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#1 MrsMammaB

Posted 18 November 2012 - 08:31 AM

I feel terrible being such a whinger because I love DD so much but need to just have a quick vent.

Why did I get the baby who hates the pram, hates the car seat, hates the swing?? I have to wear her everywhere.
Shes 3 months and feeding every 2 hours during the day. I have tried expressing so I can have a bit of a break but just cant get any out. Tried manual and electric.  

I know the answer. Its just the baby Ive been dealt but feel better having a whine about it.



#2 indigo~

Posted 18 November 2012 - 08:42 AM

I can sympathise OP.

I have one just like it...except she hates the carrier too at the moment, so I have to hold her in my arms all day long.

#3 MrsMammaB

Posted 18 November 2012 - 09:07 AM

QUOTE (indigo~ @ 18/11/2012, 09:42 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I can sympathise OP.

I have one just like it...except she hates the carrier too at the moment, so I have to hold her in my arms all day long.



You may have tried but we had an ergo which she was ok sometimes in but since swapping to a hugabub she loves it. Good luck with everything else too!

#4 Mum2TwoDSs

Posted 18 November 2012 - 09:20 AM

I find it puzzling how many moms with good supply can't get anything out at pumping. Is it due to the pump you are using? Which one are you using may I ask? I just read about wrong pump shield size may affect output.

I am not sure if I will expect DS2 to be like this anytime soon. I def don't have a good back to be baby wearing.  They say babies always fuss and cry for a reason/reasons...but sometimes it seems like they do that for no apparent reason that I can think of.

The only thing that seems to bother my DS2 and make him fuss most right now is wind in the tummy so sometimes there is the need to burp him even in the middle of a sleep. i find thats when he wants carrying, and carrying uupright. It's pretty easy to determine when he's hungry and has a full nappy or if he has done a poo, but if I have got everything checked and if he stil fusses, I would assume its wind or gas.

I know you are talking about DD wanting to be carried all the time. Do you have any idea what's causing that, or is it just a phase?

Sorry I don't seem to contribute any advice.

Edited by Mum2TwoDSs, 18 November 2012 - 09:21 AM.


#5 MrsMammaB

Posted 18 November 2012 - 09:30 AM

QUOTE (Mum2TwoDSs @ 18/11/2012, 10:20 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I find it puzzling how many moms with good supply can't get anything out at pumping. Is it due to the pump you are using? Which one are you using may I ask? I just read about wrong pump shield size may affect output.

I am not sure if I will expect DS2 to be like this anytime soon. I def don't have a good back to be baby wearing.  They say babies always fuss and cry for a reason/reasons...but sometimes it seems like they do that for no apparent reason that I can think of.

The only thing that seems to bother my DS2 and make him fuss most right now is wind in the tummy so sometimes there is the need to burp him even in the middle of a sleep. i find thats when he wants carrying, and carrying uupright. It's pretty easy to determine when he's hungry and has a full nappy or if he has done a poo, but if I have got everything checked and if he stil fusses, I would assume its wind or gas.

I know you are talking about DD wanting to be carried all the time. Do you have any idea what's causing that, or is it just a phase?

Sorry I don't seem to contribute any advice.


I've tried an Avent manual and an Ameda Purely Yours electric. I've read that some woman just cant pump?? Bubs is putting on enough weight so I know its there but the pump just doesn't stimulate it like DD does.  

I think shes just a velcro baby! Likes to be held and near to me.

#6 MrsMammaB

Posted 18 November 2012 - 09:33 AM

Its crazy how different babies are. I have 4 girlfriends with babies 3 weeks apart (thats crazy in itself!).
One is exactly the same as mine and the others are the crusiest kids. Happy to be left hanging out under their play mat, sitting in the pram, sleeping in the car.. doesnt help to compare I know.

#7 Natttmumm

Posted 18 November 2012 - 09:39 AM

I know how you feel. DD1 was like that. I often thought why me!

She is older now and the sweetest, easiest little girl. She is very close to me too.

Its all worth it. Just remind yourself as much as you can that the hardest often ends up the best.

I wouldnt trade DD1 for the world.

#8 Froger

Posted 18 November 2012 - 09:40 AM

Have you tried hand expressing? Sometimes that will work when pumps do not. It can be tricky to get the technique right though. But yes, apparently some women can never express or pump, even though they have good supply.

Are you front carrying only? Maybe try back carry holds if front carry holds are not always so convenient? A back carry allows me to just get on with my day like normal. I have found back carrys to be much more convenient than a front carry in regards to being able to do everyday stuff.

