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#1 big-mummy

Posted 18 November 2012 - 01:02 PM

didnt think Id be here and especially with the death of my husband. My beautiful DH had a very serious car accident in May which resulting in head injuries and multiple injuries. He then had surgery and alot of rehab. He then slipped into a depression that no-one was able to assist him with. He attempted suicide a few months back in our family home which was a real shock, we took this a cry for help and sent him to a private hospital for help, unfortunately the mental health system in NSW and probably all of Australia failed him and he was discharged after the psychiatrist said he was remorseful and not a risk of attempting again. Well 3 weeks on he snuck out of the house at night and was successful this time.
Ive lost my best friend, lover and soul mate, we where meant to grow old together, he has left behind his 2 beautiful kids DS8 and DD6, surprisingly they are coping quite well and Im keeping myself busy but i cant believe I will never see him again. Im so angry and sad at the same time.
Wish I could just rewind back to that horrid night and say "I love You" and please stay with us.
No need for reply just need to express and vent.
Thanks for reading.
BM

#2 Neko NoNo

Posted 18 November 2012 - 01:08 PM

I am so sorry for your loss bigmummy and I can't begin to imagine what you are going through. Thinking your and your son and daughter

Edited by Kate-ko, 18 November 2012 - 01:08 PM.


#3 aidensmum

Posted 18 November 2012 - 01:08 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss. Couldn't not reply.

#4 kadoodle

Posted 18 November 2012 - 01:11 PM

I'm so sorry sad.gif

#5 Ferelsmegz

Posted 18 November 2012 - 01:11 PM

I'm so so sorry for your loss big mummy xoxo

#6 Maple Leaf

Posted 18 November 2012 - 01:11 PM

I am very sorry to hear of your loss. sad.gif

#7 trebambinibelli

Posted 18 November 2012 - 01:11 PM

I don't belong in here but had to stop by and say that I'm sending prayers and strength your way.  I'm so sorry about the loss of your DH sad.gif

#8 kiwi-girl

Posted 18 November 2012 - 01:12 PM

I'm so sorry for the experiences that you and your family have had to go through this year. My thoughts are with you

#9 greypink

Posted 18 November 2012 - 01:12 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss, thinking of you and your children at this time

#10 oliversmum

Posted 18 November 2012 - 01:13 PM

I also couldn't not reply, I'm so terribly sorry for your families awful loss, I cried when l read your post. Thinking of you   .....your story is so tragic

#11 Ianthe

Posted 18 November 2012 - 01:21 PM

I'm so sorry.

#12 Romeo Void

Posted 18 November 2012 - 01:24 PM

The idea of loosing DP makes my heart clench, I'm so so sorry this has happened to you.  You and your children are in my thoughts.

#13 HurryUpAlready

Posted 18 November 2012 - 01:27 PM

Big-mummy, I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband and the kids' daddy.
I'm sure he knew you all loved him.
Take care of yourself. Do you have a support network around you?
Natalie



#14 ~elle~

Posted 18 November 2012 - 01:34 PM

I'm very sorry for your loss. sad.gif

#15 PoshMosh

Posted 18 November 2012 - 01:36 PM

Very sorry for your loss.

#16 Jekaho

Posted 18 November 2012 - 01:42 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers are with you and your children at this devastating time

#17 JuliaGulia

Posted 18 November 2012 - 01:49 PM

That is horrendous OP.  I don't know how you move on from that, but I guess you just have to for your beautiful children.  I wish you peace.

#18 BeachedAsBro

Posted 18 November 2012 - 01:53 PM

I'm so very sorry sad.gif

#19 GoneWithTheWhinge

Posted 18 November 2012 - 01:59 PM

I'm so sorry for you and your families loss.

My thoughts and prayers are with you all through this tragic and dark time whilst you have to come to terms with such an awful event.

#20 calimum

Posted 18 November 2012 - 02:05 PM

So very sorry to hear of this tragedy, hugs to you and your children

#21 petals1

Posted 18 November 2012 - 02:07 PM

I am so sorry too. Having been in a similar situation all I can say is - You can move on and you will . Try not to think too much at the moment about things. Just do the essentials. Look after your children. Its an awful time but you will get through it. hugs .

#22 Aribika

Posted 18 November 2012 - 02:08 PM

So very very sorry for your loss.

Lorraine

#23 Taystee

Posted 18 November 2012 - 02:11 PM

Oh love, I am so sorry for your loss. xx

#24 cardamom

Posted 18 November 2012 - 02:15 PM

I'm so very sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself.

Edited by cardamom, 18 November 2012 - 02:15 PM.


#25 BadCat

Posted 18 November 2012 - 02:15 PM

I'm so sorry.  My thoughts are with you.




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