the ice  wink.gif

#16 SkyeMummy

Posted 18 November 2012 - 07:38 PM

Not actually me, one of my friends. But she replied similar to Miranda Grace as she was a little taken aback at the time.

I also said I don't see the harm and with a pre arranged time for a play date it could be the start of a new friendship  happy.gif

#17 Propaganda

Posted 18 November 2012 - 07:39 PM

I'd imagine they were hoping their children could make neighbourhood friends.

I'd be okay with it, so long as they didn't expect to dump their kids on me regularly.

#18 Awesome101

Posted 18 November 2012 - 07:47 PM

My street is like this. We met all our neighbours though our kids playing together. I personally wouldnt have brought my kids around like that as it may not have been a good time for you. I would have waited until the kids were out playing and introduced ourselves and arranged a better time to come back or invited you and your kids around to mine.

#19 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 18 November 2012 - 07:53 PM

QUOTE (Miranda Grace @ 18/11/2012, 06:52 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
If I lived in the house and the other mother door knocked, I think I would say something along the lines of ' fantastic, the kids are always keen to play, but can't do today, how about next weekend' to give me a chance to get my head around it.

TBH, as much as I would like to think I would fling open the door and say "What took you so long - come on in!", I'd probably do the above.  

If I was doing the introduce-myself-and-kids-routine for an instant playdate, I'd probably say something along the lines of
QUOTE (SkyeMummy @ 18/11/2012, 06:22 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hi. My name is EagerMum. I live in the street behind you and my son has been desperate to play with your boys after hearing and seeing them playing at the front of your house. Is it Would it be ok if he plays with your boys? They can either come over to our place or my son can visit you, whatever you'd prefer.  And I am happy to hang around for the first couple of playdates until we see how the boys play together.  How does that sound? I'm going to sit here for a little while to make sure he's ok, do you mind?

I work on the principle that I'm likely to get knocked back, but no harm in asking.

My girls often make instant friends with kids at the park.  There have been two occasions where I seemed to get along really well with the other mum while the kids were playing, so I have offered my mobile number and said "Please give me a call if your child would like another playdate.  This has been fun."  Both times I have been called back about a week later.  I think that's great.  But it is so nerve-wracking because I felt like such a nerd desperate for friends (which I was)

Edited by YodaTheWrinkledOne, 18 November 2012 - 07:54 PM.


#20 WYSIWYG

Posted 18 November 2012 - 08:16 PM

Heh when I was a kid we just jumped the fence blush.gif

Anyway I would be perfectly OK with it, maybe a bit surprised and caught off guard, but I know what it's like, DD1 always hears the kids next door and used to constantly ask to play with them. I just didnt because 1) they were in their backyard and 2) I had tried initiating something with their mother but she was quite obviously not interested (probably because she was going through a marriage breakdown at the time, I had no idea but maybe she thought I did know and was taking pity on her, I hope not blush.gif)

#21 FiveAus

Posted 18 November 2012 - 08:34 PM

I think it's lovely. People lead such busy and insulated lives these days, and quite often don't even know their neighbours names.
How nice to hear of someone taking the initiative to make friends.

#22 EBeditor

Posted 18 November 2012 - 08:52 PM

It wouldn't be all that unusual in my neighbourhood. People introduce themselves in the street all the time and invite eachother into their front yards for a play which often leads a friendship forming between the adults.

#23 Jembo

Posted 18 November 2012 - 08:57 PM

I would say sure come on in would you like a cuppa and not think anything of it.  If we had no other kids we knew in our area I would probably do similar (maybe not have knocked on door but definateyl would have approached if seen them out).

#24 Squeekums Da Feral

Posted 18 November 2012 - 09:03 PM

What I thought would depend on where I lived.
Bad, rough area, would spook me and I would be uncomfortable, more than likely make excuse as to why im saying no.
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Nice area, still a little spooked but more willing to give it a go.
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Yes VERY judgemental I know, but ive lived in some dodgy areas to have had first hand experiance of you keep to yourself, its safer.




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