#9 Guest_Sunnycat_*

Posted 18 November 2012 - 09:41 AM



QUOTE (MrsMammaB @ 18/11/2012, 10:30 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I've tried an Avent manual and an Ameda Purely Yours electric. I've read that some woman just cant pump?? Bubs is putting on enough weight so I know its there but the pump just doesn't stimulate it like DD does.  

I think shes just a velcro baby! Likes to be held and near to me.


It's true, some women can't express, I can't and I have always had a good supply, I have friends who are the same.

My DS is a Velcro baby, it can be very tiring. He hates the pram, the cot, used to hate the car. He is 13 months old now and only just started tolerating the pram enough for me to go for walks.

He always wants to be carried or held when out and for the first 7.5 months of his life he didn't want to be carried upright, only cradle held, when he got too heavy for his sling I had to learn to use a woven wrap to carry him so that I could get the two shouldered support to carry him.

He only naps in my arms and I have had to resort to cosleeping as he refused to go in his cot even though it was a side car cot.

That being said he is a delightful little boy, confident and independent.

I've been told it gets easier as they get older.



#10 Mum2TwoDSs

Posted 18 November 2012 - 10:15 AM

QUOTE (MrsMammaB @ 18/11/2012, 10:30 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I've tried an Avent manual and an Ameda Purely Yours electric. I've read that some woman just cant pump?? Bubs is putting on enough weight so I know its there but the pump just doesn't stimulate it like DD does.  

I think shes just a velcro baby! Likes to be held and near to me.


The Ameda is a good one. original.gif

Lets just hope it's a passing phase for your DD. it must be absolutely tiring. I remember carrying DS1 in a carrier too when he was months old to do stuff around the house. It was back breaking when he got heavier. FX DS2 cruises!

#11 meohmy

Posted 18 November 2012 - 10:36 AM

I got two of these  rolleyes.gif

Oldest got better (ie. not hysterical before leaving driveway) in the car about 17 months (was able to talk and much better at understanding what was happening), and pretty ok around 22 months; had her first nap out of my arms around 19/20 months; and got better (still hates it but doesn't shriek) in stroller at 2 years. She still co-sleeps at night but things do pass, just in time to do it all again with the younger who HATES the car, screams blue murder if put down to sleep, hysterical if anywhere near the stroller... least I know it eventually passes and am used to it now, plus I found it easier to go with it and not fight them.

#12 lucky 2

Posted 18 November 2012 - 11:01 AM

I had one like this, I was agrophobic in the end and needed help to get me out of the house when dd was 6 months old, from 3 months onwards she screamed everywhere, pram, car, arms (I didn't have a sling as I have disc problems and pain in my back).
From 3 months onwards she never did sleep in the pram again, not once and continued to scream in the car during her second year of life.
She was down to one sleep a day at 11 months (her choice) so I could get out more then and just keep her happy and entertained, I could go for coffee etc and not have to worry about getting her to sleep or go home.
So in the end it was a bit easier for me from 1yr onwards (except in the car) than other mums as they would have to be fitting in more naps etc.
The worst for this was 3-6 months.
Commiserations to you OP.

#13 soapy

Posted 18 November 2012 - 11:06 AM

DS had to be carried around until he could walk. sad.gif

#14 indigo~

Posted 18 November 2012 - 11:19 AM

I don't know whether to be relieved I'm not alone on this or depressed the phase can last so long!  wacko.gif

#15 BadCat

Posted 18 November 2012 - 11:20 AM

I feel your pain OP. I remember that phase oh so well.  Vent away.  original.gif

Edited by BadCat, 18 November 2012 - 11:21 AM.


#16 MrsMammaB

Posted 18 November 2012 - 11:28 AM

Thanks so much for your posts ladies original.gif Its always nice to feel you're not alone.

DD was a long time in the making so I always feel bad having a whinge about her because Im so so happy we have her in our lives finally.

lucky 2 I'm just forcing myself to go out hoping that she succumbs eventually. I dont know if thats the right or wrong thing to do but I can see how mums find it easier to just stay at home.

indigo~ I thought the same thing, lol!

Sunnycat and soapy I feel for you too! Whilst naps in arms are lovely, its nice to get a break. DD has just started having day naps in her bassinet and the only reason that has worked is that we have totally blacked out one of the rooms. Mind you 40 minutes is the longest she has lasted.

SarahM72 hand expressing gets an even more laughable amount that pumping! Also, Im not sure thats shes old/big ebough to back carry yet?

Edited by MrsMammaB, 18 November 2012 - 11:30 AM.





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